fathers hug your daughters

[MisssAshby]

I give my kids hugs and kisses---I sneak them in on the boys at this point (21 and 19)---and they let me! My daughter is ALWAYS hugging us! My husband has always been good about showing the kids he loves them--he grew up without a dad and it did have a big impact on him. The irony of it is he was frightened to be a dad since he didn't have one in his life (just a grandad who was an alchoholic)--but, my husband has one of the best dads I know.

So I say---everyone hug your kids and let them know how much you love them.

And kids....the same goes for you--hug your mom and dad---if you love them, let them know. They might need your hug and words just as much as you need them!

While my husband wants kids, I think he is really scared at the same time. When we talk about kids he always tells me he wants to be a father so that he can give a child what he never had - a father.

 

[smkie]

Poor Tom never got hugs from either parent and was sent to Military School at 13 .

THat explains a lot.

 

[smkie]

Its weird, my mum and mu sister are very huggy. They're quite happy to be jammed together on the couch to watch a movie. I really don't like to be touched. I hug family when we go to visit them, I still kiss mum goodbybe. But I really don't like getting all close to people just because.
I've had a father in my life for 8 years... that caused more trouble than it was worth.
I had a stepfather who was great for the first few years, but lost it when he went back to drugs and now I will never speak to him again.

My son does not like to be touched. I spent years learning how to love him without making him uncomfortable. Now i am retraining my whole way of expressing because i have a child now that needs and desires close time. My mother was a touch me not and touched us not after we were past toddler age. I think that was the reason the dogs were so important to me. I received my hugs from them.

 

[Baxter'smybaby]

While my husband wants kids, I think he is really scared at the same time. When we talk about kids he always tells me he wants to be a father so that he can give a child what he never had - a father.

he may surprise himself at how wonderful a dad he can be!

 

[bubbatd]

Smkie .... we do understand each other ......I loved Tom dearly , but he was afraid to show any emotions .....except anger . Even then , he would just walk away and not talk . I really don't think he was ever happy until the last few years of his life .

 

[smkie]

I am glad he found some happiness before he passed.

 

[bubbatd]

So am I Smkie .....I just think of the 70 years wasted .

 

[ihartgonzo]

That sounds just like my Dad. If I don't give him a two-handed full on hug back, he whines about it. D:

It has always been annoying... but comforting at the same time.

 

[Sweet72947]

My dad was always this Big Mean Thing. I loved him once when I was little. He rarely ever hugged. I used to want them, but now its like hugging a stranger.