I hate my little sister. (rant alert)

[PWCorgi]

I seriously do, not kidding at all. I hate to say that because I know you're not supposed to actually hate your siblings, you are just supposed to fight with them and then get along again, or something like that. But I do, I ****ing hate her!

She is, at 11 years old, completely out of control. She lies CONSTANTLY, about everything. Things that don't matter, at all! You can ask her what her favorite color is, and she'd lie about it. She is not a pleasant person to be around, as soon as she walks in the door she starts yelling and demanding things. My grandparents have actually asked that my mom not bring her to their house anymore, that is how bad it has gotten (not that she knows this, obviously). My mom's boyfriend has also tried everything to get along with her, and he is reaching a breaking point too. I LOVED the 5 months I was in Minnesota and I didn't have to see her or talk to her at all.

If I get anything that she thinks is nice or wants, she takes it. For the last few weeks she has been stealing one of my blankets that was a going away present from a friend when I left for MN last year. Now she has started taking my shirts and wearing them to school. They are way too big, it looks ridiculous, but she won't stop even when I have asked her. She just continues to tell me that she is keeping them. If I take them back she threatens to let Frodo out of the house when I am not here, and I don't trust her not to, and I am gone for work before she wakes up. She also broke her computer and now if mine gets left out she will be on it and then completely deny it, she put so many viruses on her computer, I don't want her on mine!

Being nice gets you NOWHERE with her. I have tried so many times to treat her like I would a dog and be positive and ask her to go places with me or play games with her and it always blows up in my face. Always. So I try not to talk to her at all, but she constantly interjects if I try to talk to my mom about anything. She HAS to say something snotty and rude, she can't just shut up. She just pushes and pushes until I can't take it, and then I say mean things that I KNOW I shouldn't be saying, but I can't help it.

She goes through phases where she will say that Frodo is hers and then feed him random people food (or cups and cups of dog food) and lie about it, she will constantly call him from laying on the couch with me to be with her and when he doesn't go she will try and drag him away from me by his collar if I don't stop her. She also does this with Mollie and tells me I am not allowed to pet her or feed her or walk her, which of course I continue to do because if I don't it won't get done.

I am just so sick of her. I shouldn't have to lock my dog in a crate with a padlock so she won't mess with him. I shouldn't have to hide things from her so she doesn't take them. I shouldn't have to spend all my time at home in my room to avoid her.

I'll be amazed if anybody reads this, but I just wanted to get it out.

(As I am writing this she is screaming at my mom because she wants the front door open and my mom wants it closed because she has the heat on)

I can't wait to move

 

[KhayNette]

Hate to say it, but she's only 11 yrs old. It isn't her fault, yet. I was raised a spoiled little brat, got everything I wanted (material-wise) but never did get proper attention which made me act out probably worse than your little sister. I wasn't taught to not be a brat, needed discipline, never got it. Stayed that way (and continued to get worse) until I moved out of home and had to stand on my own two feet. It was not easy changing the person I grew up my whole life as, on my own, but it had to be done. I am a completely different person than I was when I was a kid, and had to learn it all myself. She's young enough that someone who cares about her can still drop the bomb and stop her life from spiraling to rock bottom as she grows up.

 

[CaliTerp07]

WOW.

Your mom needs to call supernanny. I'm sorry

 

[Beanie]

Holy crap. =<
I'd say put a password on your computer, and can you get a lock put on your bedroom door? It SUCKS that you have to, but when my sister was living in our house with her first husband I asked my dad to install a lock on my door, not because I was worried about my stuff, but because I didn't feel safe with him in the house. I honestly didn't. I finally password protected my computer because it was in the basement where they lived, and he was on it ALL DAY otherwise. It really sucks to basically feel like a prisoner in your own house, I've been there... but if you can take measures to protect yourself, Frodo, and your stuff, well, it will at least take a little bit of that concern off your shoulders.

((((HUGS))))

 

[PWCorgi]

She's young enough that someone who cares about her can still drop the bomb and stop her life from spiraling to rock bottom as she grows up.

I don't see that happening. My mom's way of dealing with her is to either give in or beg and plead for her to do what she is asked. I think my mom is just way past exhausted with her, and nobody else really cares. My little sister is just about impossible to like as a person.

Cali, I agree. She needs something, because this isn't working.

 

[PWCorgi]

Holy crap. =<
I'd say put a password on your computer, and can you get a lock put on your bedroom door? It SUCKS that you have to, but when my sister was living in our house with her first husband I asked my dad to install a lock on my door, not because I was worried about my stuff, but because I didn't feel safe with him in the house. I honestly didn't. I finally password protected my computer because it was in the basement where they lived, and he was on it ALL DAY otherwise. It really sucks to basically feel like a prisoner in your own house, I've been there... but if you can take measures to protect yourself, Frodo, and your stuff, well, it will at least take a little bit of that concern off your shoulders.

((((HUGS))))

Thanks (((HUGS)))
I've been hiding my computer whenever I'm not using it.

 

[-bogart-]

:hail:

Hate to say it, but she's only 11 yrs old. It isn't her fault, yet. I was raised a spoiled little brat, got everything I wanted (material-wise) but never did get proper attention which made me act out probably worse than your little sister. I wasn't taught to not be a brat, needed discipline, never got it. Stayed that way (and continued to get worse) until I moved out of home and had to stand on my own two feet. It was not easy changing the person I grew up my whole life as, on my own, but it had to be done. I am a completely different person than I was when I was a kid, and had to learn it all myself. She's young enough that someone who cares about her can still drop the bomb and stop her life from spiraling to rock bottom as she grows up.

:hail:
I know you are ranting , and i do hope you feel better .

Now i also agree with the quote above , seems she is acting out to get attention . I am not there to see it all. maybe a parenting class to lean to deal with this , or even a psych for your sis , since something is obvilously wrong and she is acting out.

i hope something works out for you soon , but please do not throw your sister away , she IS only 11 and learns what she is taught/or allowed to get away with.

"I" woulds be in fear of my life if I EVER yelled at my mom. I dont want to critize your mom , i dont know her , but something is broken and she is not fixing it and she should , as she is the parent. Or take her to someone who can.

is there a dad somewhere?

 

[MaloreyAnimal]

When it comes to siblings I just do things back to them, ha.
For example, with her taking something of yours, I'd just go take something of hers that she really liked then when she insisted it was hers I'd just continue to say it was mine as she does, and if she throws a fit and gets mad, oh well, she gets what she dealt.

Maybe I'm just crude though.

 

[PWCorgi]

I understand what you are saying, but I am leaving in a month and I'm **** glad I'm going to be away from her. She does need help, a lot of it. And my mom needs help too, I think there are many times when she wishes she didn't have my little sister. Which is sad, but I can't blame her. I wish they would get help, but I doubt they will.

Her dad sees her once every other week. He's just like her. Compulsive liar and completely self-absorbed.

:hail:

:hail:
I know you are ranting , and i do hope you feel better .

Now i also agree with the quote above , seems she is acting out to get attention . I am not there to see it all. maybe a parenting class to lean to deal with this , or even a psych for your sis , since something is obvilously wrong and she is acting out.

i hope something works out for you soon , but please do not throw your sister away , she IS only 11 and learns what she is taught/or allowed to get away with.

"I" woulds be in fear of my life if I EVER yelled at my mom. I dont want to critize your mom , i dont know her , but something is broken and she is not fixing it and she should , as she is the parent. Or take her to someone who can.

is there a dad somewhere?

When it comes to siblings I just do things back to them, ha.
For example, with her taking something of yours, I'd just go take something of hers that she really liked then when she insisted it was hers I'd just continue to say it was mine as she does, and if she throws a fit and gets mad, oh well, she gets what she dealt

My main issue with this is Frodo. She knows that he is the best way to get back at me.
Also, whatever happens, she is never ever wrong. She could say something is pink when it is purple and no matter what you tell her and how much she KNOWS it is purple, it will still be pink to her.

 

[KhayNette]

I don't see that happening. My mom's way of dealing with her is to either give in or beg and plead for her to do what she is asked. I think my mom is just way past exhausted with her, and nobody else really cares. My little sister is just about impossible to like as a person.

Positive vibes really do help. Just think about what you want, and it will form. Feel like you already have what you want in life and it'll come. Sounds far fetched, but it's a thing some of the happiest and most successful people in this world live by. My mom was the same way, always gave in. My parents were exhausted. I ended up in the psychiatric unit by the time I was 14, for some pretty serious reasons. The doctors said I was bipolar, this, that, when I got out I refused to take the medication they said I NEEDED. It was my own tough times that really taught me why my past happened the way it did, and how I could form a better future. I'm just lucky I met the man I did and have the way of thinking that I do. If I didn't, life may never have gotten better. My heart goes out to your little sister, because it really can get bad if someone doesn't step in.

 

[ACooper]

Holy crap. =<
I'd say put a password on your computer, and can you get a lock put on your bedroom door? It SUCKS that you have to, but when my sister was living in our house with her first husband I asked my dad to install a lock on my door, not because I was worried about my stuff, but because I didn't feel safe with him in the house. I honestly didn't. I finally password protected my computer because it was in the basement where they lived, and he was on it ALL DAY otherwise. It really sucks to basically feel like a prisoner in your own house, I've been there... but if you can take measures to protect yourself, Frodo, and your stuff, well, it will at least take a little bit of that concern off your shoulders.

((((HUGS))))

I agree with the lock on your door......and Frodo in a crate INSIDE your locked room away from her. At the moment, I'd say that's about all you can do because you aren't in charge of her, it's not 'your house' to make the rules, and your hands are tied

((((((((((((((HUGS))))))))))))))

I also agree with whoever said she is 11, it is her parents responsibility to teach her acceptable ways of behaving, if they can't they need to seek help in learning HOW......'won't' is not an option they should choose. I say this with the utmost respect to you about your mother, I have an 11 year old boy at the moment, and there is noway I would put up with the behaviors you've mentioned. He tries to get away with things, he's far from an angel, but it's MY job (and his dad's) to see he makes better choices and learns how his behavior affects those around him as well.

 

[Renee750il]

She sounds like she's out of the same mold as my younger sister, who, I am happy to say, lives 2000 miles away from me and the only time we speak is if I'm at my parents' house and she calls and someone yells at me to answer the phone.

She was indulged her entire life. Mom's little angel. No lie was too big for my mother to believe, no behavior too far out for her to ignore, nothing she wanted that my mother wouldn't make someone do whatever was necessary to get for her. Anytime she felt thwarted, a well staged, violent tantrum made all things right. She's still that way.

She's young enough that someone who cares about her can still drop the bomb and stop her life from spiraling to rock bottom as she grows up.

Doesn't always work that way. Mine's alive, thriving and still conniving, went to one of the finer private colleges for her undergrad work, to an exclusive private college for her law degree, well to do, the second wife of a judge (she babysat for him and his wife when she was his secretary at his law office and accompanied him on his racing trips out of town . . . all completely innocent according to my mom because my sister told her so -- it had to be true :doh: ). She wants for nothing, has the social position she always climbed for . . . yah, her life really spiraled to rock bottom.

Sometimes that kind does a very good job of taking care of themselves -- and making sure everyone else takes care of them too.

Just keep yourself sane and Frodo out of it until you can get yourself someplace else. ((((((((((((((((HUGS)))))))))))))))

 

[Brattina88]

Wow. That's crazy. Me and my brother don't always get along, but its NOTHING compared to this.

(((((hugs))))) and {{{{+++vibes+++}}}}, I wish I had some better advice.
But I agree with the above. My heart stopped when I read the threat about Frodo. One of the students in my preschool class several years ago (was a foster child) threatened to do horrible things to the foster mom's cat... and one day, she got mad, and she did. The cat had to be PTS.
I'm not saying she WILL do this to Frodo, I'm just sayin', be careful Pdub

So more {{{{{+++vibes+++}}}

 

[Fran101]

((HUGS)) she sounds like a little snot! can you imagine when she hits puberty?!

I had a little cousin a bit like her.. I used to be forced to babysit her. and she stopped acting that way around me pretty quick

I totally ignored her. worst thing you can do to a kid at that age lol she would go NUTS and then calmly as ever I would say

"Until you stop being a spoiled screaming brat. You don't exist to me"

ALL THEY WANT is attention. you take that away and they learn to wise up pretty quick.

I just totally ignored everything she said and trust me.. it was HARD at times to not say something back or retaliate. especially when it was my personal belongings or insults something
but trust me.. ignoring hurts more than anything.

She walks in, I left the room. She yelled, I ignored her. She broke something, I walked away. I didn't even look up when she spoke to me.When she started messing with the others I asked the other kids to do something really fun (like playoutside, get ice cream etc..) and left her out
I'd walk around and basically acted like she didn't exist. no matter what she said or broke or screamed

her parents had tried nannies, child psychologists, countless books, etc.. and NOTHING worked as well
eventually, she couldn't take it anymore and her behavior began to improve!

We were done eating and she took her plate to the sink, looked at me and said "thank you" , I said "your welcome, want some dessert?" and talked to her about school.
and it clicked in her head that NICE THINGS=ATTENTION

when she kicked a fuss we were right back to square one.




Hide your things.. lock your room with frodo and his crate.

and TOTALLY IGNORE HER. walk around with an ipod in your ears so you can't hear her. pretend she doesn't even exist. no matter what she says or does..trust me.

Any attention is good attention.. so only give her some when shes being pleasant. when shes being a little twat, totally ignore her and tell her you will pretend she exists when she stops acting like a little ****.

 

[Amber]

How does she do at school? How does she make friends?
I hate to say it, but she'll proabably get smacked around quite a bit if she goes into high school/a new school on the first day and is a bitch to every one.

Hopefully as she matures she'll realize the errors of her ways..

I'm sorry though. I emphasize because I have an evil little sister too. I'm counting the years/months until I get to leave.

 

[*blackrose]

I have a very mild version of that with my sister....she steals my clothes (after I've asked her a BILLION times to at least just ask me first - we wear the same size so it isn't like we can't swap, I just have certain things I don't want her to wear), she is a compulsive liar, and she always tries to sneak onto my computer/video game systems after I've asked her to NOT because she tears them up. You catch her in the act, and she'll still deny it. I want to freaking strangle her sometimes, but at least we get along most of the time. We play an odd dance at times, but overall I think respect runs both ways. Mutual respect is a great thing.

 

[Jules]

Maybe give CM a call?

I'm sorry, it's not funny what you are going through
I hope moving day will come soon, soon, soon.

(((hugs)))

 

[Sit Stay]

Oh my gosh, she sounds like an absolute terror! I'm so sorry, that must be so frustrating - especially since she's bringing Frodo into it. Just keep your eyes on moving day, it will all be over soon!

 

[LilahRoot]

Oh man can I ever relate. Only it's my older sister that is like this. Completely crazy, and she is old enough to know better.

****HUGE HUGS****

Once my husband and I moved out of Pa we cut ties completely. It has been a great stress relief, let me tell ya.

 

[Locke]

((HUGS)) she sounds like a little snot! can you imagine when she hits puberty?!

I had a little cousin a bit like her.. I used to be forced to babysit her. and she stopped acting that way around me pretty quick

I totally ignored her. worst thing you can do to a kid at that age lol she would go NUTS and then calmly as ever I would say

"Until you stop being a spoiled screaming brat. You don't exist to me"

ALL THEY WANT is attention. you take that away and they learn to wise up pretty quick.

I just totally ignored everything she said and trust me.. it was HARD at times to not say something back or retaliate. especially when it was my personal belongings or insults something
but trust me.. ignoring hurts more than anything.

She walks in, I left the room. She yelled, I ignored her. She broke something, I walked away. I didn't even look up when she spoke to me.When she started messing with the others I asked the other kids to do something really fun (like playoutside, get ice cream etc..) and left her out
I'd walk around and basically acted like she didn't exist. no matter what she said or broke or screamed

her parents had tried nannies, child psychologists, countless books, etc.. and NOTHING worked as well
eventually, she couldn't take it anymore and her behavior began to improve!

We were done eating and she took her plate to the sink, looked at me and said "thank you" , I said "your welcome, want some dessert?" and talked to her about school.
and it clicked in her head that NICE THINGS=ATTENTION

when she kicked a fuss we were right back to square one.




Hide your things.. lock your room with frodo and his crate.

and TOTALLY IGNORE HER. walk around with an ipod in your ears so you can't hear her. pretend she doesn't even exist. no matter what she says or does..trust me.

Any attention is good attention.. so only give her some when shes being pleasant. when shes being a little twat, totally ignore her and tell her you will pretend she exists when she stops acting like a little ****.

^ This.


I worked at a daycare over the summer and had one child, 2 years old, that would bite, pull CHUNKS of hair out of kids heads, push, etc. and then run to you with a big smile on her face looking for ANY kind of attention whether it be negative or not. So we completely ignored her when she did those things, and instead we would rush over to her victim, pick them up and get all the other staff and other kids in the room to check to see if her victim was okay, saying things like "Poor ______, that must REALLY hurt. Poor you!"
At first she would start to pretend SHE got hurt too, which we also ignored, but eventually she got the message that hurting others = NO attention, and by the end of the summer, she hardly had any more incidents.