If we had everything planned perfect we would not have even tried till my mom retired which I had miscalculated and thought was last year lol! Now I am wondering when I can manage number two with work since I used all my sick time already and no pay for three months kinds screws all. Wanted to have three right together but financially how will that work? So realistically probably another two years. Keep telling myself not to overthink it though as I'll never have another then.
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So, you know how I mentioned that DH was suddenly thinking we needed to wait a while? Well he recalculated a few things and it looks like we are looking at TTC starting in February. 
Excited/terrified.
Excited/terrified.
We were going to evaluate when Falon hit 18 months but I think we're going to wait until 2 years instead. There's a lot of job and potential move things happening and I just don't feel ready to start trying again. Still kind of sad though, there's a giant baby wave happening all around me and it makes me miss the tiny squish stage.
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Your bump is so cute, Dizzy!
I did belly shots every week, except I missed a few weeks here and there, especially towards the end. I loved being pregnant and I miss it! I don't want another child for at least a couple of years, though! Definitely don't want more than one in diapers at the same time.
She's 6 weeks old and smiley now! AND she's sleeping 6-7 hours straight through every night on average now. It's amazing.
_DSC8237.jpg by Chihuahuaesque, on Flickr
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We went to the beach last week and put her toes in the water!
Toes in the water! by Chihuahuaesque, on Flickr
First beach adventure! by Chihuahuaesque, on Flickr
I did belly shots every week, except I missed a few weeks here and there, especially towards the end. I loved being pregnant and I miss it! I don't want another child for at least a couple of years, though! Definitely don't want more than one in diapers at the same time.
She's 6 weeks old and smiley now! AND she's sleeping 6-7 hours straight through every night on average now. It's amazing.
_DSC8237.jpg by Chihuahuaesque, on Flickr
_DSC8229.jpg by Chihuahuaesque, on Flickr
We went to the beach last week and put her toes in the water!
Toes in the water! by Chihuahuaesque, on Flickr
First beach adventure! by Chihuahuaesque, on Flickr
We also put TTC on hold after back to back family emergencies it might be a long while, a year + til we try again. Waiting does suck, especially when your kid suddenly becomes a huge lanky opinionated toddler and just isn't an infant anymore at all.
it might be a long while, a year + til we try again. Waiting does suck, especially when your kid suddenly becomes a huge lanky opinionated toddler and just isn't an infant anymore at all.
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Yeahhh...but then your opinionated toddler hands you a rock, says "Tatu!" (Thank you!) and your heart melts.
A coworker just had a baby and I squished her this week. I could hear my ovaries screaming. We're still not trying/not preventing.
But in discussing with my coworker, it's clear that in a lot of cases, the newborn period sucks.
Huge.
So much.
Ev screamed for 8 weeks straight.
It was still worth it but I wish someone had prepped me and said how much it might suck and that it's still normal and okay and it will end. So there, preggos. I've now said it. Your baby might cry a ton, but it won't be your fault and you'll still be doing a great job.
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Lillian also says Tatu for thank you when she hands you stuff (all the rocks!). Toddlers do rock, I loveeeee this age! But I miss stuff like her sleeping on me, nursing, and the little firsts like her first laugh...but partially I think I was on a bit of a hormone high earlier on and now I'm my regular unstable self, I guess it's usually the opposite.
Lillian rocked as a newborn! It was like... 3-8 months that was tough. Now the hardest part is keeping her contained and the house not covered in food. I can deal with a "we sit on the couch, not jump on it" tantrum much easier than I can deal with 5 hours of "hold me 75 degrees from your body facing outward walking at a 3 mile per hour pace in a 68 degree room with the lights dimmed" haha
Lillian rocked as a newborn! It was like... 3-8 months that was tough. Now the hardest part is keeping her contained and the house not covered in food. I can deal with a "we sit on the couch, not jump on it" tantrum much easier than I can deal with 5 hours of "hold me 75 degrees from your body facing outward walking at a 3 mile per hour pace in a 68 degree room with the lights dimmed" haha
Thank you guys for your responses and sorry for not replying sooner. I just had to take an internet break for a bit and it definitely helped. It just felt like the rug was going to be ripped away from underneath me for so long... I was an anxious mess.
So.. here I am today, almost at 21 weeks. We had our anatomy scan today and everything checks out perfectly fine. We're having a little boy
Admittedly, I had gender disappointment for about an hour, but I am perfectly fine now. Now it's time to think about some boys name... we already found the perfect girl name... well, now we have to put our thinking caps back on.
I am just glad that he (ha, it's so weird to be able to think in a gender now) is healthy. Now it's time to shop! Ha!
We've picked names and I don't think I'm ever going to be 100% satisfied!!!
My main worry is the boys middle name which my oh really really wants!! I don't know if it's just a bit silly. But he's wanted it forever.
Plus I really like the girls name but not sure if it's a bit weak.
It's such a responsibility!!!!
My main worry is the boys middle name which my oh really really wants!! I don't know if it's just a bit silly. But he's wanted it forever.
Plus I really like the girls name but not sure if it's a bit weak.
It's such a responsibility!!!!
So.. here I am today, almost at 21 weeks. We had our anatomy scan today and everything checks out perfectly fine. We're having a little boy
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Yay!! I am so glad we found out the sex - it made it so much more real for both of us. As we left the appointment Matt started talking about baby names (a topic that he was fairly meh about before). I'm glad that I wasn't the only one with a bit of gender disappointment. I was weirdly sure that Falon was a boy, so it was a shock when she wasn't.
Same here! I was positive Ev was a boy!
And Dizzy, that's just it. I felt so much more pressure to give a girl the perfect name. Strong, unique, but still feminine. My sticking point was I didn't like the spelling "Everly" but "Everleigh" seemed frivolous. Oh well. Too late now.
Same here! I was positive Ev was a boy!
And Dizzy, that's just it. I felt so much more pressure to give a girl the perfect name. Strong, unique, but still feminine. My sticking point was I didn't like the spelling "Everly" but "Everleigh" seemed frivolous. Oh well. Too late now.
And Dizzy, that's just it. I felt so much more pressure to give a girl the perfect name. Strong, unique, but still feminine. My sticking point was I didn't like the spelling "Everly" but "Everleigh" seemed frivolous. Oh well. Too late now.
I had the same issue with Falon's name - I brought it up as a joke because I was SURE Matt wouldn't like it and then it ended up being the only name we both liked. He liked more normal, popular, names and I liked old time hollywood style names. I can't imagine Falon by any other name but she definitely had to grow into it. For the first 6 months or so she went by little girl, baby, or zuzu.
Actually, we both liked Mallory too but with Avery as a middle name and N for the last initial....lol. That would just be mean.
One of our early sticking points was that I don't like the whole "name every boy in this family" such and such name tradition that my husband's family has. (they use it as a middle name) It's not that it is a bad name, but it is a common one, and it's just something I think is silly. (Bestowing a name on a child just because it's what's always been done) But, we ended up coming up with a unique to us name that we both liked (a character from a book my husband really likes) His sister ended up giving her child, born a few months later, the family middle name, so it all worked out
On average it takes about 6 months from what I have heard. DH is convinced that we won't have any trouble and should be prepared for it to work on the first try, but yea, there's def that little bit of worry in my mind about not being able to conceive that easily, hence my push for starting things at 30, "just in case".