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I would drive him to the tattoo shop. Outside looks mean nothing to me , I fell in love with Chris for who he is as a person , not what he looks like.
I mean seriously money is not EVER (seriously NEVER EVER ~I refuse to get bent out of shape over money) fought over at my house , Our outlook is , WE will make it work somehow no matter what. So the issue of he might not have a job is a moot point.
So even the honoring the relative would make me love him more as family is important.
I mean seriously money is not EVER (seriously NEVER EVER ~I refuse to get bent out of shape over money) fought over at my house , Our outlook is , WE will make it work somehow no matter what. So the issue of he might not have a job is a moot point.
So even the honoring the relative would make me love him more as family is important.
I totally agree. And it's not about having a bunch of money, it is about taking care of your family and you NEED money for that. If my husband did that, I'm sure he wouldn't have a job, and well we have bills and house payments, that need to be paid. Sorry, but I (and our son) will not go homeless because he wanted a big black checkerboard on his face.
But I also feel like I totally knew my husband before I married him and I can say without a doubt that he would NEVER do that. If he wanted that tattoo, talking to me about it or just going out and getting it, then he wouldn't be the same person. If I married a guy that was totally into tattoos, then I'd probably be ok with it because I knew before I married him.
But I also feel like I totally knew my husband before I married him and I can say without a doubt that he would NEVER do that. If he wanted that tattoo, talking to me about it or just going out and getting it, then he wouldn't be the same person. If I married a guy that was totally into tattoos, then I'd probably be ok with it because I knew before I married him.
I'm 100% ok with people expressing themselves and if my dear husband felt he needed a facial tattoo to feel complete I'm ok with that. You love the people you love because of who they are not what they look like. Fat, thin, tattooed, pierced, etc... love is love. I want a husband who is unafraid to pursue their happiness and would not slight me my happiness in return. I would rather be dirt poor and live a life of joy than conform to the standards of "normalcy" in relationships.
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Fair enough, but if you have a family (children), and your husband is responsible for providing for them, and he did something that could jeopardize his ability to do that, how would you feel?
If my husband had a job that allowed him to do that, and we both felt stable enough after he did that, that's another story...if he knew that getting a tattoo like that could cost him his job or make it harder to find a future job, I wouldn't find it any different than him cursing out his boss or sabotaging an interview on purpose.
If my husband had a job that allowed him to do that, and we both felt stable enough after he did that, that's another story...if he knew that getting a tattoo like that could cost him his job or make it harder to find a future job, I wouldn't find it any different than him cursing out his boss or sabotaging an interview on purpose.
No, i dont care what the reason is. I don't think that's shallow of me, either. A person with face tattoos is not what I am seeking in a mate. The kind of person who gets multiple piercings and tattoos at all is just not the type of person I am attracted to. If my already husband wanted to do something like that it would be the tattoo or me. Dead relative or no dead relative I think it looks stupid and is very bizarre. If he suddenly had the desire to do that to himself he would no longer be the person I thought I married and I wouldn't care for or be attracted to this "new" person so staying in the marriage just really wouldn't be an option.
That may sound harsh but why sit here and pretend i could deal with it when I know I never could. I guarantee he would say the same thing and I am okay with that. I don't plan or destroying my face so its a non-issue for either of us.
That may sound harsh but why sit here and pretend i could deal with it when I know I never could. I guarantee he would say the same thing and I am okay with that. I don't plan or destroying my face so its a non-issue for either of us.
Maybe if this were the late 70s I'd agree with you. There are jobs for the tattooed that pay just like jobs for the non tattooed. I remember this one time when I worked for a major corporation the top performing guy had enough hardware in his face and skull to tune up my truck. No one cared what he looked like (although his pink muscle shirt was styling) just that he could do the **** job. I wish our checkerboard face friend all the happiness and success in the world just like the jig saw puzzle faced guy.
If I am willing to make the commitment to someone for the rest of my life then that means forever through hairbrained scheme, illness, crabby mornings, poverty, annoying family members, and yes, even facial tattoos so long as the same respect is granted back to me for all of the above in the pursuit of all I can hope dream and aspire to be.
If I am willing to make the commitment to someone for the rest of my life then that means forever through hairbrained scheme, illness, crabby mornings, poverty, annoying family members, and yes, even facial tattoos so long as the same respect is granted back to me for all of the above in the pursuit of all I can hope dream and aspire to be.
