Some people are self conscious, they ARE affected when you them a dirty look. It may not be ideal but that's the way they operate... what value is there in being inconsiderate of that when they are doing something innocuous and reasonable, like feeding their baby? I mean, I guess if you can't help but give them a dirty look that's life but surely it would be better to try to avoid doing so...
Breastfeeding in public
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So I've tried reading the whole thread, but since it basically exploded over night... WOW.
So for one, how does a women breatfeed obnoxisouly?? I have only every seen women normally breastfed - usually sitting on a bench in the supermarket, or mall or wherever. Theres even a breatfeeding area in the middle of the supermarket where women can breastfeed. There water, a comfy sofa ect. ect.
I honestly don't have a problem with breastfeeding.. sure it can make some people uncomfortable, but then look away.
So for one, how does a women breatfeed obnoxisouly?? I have only every seen women normally breastfed - usually sitting on a bench in the supermarket, or mall or wherever. Theres even a breatfeeding area in the middle of the supermarket where women can breastfeed. There water, a comfy sofa ect. ect.
I honestly don't have a problem with breastfeeding.. sure it can make some people uncomfortable, but then look away.
In a world where guys publicly grab their crotch and purposely flaunt butt cleavage . . . how can anyone wig out over a woman breastfeeding normally (without purposely making it a public statement of protest)?
Maybe if we were all wearing burkhas when we weren't locked in the harem being supervised by eunuchs I could see it being an issue
Maybe if we were all wearing burkhas when we weren't locked in the harem being supervised by eunuchs I could see it being an issue
This, this, this!!!
Do all the “cover up that’s gross†people realize the misogyny you’re feeding in to? (Har har) Its the culture that women are okay as sex objects for men, but feeding an infant without the need for man made inventions (bottles & formula) is disgusting. Is that any message you want to be a part of?
And yes, how do you breast feed obnoxiously LOL?
Breastfeeding is as much about emotions as it is about presenting boob to kid. If you’re tense, uncomfortable etc. milk isn’t going to let down, baby is going to squirm and you’re going to see more than you want to. If people want women to be discreet about breastfeeding, how about be supportive of them so they can nurse their babies without dirty looks and get on with life.
I used to nurse one baby in a wrap while doing dishes, changing the other baby etc. You never would have known that baby in a sling was nursing. And no, I wasn’t covered, wasn’t wearing a nursing top. Just a tshirt. Baby and sling covers my belly, baby head covers my boob.
Do all the “cover up that’s gross†people realize the misogyny you’re feeding in to? (Har har) Its the culture that women are okay as sex objects for men, but feeding an infant without the need for man made inventions (bottles & formula) is disgusting. Is that any message you want to be a part of?
And yes, how do you breast feed obnoxiously LOL?
Breastfeeding is as much about emotions as it is about presenting boob to kid. If you’re tense, uncomfortable etc. milk isn’t going to let down, baby is going to squirm and you’re going to see more than you want to. If people want women to be discreet about breastfeeding, how about be supportive of them so they can nurse their babies without dirty looks and get on with life.
I used to nurse one baby in a wrap while doing dishes, changing the other baby etc. You never would have known that baby in a sling was nursing. And no, I wasn’t covered, wasn’t wearing a nursing top. Just a tshirt. Baby and sling covers my belly, baby head covers my boob.
Keep in mind, I was one of the first ones to admit on page one that it makes me uncomfortable, and I'd rather not see it. I'd never say anything, or give a look; I walk away if possible, or just look elsewhere.
I can't fathom being rude about it. I know who I am, I am who I am, and I'm fully aware I simply wasn't around it when I was younger (youngest member of the family, and I couldn't even be breastfed past about 3 days because of health issues).
But you know what? That's what being part of a society is about. Learning to deal with things that you may not agree with or love, because they don't infringe directly on your rights (heck, there are plenty of things people do that do infringe on my rights - I'll worry about those first). There should be zero pride in saying "This is who I am and by god, you are all going to get me 100% regardless of who I offend or hurt". That's not being a good adult, a good person, or a good American. The Constitution assures you the right to life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness. It doesn't promise you won't see a kid sucking on a breast at Wal-Mart.
If we can get that in the Constitution, I sure as heck want to be promised that I don't have to see people with dangling pants, tattoos, multiple piercings, those who are smoking, and obviously dyed hair. Every one of those things makes me force my eyes to stay level, rather than start rolling around. Oooh, or skinny jeans. That definitely needs to be in there.
For those who breast feed - I promise not to make a peep while you do it in public, if you don't shout "it's beautiful and natural!" as I wander away. Deal?
I can't fathom being rude about it. I know who I am, I am who I am, and I'm fully aware I simply wasn't around it when I was younger (youngest member of the family, and I couldn't even be breastfed past about 3 days because of health issues).
But you know what? That's what being part of a society is about. Learning to deal with things that you may not agree with or love, because they don't infringe directly on your rights (heck, there are plenty of things people do that do infringe on my rights - I'll worry about those first). There should be zero pride in saying "This is who I am and by god, you are all going to get me 100% regardless of who I offend or hurt". That's not being a good adult, a good person, or a good American. The Constitution assures you the right to life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness. It doesn't promise you won't see a kid sucking on a breast at Wal-Mart.
If we can get that in the Constitution, I sure as heck want to be promised that I don't have to see people with dangling pants, tattoos, multiple piercings, those who are smoking, and obviously dyed hair. Every one of those things makes me force my eyes to stay level, rather than start rolling around. Oooh, or skinny jeans. That definitely needs to be in there.
For those who breast feed - I promise not to make a peep while you do it in public, if you don't shout "it's beautiful and natural!" as I wander away. Deal?
Just wanted to add about the breastfeeding obnoxiously thing.
Like I said, women have to nurse however it works for them and their baby. Some babies won’t feed with a blanket over their head (I don’t blame them). Others won’t feed if mom is uncomfortable, some won’t feed being held in certain positions. Neither of mine would feed in a football hold, which was really annoying seeing as they were twins - never did get to feed them at the same time. So if you think a woman is breastfeeding “obnoxiouslyâ€, its FAR more likely that she is feeding her baby the only way the baby will feed.
Unless its the age of the child that bothers you. If it is, go back to the idea that its okay for boobs to pleasure men but not okay for boobs to feed babies - and yes, a 4 year old is still very much a baby in both nutritional and emotional needs.
Like I said, women have to nurse however it works for them and their baby. Some babies won’t feed with a blanket over their head (I don’t blame them). Others won’t feed if mom is uncomfortable, some won’t feed being held in certain positions. Neither of mine would feed in a football hold, which was really annoying seeing as they were twins - never did get to feed them at the same time. So if you think a woman is breastfeeding “obnoxiouslyâ€, its FAR more likely that she is feeding her baby the only way the baby will feed.
Unless its the age of the child that bothers you. If it is, go back to the idea that its okay for boobs to pleasure men but not okay for boobs to feed babies - and yes, a 4 year old is still very much a baby in both nutritional and emotional needs.
Wow I actually just read this whole thread. I wasn't brought up mug around breast feeding. I was breast fed. One of my sisters and my brother were breast fed. My other two sisters my step mom had and she didn't like breast feeding because she said it was too painful and didn't want to do it.
I personally really want to breast feed when I have a baby. I'm not too weirded out by people feeding babies in public since the baby's head covers nipple anyway though I rarely ever see women nursing around here.
I personally really want to breast feed when I have a baby. I'm not too weirded out by people feeding babies in public since the baby's head covers nipple anyway though I rarely ever see women nursing around here.
Oh tattoos, green hair & peircings don't bother me, would t have them myself but they don't bother me, how are you clumping them with breast feeding? Tatts & clothes & piercings are a form of self expression... Breast feeding is not.
I don't like seeing any cleavage weather it's butt cleavage or 'normal' cleavage it all exacts the same response from me but since the latter two are self expression then I doubt there is little we can do about it.
I'm sure others judge me, it's human nature... We can't Help it, I'm sure thu judge me bc my fiancée is of mexican decent (even tho he is a well educated good man). ESP down here in the south, but who cares? Why should my opinion (wrong as you think it is) even matter?
I don't like seeing any cleavage weather it's butt cleavage or 'normal' cleavage it all exacts the same response from me but since the latter two are self expression then I doubt there is little we can do about it.
I'm sure others judge me, it's human nature... We can't Help it, I'm sure thu judge me bc my fiancée is of mexican decent (even tho he is a well educated good man). ESP down here in the south, but who cares? Why should my opinion (wrong as you think it is) even matter?
Breastfeeding in public without a cover (this is not me. I wish I was that skinny :rofl1: )
Lingere ad
And this is a socially acceptable top
where do you see the most boob?
Heck Im even rasing a future breastfeeder. Bev takes her dolls and puIts them up to her cheast and tells me "Mommy Im feeding them!!! They like to breastfeed". <3 my awesome little girl
Lingere ad
And this is a socially acceptable top
where do you see the most boob?
Heck Im even rasing a future breastfeeder. Bev takes her dolls and puIts them up to her cheast and tells me "Mommy Im feeding them!!! They like to breastfeed". <3 my awesome little girl
sorry it still wigs me out, I guess because I have seen the ads & revealing clothes more then breast feeding & thr times I did It was a bad experience.FYI I would never wear any of those clothes in the first place, & I don't even have big boobs, I don't even Wear a V neck t shirt without a cami or sports bra under it lol.