A few weeks ago two of my cousins call me to say that they have some time off work, and they are taking a road trip through my neck of the woods. Would I mind if they stayed with us for a weekend, we could hang out and catch up? (This is a part of the family that is two states away and we rarely see. We all grew up together, but since childhood, well, that's been about it other than Facebook.) Great!, I say, let's make this work! This will be fun! So for the last 2-3 weeks we've been in contact making plans, coming up with things they'd like to see here around town, made a menu plan for the weekend, cleaned the house, etc.
Fast forward to last night. They are on the way, supposed to arrive sometime after dinner. A couple hours before we are expecting them, I get a text from them that basically says, "Your brother invited us to something that sounds more fun, so we are staying with him instead."
Seriously???
Now, my feelings are hurt. Really hurt. On the other hand, my husband is furious. I don't blame him at all.
I don't blame my brother, either. I had called him a few days ago to tell him our cousins where coming, and also to find out if he was free to join us for any of our activities today (Saturday). I knew he had something going on last night (he actually invited me several weeks ago, before I knew the cousins were coming, but since the event was 9pm-2am it didn't really work out with the baby schedule. lol), so we just touched bases for Saturday (today) and that was it. No issues there.
However, I also know that before yesterday that neither cousin had talked to him, so they literally had to have spontaneously called him out of the blue. He would have invited him to this event out of politeness. Not his fault. The timing of it sucks, but he can't help that.
My issue is with the cousins. Really? I have been more than accommodating and you guys just ditch us? It's not even that they wanted to go to this thing, it was just the flat-out discarding of all the work I had put into them staying here.
Why couldn't they have called to say, "Hey, we found out about this other thing, and we would really like to go. How can we work this out with our other plans?"
But no.
Now, fast forward to today. It's almost noon, and I haven't heard from any of them since that text yesterday evening. My husband went ahead and left to play racquetball with his group, which he wasn't planning to do with company here, BUT now he just had to blow the steam out. Again, I don't blame him. As for me, maybe it's petty, but I just don't feel like calling them up to beg them to know what's going on now. I'm still pretty hurt by last night, and while I don't want to make a scene about it, I'm not terribly motivated to go out of my way for them anymore, either.
Basically, I'm sitting here at home while the baby naps, wondering at what point my cousins are going to call and either (a) ask me what is going on, (b) command me to be somewhere, or (c) just show up at my front door expecting me to entertain them.
This weekend was supposed to be fun. I'm glad I put so much energy into planning it.
Now this IS petty, but the angry side of me takes joy in knowing that my SIL has been equally blindsided with people staying at her house, and she didn't have the luxury of time to plan where to keep these people and feed them. Plus, I made awesome biscuits and gravy from scratch this morning, and my cousins missed out on it.
Fast forward to last night. They are on the way, supposed to arrive sometime after dinner. A couple hours before we are expecting them, I get a text from them that basically says, "Your brother invited us to something that sounds more fun, so we are staying with him instead."
Seriously???
Now, my feelings are hurt. Really hurt. On the other hand, my husband is furious. I don't blame him at all.
I don't blame my brother, either. I had called him a few days ago to tell him our cousins where coming, and also to find out if he was free to join us for any of our activities today (Saturday). I knew he had something going on last night (he actually invited me several weeks ago, before I knew the cousins were coming, but since the event was 9pm-2am it didn't really work out with the baby schedule. lol), so we just touched bases for Saturday (today) and that was it. No issues there.
However, I also know that before yesterday that neither cousin had talked to him, so they literally had to have spontaneously called him out of the blue. He would have invited him to this event out of politeness. Not his fault. The timing of it sucks, but he can't help that.
My issue is with the cousins. Really? I have been more than accommodating and you guys just ditch us? It's not even that they wanted to go to this thing, it was just the flat-out discarding of all the work I had put into them staying here.
Why couldn't they have called to say, "Hey, we found out about this other thing, and we would really like to go. How can we work this out with our other plans?"
But no.
Now, fast forward to today. It's almost noon, and I haven't heard from any of them since that text yesterday evening. My husband went ahead and left to play racquetball with his group, which he wasn't planning to do with company here, BUT now he just had to blow the steam out. Again, I don't blame him. As for me, maybe it's petty, but I just don't feel like calling them up to beg them to know what's going on now. I'm still pretty hurt by last night, and while I don't want to make a scene about it, I'm not terribly motivated to go out of my way for them anymore, either.
Basically, I'm sitting here at home while the baby naps, wondering at what point my cousins are going to call and either (a) ask me what is going on, (b) command me to be somewhere, or (c) just show up at my front door expecting me to entertain them.
This weekend was supposed to be fun. I'm glad I put so much energy into planning it.
Now this IS petty, but the angry side of me takes joy in knowing that my SIL has been equally blindsided with people staying at her house, and she didn't have the luxury of time to plan where to keep these people and feed them. Plus, I made awesome biscuits and gravy from scratch this morning, and my cousins missed out on it.
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