Swearing? Your Opinion.
- Thread starter SmexyPibble
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Ah, this is the tricky part as the intention of the person who say the words and the way the listener takes it may be different. How many times have we found ourselves saying "I'm so sorry, I didn't mean for my words to hurt you". You may not intend it, but the other person may still get hurt/bothered/offended by your words.
I personally would never threaten divorce, or tell my husband I cheat on him -just for fun... but if your wife is okay with that, and finds it funny, too - then more power to you both!
To me, using profanity excessively is a bad habit. I'm not so much surprised by the numbers of people who admitted they "cuss like a sailor" (?), as to how many people seem to be so proud of it, and/or trying to defense it, as if it's something good to do.
I personally would never threaten divorce, or tell my husband I cheat on him -just for fun... but if your wife is okay with that, and finds it funny, too - then more power to you both!
To me, using profanity excessively is a bad habit. I'm not so much surprised by the numbers of people who admitted they "cuss like a sailor" (?), as to how many people seem to be so proud of it, and/or trying to defense it, as if it's something good to do.
But see i wasn't "threatening" divorce and she knew that. and when I meet with other attorneys and I tell her I had to cheat on her, she thinks i'm being dumb, i'm the only one that laughs at it. But she knows thru everthing else I do and our relationship that it's not anything to get excited about.
That's what I meant. If you're 100% sure how the other person take your words, then you can say whatever you want, and that is perfectly fine. My husband tells me I'm fat all the time, but I find that endearing instead of insulting 
In case of swearing, when it's used so often, it becomes a habit. A person may says it so casually, he fails to pay attention to how his words are being perceived by others. Not everyone around him at that time may like to hear it. People may not say anything to him about it, but that does not mean they like it.
In case of swearing, when it's used so often, it becomes a habit. A person may says it so casually, he fails to pay attention to how his words are being perceived by others. Not everyone around him at that time may like to hear it. People may not say anything to him about it, but that does not mean they like it.
^^^ This I have a problem with. I've attended some teachings where the master uses words to provoke and then uses the recipients response to illustrate how you are ALLOWING yourself to be controlled by anothers words. Stop it. You have no POWER over anyone; what they say or what they do. We tell people that here on Chazhounds every day; stop letting so and so tell you what to do; stop letting so and so control your life. If you buy in to words empowering others and taking power/control away from you; then yes; that is what words do. If you are willing to acknowledge that other people are in control of their own destiny; and you can either participate or walk away; words are simply sounds. Granted; some sounds resonate on different levels than others; but a lot of that has to do with intent; not utterance. I can say F--- you; and have it be the worst curse on earth; or I can say F--- you; and join arms with you because you are my best friend and you are a turd bird. Both I have done and let me tell you; you will know the difference. There is swearing AT someone and there is simply swearing.
There is a difference between how you interpreted what I said and how I meant it. I never said people aren't in control of their own destinies.
You have just as much power to do all those things for yourself with words as other people have to do to you if you choose to allow them.
I try hard to not let people's words have power over me if what they are saying is negative. I will admit it is something I struggle with.
To me, in my world words are a tangible solid object. I have synesthesia, and when someone speaks a word it is right there before my eyes just as plainly as if they had mooned me, or spit on the ground, or given me a hug, or a bird landed in front of me. I smell it, taste it, see it. I realize not everybody perceives the world that way, but to me that is what it is, and it's real.
You have just as much power to do all those things for yourself with words as other people have to do to you if you choose to allow them.
I try hard to not let people's words have power over me if what they are saying is negative. I will admit it is something I struggle with.
To me, in my world words are a tangible solid object. I have synesthesia, and when someone speaks a word it is right there before my eyes just as plainly as if they had mooned me, or spit on the ground, or given me a hug, or a bird landed in front of me. I smell it, taste it, see it. I realize not everybody perceives the world that way, but to me that is what it is, and it's real.
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Very seldom do I swear, though Nolu has caused me to swear twice already. Tsk tsk.
I don't care if other people cuss. It doesn't bother me one bit so long as they are not being hurtful, as Dekka stated earlier. Although, if it's to the point where every other word is a curse word, I think they sound rather silly.
I don't care if other people cuss. It doesn't bother me one bit so long as they are not being hurtful, as Dekka stated earlier. Although, if it's to the point where every other word is a curse word, I think they sound rather silly.
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I very rarely swear. Usually only when I hurt myself I say f*cker to whatever I hurt myself on. Thats really the only time I swear and it does help the blood pressure, lol. As far as other people who swear, it doesnt bother me, but then again I grew up with parents who cussed with every other word (mainly my father), so I'm used to it.
I've used swear words on here from time to time. Usually when venting about something going on in my personal life just to get off some steam. Dont see anything wrong with it really. Just be careful folks, some members like Red might take offense when someone here uses the F word and clearly state so... but then go say the F word herself in one of her own threads. I've used the word, so I SURELY dont care if someone else uses it...
I've used swear words on here from time to time. Usually when venting about something going on in my personal life just to get off some steam. Dont see anything wrong with it really. Just be careful folks, some members like Red might take offense when someone here uses the F word and clearly state so... but then go say the F word herself in one of her own threads
. I've used the word, so I SURELY dont care if someone else uses it...
Dont see anything wrong with it really. Just be careful folks, some members like Red might take offense when someone here uses the F word and clearly state so... but then go say the F word herself in one of her own threads . I've used the word, so I SURELY dont care if someone else uses it...
. I've used the word, so I SURELY dont care if someone else uses it...
Reggin, seriously. Grow the f*ck up. Anyone who has been here for any amount of time can see right through you, and we have no intention of letting you smear Red with abandon. If you intend to do so, at least have the common sense to do it somewhere she doesn't have friends who will call you out on your bull every single time.
