fathers hug your daughters

[HoundedByHounds]

My kiddos have a truly spectacular father. He is always hands on with them...cuddling, tucks them in at night, wrestles nightly with them on the floor...comes to as many school functions as he can...even if he misses work. He and Lily especially are very close...he basically raised her during the evening since I worked nights...it was their special time together and it shows now.

Nice post, smkie.

 

[Dizzy]

but I still dread the day when William realizes that his family isnt so normal after all. I dont know what I'll tell him or how...

But that IS normal. That's his normal. It won't be so weird to him, it'll be normal. It's his life, enjoy it to the max!!

 

[corgi_love]

What a great thread.. Thanks Smkie!

 

[bubbatd]

Luckily things have changed . Tom never learned to hug until a few years before he died . ( thanks to the kids! ) But still didn't just hug me because he wanted to . I can remember when I heard that my Mom died . How I needed to just be held and sob in his arms !!! My 2 grandsons are so lucky to have their wonderful fathers !

 

[RivetLikeWhoa]

Thinks like hugs and kisses really do make an impact on your life. I can still remember the day my mom stopped telling me she loved me and stopped hugging me on my first day of preschool. As for my father, he was never hands on, I only had less than fond memories of him as a child. Neither of my parents were ever there, since they both worked from the time I got up in the morning, until the time I went to bed at night, until I was a teenager. I understand why they weren't there, but it also caused me to develope a weird bond with my parents. They are more like associates, than parents to me.

I believe that the bond the parent(s) make with their children will effect their life, but the kid also has a role in how they let it effect them.

 

[Laurelin]

My father has always been such a sappy father- lol! It took until I was graduating high school to appreciate him. To this day, every time I see him, he gives me a big hug and tells me how proud he is of me. He is such a good man and so dedicated to his family... If I have a child, I want them to have a father like mine.

I love my Daddy. (You've made me teary-eyed!)

 

[milos_mommy]

My father was distant when I was young, never home, always yelling, abusive...

My "dad" is the man my mom met when I was 11, I was cold and horrible to him during a rough time in my life but he still treats me as a daughter. Even when him and my mom split for a short time, and he had NO obligation to me in any way, he offered to help me pay for school and stayed in my life.

A few weeks ago I got into a huge fight with my mom, and ended up staying at my boyfriend's parent's house. I walked in the door and his dad threw his arms around me, and I realized what it's like to have a family.

 

[borzoimom]

My family is a bunch of huggers.. Always has been to my knowledge including grandparents. Each of us highly devoted to each other and would defend no matter what, there when we need help and protect at all cost. Something I would later in life come to realize as amazing.

 

[M&M's Mommy]

My father was taken away to the Communist reeducational camp after they took over the gorvernment in 1975. I was 2 1/2. He was released when I was 11. Even though my mom took me to visit my dad every chance we got, and we kept in close touch with him through letters, it was not the same as having him with us 24/7.

I vividly remembered the day he was released. I was playing in my neighbor's house, and my mom called for me to come home asap. I ran home to see my dad standing right in the middle of the living room.. My mom, my dad, my grandmother, my aunt, the neighbors.. all were crying. It took a few minutes for me to register what was going on.. then my dad knelt down to give me a huge hug. It felt very strange.

Since he wasn't there in my life for most of my development years - though not by choice.. and I knew that he loved me very very much through the many gifts he'd made for me every time my mom and I visited, and through the many stories my mom told me.. it did take me a while to accept his full-time presence in my life.

As I grow up, I understand the pain he must have felt not being able to be close to his family, that my mom and I were the reason he survived the years in the Communist prison.. and I love him so much, but everytime I see a father hugging, kissing, playing with his kids, I still feel sad that I didn't get to experience that when I was a kid.

 

[ACooper]

This is a wonderful thread smkie, and I couldn't agree more.

While Kevin is truly a wonderful husband and father, he's not much of a hugger/kisser to the kids. They do get a good night hug every night.........but that's about it.

He's more of the "I'll show my love through works" type of guy. He's the one they go to when anything breaks, from necklaces, toys, electronics, bikes, ANYTHING. And not only them, but their neighborhood friends will even knock on the door for Mr. Cooper because their bike chain is loose or needs oil, LOL

Last night Kevin, Corey, and Zac were out on the front porch because Jupiter was supposed to be REALLY easy to see. They were sitting and gazing.........chatting and just being. It was a really great moment for them and a picture just wouldn't capture it at all.

 

[CanadianK9]

Fathers arent always the most impacting thing on a growing kid

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-yrVpc_xprE

^^ sometimes u ladies dont give yourself enough credit, carefully listen to the lyrics

 

[bubbatd]

Mothering is hard --- especially if you are the stay at home parent . One minute you are kissing one child's boo-boo , hugging another because they are sad and scolding another for being bad . I usually didn't tell Tom bad deeds when they were really young because he thought that he had to step in and punish for deeds done 6 hrs earlier and which I had taken care of . Dads , in this case talk to your child . Tell them how you feel , but please don't add punishments on top of punishment !!! Moms , NEVER say , " Wait until your Father gets home " .

 

[mrose_s]

Its weird, my mum and mu sister are very huggy. They're quite happy to be jammed together on the couch to watch a movie. I really don't like to be touched. I hug family when we go to visit them, I still kiss mum goodbybe. But I really don't like getting all close to people just because.
I've had a father in my life for 8 years... that caused more trouble than it was worth.
I had a stepfather who was great for the first few years, but lost it when he went back to drugs and now I will never speak to him again.

 

[ACooper]

Fathers arent always the most impacting thing on a growing kid

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-yrVpc_xprE

^^ sometimes u ladies dont give yourself enough credit, carefully listen to the lyrics

I don't think anyone doubts the impact of moms, we are the main source of nurturing in the home (in most homes anyway) It really is the dads who seem to think that a hug or special time isn't all that necessary (again, in most homes) that it's more their job to discipline and provide. Old standards, but passed on from their own fathers.

Most moms are never stingy with the compliments and hugging, giggles and special time...........I agree with smkie, DADS.........HUG THOSE KIDS AND TELL THEM YOU LOVE THEM

 

[bubbatd]

Poor Tom never got hugs from either parent and was sent to Military School at 13 .

 

[Baxter'smybaby]

I give my kids hugs and kisses---I sneak them in on the boys at this point (21 and 19)---and they let me! My daughter is ALWAYS hugging us! My husband has always been good about showing the kids he loves them--he grew up without a dad and it did have a big impact on him. The irony of it is he was frightened to be a dad since he didn't have one in his life (just a grandad who was an alchoholic)--but, my husband has one of the best dads I know.

So I say---everyone hug your kids and let them know how much you love them.

And kids....the same goes for you--hug your mom and dad---if you love them, let them know. They might need your hug and words just as much as you need them!

 

[Zoom]

My family wasn't super huggy but enough. I still get huge hugs from my father whenever I see him, though since they've moved they're very few and far inbetween now.

 

[milos_mommy]

Maya, I just wanted to say it doesn't have to be a FATHER in a child's life. You're lucky to have your dad and brother as male role models for William. I think as long as a child has someone there a protector, teacher, and role model in a way a mom just can't be, it's okay.

I knew that my boyfriend was the guy I'm going to marry when we were driving and he said "When I have kids, I want to pretend the car is an airplane or rocket ship." We're a longggggg way off, but I really look forward to seeing him interact with our kids 10-15 years from now.

 

[MisssAshby]

My parents have always both been very loving towards me. My dad always hugged me and gave me kisses. When I was young, I didn't like it but now that I'm adult I realize how important it is for a child while growing up. My father has gotten even more loving (and emotional) as he has gotten older.

 

[bubbatd]

Baxter .... I agree with your post !!! All kids at one point can't wait to leave the nest . Next time you vent " I hate you !' , slam your bedroom door , etc , think back to this tread . Yes, there are some sad situations , but time and maturity usually change things / Don't hate ....pity .