It is was rude of him to say that.
But I don't think he was talking about ok, you gain 20 pounds....probably more like say you gain 100 pounds. If I married a guy and he gained 100 pounds or to a point he was morbidly obese (which is the picture associated with the term "cow"), then I would be pissed. Part of it is the physical appearance, but he has a wife and kids, and him being that overweight would cause serious health concerns and he should care more about his family than to let it get to that point.
But I don't think he was talking about ok, you gain 20 pounds....probably more like say you gain 100 pounds. If I married a guy and he gained 100 pounds or to a point he was morbidly obese (which is the picture associated with the term "cow"), then I would be pissed. Part of it is the physical appearance, but he has a wife and kids, and him being that overweight would cause serious health concerns and he should care more about his family than to let it get to that point.