Strip clubs.

[Phoenixangelwyngs]

I've been to a strip club once with some friends who wanted to go. I was uncomfortable... none of the women looked to be enjoying themselves.
However, if my significant other wanted to go... I wouldn't have a problem with the once or twice trip. If it became something that he "needed" then we'd be having some talks. What is it they have that I don't? ya know...
Porn.... I don't mind on occasion BUT it needs to stick to just that... the occasional thing. I had one boyfriend that wouldn't bother being involvedwith me without having some porn on in the background (tmi i'm sure) or before his being involved with me. That ended very rapidly.

 

[Tankstar]

I dont care. I go with him once in a while to( when we are in niagara falls (maybe 3 times a year) we go strip club hopping lol). I dont mind them, he just went the other night with some buddies.

 

[Samantha's pet]

Well since my SO is a father now I dont think strip clubs would be an appropriate pass time. I wouldnt want to think my father would go to a place like that. I would hope that my husband would have more respect for women than that especially now that he has a daughter. I cant help but think that those girls used to be somebody's baby.

It's also a stage of life thing. I would hope my husband would be past all that. I am actually pretty liberal and I am not completely anti-strip clubs, my best friend is a stripper, but I do think they are very anti-feminist and grown men w/ families should be over it. It's more appropriate for frat boys, not husbands and fathers. When you take on a family you should be ready to give it up IMO.

 

[GipsyQueen]

My bf was invited to come along with a buddy to strip club. He told me before hand. If I know, I don't care. If he kept it a secret, then I would care.

 

[Debi]

I wouldn't like it...plain and simple. it's not that I have one insecure bone in my body, I just think it shouldn't be a necessary lifestyle if you're in a true relationship. just like my hubby wouldn't be liking it if I was going to oogle male strippers. once in a great while, like for a bachelor party or something is fine. anything else and I'd tell him to decide what he likes best.......that or me. period.

 

[ACooper]

If it was an occasional thing, and by occasional I mean like maybe once a year when certain buddies can get together for something "special", then I'd be fine with it. Boys night out for some rowdiness type thing........go for it, LOL

If it were more often and for no special reason? No, I don't think so. I don't think it's a healthy thing for them to "hang" in the strip clubs constantly, and I'd question WHY they wanted/needed to be there so often.

Lucky for me, you can't get Kevin into those type of places. Some friends of mine even tried to talk us (both of us with both of them) into going to "NudeFest" a few years back..........I wanted to go, Kevin said noway

 

[Giny]

Steve's not into strip clubs either. He's gone a couple time during our marriage but that usually happened when he was away on business with the men, and he went along. He'd much rather say home then do any partying. And I much prefer that type of personality.

Now my first husband was a different story. I think he was addicted to it, constantly going and if I brought up that it maid me feel uncomfortable he had a way to belittle me in even thinking that way. The first girl he dated when we got separated was a stripper. And come to find out afterward, it was a relationship that started way before our separation.

So yeah, I wouldn't like Steve to start a habit of going to strip clubs.

 

[Jules]

If it's an occasional, get the guys together for a fun night thing, heck, I don't care. I trust my husband enough to know that he's not going to run off with the first naked woman he sees...lol!

I have been to a strip club with my husband and some friends awhile back. It was a funny night and heck, the beer was cheap. I don't see the equation of men who occasionally view porn or go to strip clubs as being anti-feminist and dirty old men.

But I also think that's a cultural thing and you guys just need to let it hang loose (no pun intended) every once in a while

 

[shadowfacedanes]

I used to have major issues with this. But then again, I had an eating disorder and some serious self esteem issues. It really hurt me and made me feel slighted that Jeff would look at other girls and think and feel those things about them when I was RIGHT THERE.

But, I've changed alot since we got together, and now I just don't care. I'm not always in the mood and if it gets him off my back, then hey, look at some bimbos on the internet.

Strip clubs, well, I'm still meh on that one. They are not simply "items" on the internet. They're flesh and blood and right in front of the guy, so I feel a little more torn about that. I think that's an activity for a single guy, not one in a relationship. I'd prefer my man NOT go out and oogle a girl and then pay to do it at that. It has more to do with respect to me than insecurity. But that's just ME and I know everyone feels differently.

 

[Dekka]

I don't care. Mark went a few times with buddies for a drink at the strip club. I think one of the reasons it wasn't a big deal to him was that I didn't care.. it didn't have that 'forbidden' quality. He asked me everytime if I minded.

Now if he was going alone or on a regular basis it might be different. But going once in a blue moon with some buddies... can't say it bothers me at all.

 

[HoundedByHounds]

I wouldn't care actually...but it does depend on the club...some here are more notorious for "special services" than other LMBO...my man wouldn't ask for SS BUT some of those gals are uber pushy when it comes time to "make that money".

On the whole I wouldn't care.

 

[xpaeanx]

I'm pretty much over wanting to be bothered with boys who like going to strip clubs or surf porn. They need to grow a pair and get over their own inadequacies.

same here.

 

[~Jessie~]

I personally wouldn't be with a guy who enjoyed going to strip clubs. Honestly, I think that strip clubs are dirty and trashy, and I don't find men who enjoy that type of place attractive in the least bit.

So yes, I would be pissed off if Ian went to a strip club. However, I know he thinks that they're disgusting as well so I don't have to worry.

I also agree with Samantha's Pet... I think that by the time a guy is married and starting/has a family he needs to be mature enough not to go to strip clubs.

 

[mojo-rizin]

I completely trust my husband, but with that being said, I would be extremely upset if he wanted to go to a strip club. He has never shown any desire to do so, though, so if he did, I would be concerned!!

He would have a problem with me going as well.

 

[Miakoda]

I'm pretty much over wanting to be bothered with boys who like going to strip clubs or surf porn. They need to grow a pair and get over their own inadequacies.

I agree.

With that said, in the past it hasn't really bothered me too much. Usually all the guys I know would just go on the nights that my friend (that I grew up with) was dancing. (Stormy Daniels....she's now a porn star......how's that for "I went from geek to the next Jenna!" )

 

[jess2416]

I'm pretty much over wanting to be bothered with boys who like going to strip clubs or surf porn. They need to grow a pair and get over their own inadequacies.

oh please, so now that men who watch porn or go to strip clubs arent men and are inadequate..??

why feel threatened by it? its no big deal

 

[HoundedByHounds]

nope Jess...it's not. I agree.

I don't really have a problem with porn...like gambling or gaming, or drinking or smoking....unless it consumes vast chunks of your time and money, isolates you from friends and family...disconnects you from life...it actually is merely an interest. Maybe not one I choose for myself but sheesh...I think smoking is worse!

 

[iluvdogs]

If a man has a girlfriend, I don't think he needs to be going to strip clubs or watching porn !

This could be because my ex who I dated for 4.5 years was addicted to porn, and lied to me about it for many years...

If they want to do a "guys" night...There is a TON of other things they can do other then going to a strip club !!

 

[HoundedByHounds]

interest and addiction are different. Don't judge all by one addict. Not every man you are with who drinks a beer is an alcoholic just because your last man was...that to me is unfair prejudice. My personal opinion only.

 

[jess2416]

interest and addiction are different. Don't judge all by one addict. Not every man you are with who drinks a beer is an alcoholic just because your last man was...that to me is unfair prejudice. My personal opinion only.

mine too