At what age
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I guess I've been around WAY too many young men that want only one thing with young females. I've seen it too many times. Yes, it is only three years difference but it is illegal and I personally think it is wrong. Adults date 5,10,20 years apart, so does that make it ok for a 16 year old to date a 25 year old or 30 year old? When do you draw the line? I dont think a young man has any business being in the pants of a 16 year old, and lets face it... relationships usually include some type of sexual activity. What is an adult doing with a child? I'm sorry, but a 16 year old is a minor. They need guidance, rules, and boundaries. If you say that 16 year olds will do what they wish, then I suppose I should let my daughter get away with dating a 40 year old if she wants.
Dont mean to bring up a debate or anything. This is just my own personal opinion.
Dont mean to bring up a debate or anything. This is just my own personal opinion.
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Rob was 24 when I met him. I was 17. That was 5 years ago. Not every guy is out to have their way with a girl
I was 14 when I lost mine. Sad, I know. I went about it in a good way though, talked to my mom about it, got protected, and it was with someone very special to me.
I was 14 when I lost mine. Sad, I know. I went about it in a good way though, talked to my mom about it, got protected, and it was with someone very special to me.
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I'm from arizona where age of consent is 18. Technically speaking, no matter what the age of consent is, the parents have the last ruling because the child is a minor. I will say that I would have to judge the situation and scrutinize the young man before doing something drastic as turning him into the police... he would have to be into the relationship for the wrong reasons. Simply because I do realize that there are some well minded men who happen to get involved with a young girl. It does happen, but I think the majority are in it for only one reason. I would have a very hard time letting a 16 year old young girl getting involved with a man.
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I thought I would be the only person here that doesnt agree with men dating young teen girls. I wouldnt want my 19 year old son scope out and have relations with a young teen girl. It just sounds wrong to me. I know I was a hell of a lot more mature at 19 than I was at 16. I couldnt even imagine dating a 19 year old.
My little sister was 16 when my fiance was 19.
My little sister was 16 when my fiance was 19.
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Like I said in a previous post. I would have to judge it on an individual basis before doing something drastic. He would have to be in it for the wrong reason for me to turn him in, and yes I WOULD turn him in. I have to say that most are wanting a young girl for the wrong reasons. Most but not all. .
.Wouldn't you rather have faith in your daughter? I know 16 year old girls make stupid decisions at times.... but that's where educations about safe sex kicks in. A 16 year old girl and a 19 year old guy are not that far apart mentally.. sorry guys.
Sometimes you have to let your teenager make decisions and deal with the consequences- if handled in a safe manner. Well, even if the guy ends up breaking her heart, what kind of a message would you be sending her if you went ahead and called the cops and the guy?
Sometimes you have to let your teenager make decisions and deal with the consequences- if handled in a safe manner. Well, even if the guy ends up breaking her heart, what kind of a message would you be sending her if you went ahead and called the cops and the guy?
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I beg to differ. I am 21, so 16 was just around the corner, and I can tell you right now that I was much more mature at 19. I was very much still a kid at 16. I even had instances where I was talked into certain things buy guys at that age. I was NOT as mentally and emotionally strong as I was at 19. I just think there is a difference there. There was for me.
Breaking her heart would be the least of my worries. A full grown man being with her for sexual reasons is my concern... taking advantage of her. Which would be easy to do with a 16 year old. You know some older guys go after young girls for very wrong reasons. Just like I wouldnt want my 16 year old to be with a 21 year old. I mean when do you draw the line? or do you just let her learn her lesson even of its with a 30 year old??
Breaking her heart would be the least of my worries. A full grown man being with her for sexual reasons is my concern... taking advantage of her. Which would be easy to do with a 16 year old. You know some older guys go after young girls for very wrong reasons. Just like I wouldnt want my 16 year old to be with a 21 year old. I mean when do you draw the line? or do you just let her learn her lesson even of its with a 30 year old??
I said the difference between a 16 year old girl and a 19 year old guy is mentally not that much of a difference!
Oh come on... a 16 year old dating a 19 year old and a 16 year old dating a 30 year old is a little bit different... and yes, I think the line is easy to draw.
A 16 year old can take advantage of another 16 year old girl. I think when an individual turns 21, things change. They discover the bar life and might look for different things than a teenager. But if my child was 16/17 and was dating someone who was 19 or even 20... I surely wouldn't be running to the cops. You need to think of consequences one step ahead.
Oh come on... a 16 year old dating a 19 year old and a 16 year old dating a 30 year old is a little bit different... and yes, I think the line is easy to draw.
A 16 year old can take advantage of another 16 year old girl. I think when an individual turns 21, things change. They discover the bar life and might look for different things than a teenager. But if my child was 16/17 and was dating someone who was 19 or even 20... I surely wouldn't be running to the cops. You need to think of consequences one step ahead.
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Yeah, its definitely different, I was just making a point . There WAS a difference for me as far as being more mentally advanced at 19 than at 16. And I am sure it would be true for my daughter. I know plenty of 21 year old guys who do not drink, so thats not the deciding factor about when I draw the line. No, I wouldnt be running to the cops just like that. It would depend on the situation but the possibility is there. I honestly dont know why a 19 year old would want to be with a 16 year old who might not even have been through puberty yet. lol. Yup, a 16 year old can take advantage of a 16 year old, but at least they would be on the same level.
. There WAS a difference for me as far as being more mentally advanced at 19 than at 16. And I am sure it would be true for my daughter. I know plenty of 21 year old guys who do not drink, so thats not the deciding factor about when I draw the line. No, I wouldnt be running to the cops just like that. It would depend on the situation but the possibility is there. I honestly dont know why a 19 year old would want to be with a 16 year old who might not even have been through puberty yet. lol. Yup, a 16 year old can take advantage of a 16 year old, but at least they would be on the same level.- Joined
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What I don't get is the fact that everyone knows each individual matures differently. Reggin you may not have been very mature at 16, but that doesn't mean your own daughter won't be. I always always was treated like I would make my own mothers same mistakes. No one ever got it through their thick head that I was capable of being my own person.
The same SHOULD be said for every single teenager out in the world. You don't know why a 19 yo would be interested in a 16 yo because at 16 you weren't mentally capable of having a respecting relationship, but other people ARE and they DO. I'd dislike you greatly if I were your daughter and you were to step in one of my relationships if I was dating an older guy. You have to separate yourself from your child and the individual they are, but at least you've got some time to learn how to do that.
The same SHOULD be said for every single teenager out in the world. You don't know why a 19 yo would be interested in a 16 yo because at 16 you weren't mentally capable of having a respecting relationship, but other people ARE and they DO. I'd dislike you greatly if I were your daughter and you were to step in one of my relationships if I was dating an older guy. You have to separate yourself from your child and the individual they are, but at least you've got some time to learn how to do that.