Breast-Feeding Doll

[Fran101]

I was @ the beach one day, Miami beach to be exact. and a woman decided to tan topless, which is a very common practice, yet she was the only one who was told my the beach cops/lifeguard to cover up and that tanning topless wasnt allowed... she was also very overweight. coincidence? I think not. technically, tanning topless is prohibited, but ive noticed that it is a rule ONLY enforced with people who aren't physically attractive. people are only offended when its someone who isn't pretty

Same issue with breastfeeding, victoria secret models/hooters girls going practically nude are accepted. yet a mother taking one out grosses people out..

Just my 2 cents.

on a side note, IM GOING TO RANT!
Im a waitress, and I must admit it gets annoying. Ok, i understand people want to make a point, but seriously, im sick of getting yelled at by some breastfeeding mothers! my boss tells me to ask them politely if they would like to use one of our private rooms, do they just say no thank you? of course not. I get a 10 minute yelling speech on how "natural" and how "rude it is to ask" blablabla.
Or my personal favorite, when the surrounding people ask to be moved because of it. I get yelled at for moving them. wtf am i supposed to do? Im a waitress. they wanna be moved, I move them. instead of the mother yelling at those who want to be moved and who are giving her dirty looks, who gets yelled at? me! and of course I get the "its natural" speech loud enough to disturb the whole restaurant

It gets to the point where the waitresses have to rock/paper/scissors to serve anyone with a baby or kids...
dont even get me started on the using an extra seat as a changing table or me having to do a frikin agility course to get anywhere because of strollers or the kids screaming their heads off and the parents not doing ANYTHING about it or the ridiculously specific orders because little johnny is allergic to 10 things, and doesn't like his food to touch, and likes it shaped like mickey mouse and will only eat if the plate is blue or letting kids run around wild and bother people because its "oh so cute" !! this is a nice restaurant, not a chuck e cheese or a frikin playground!!!

UGHHH!!! rant over! ya, i had a bad bad night.. 2 words, birthday party. *shutter*

 

[JennSLK]

I ask for a corner booth if I take Katelynne into a resturant. I try to be dicreate. I think if you are beastfeeding in a public place you should be covered. I dont like to see womens breasts while I am trying to enjoy a dinner.

 

[puppydog]

I agree with Fran about people changing their kids in public. That is what bathrooms are for!!!

 

[Pam111]

I agree with Fran about people changing their kids in public. That is what bathrooms are for!!!

yeah, that I definitely don't do. I bring him to the bathroom, though it is annoying when bathrooms have no changing station but that's a whole 'nother topic

 

[puppydog]

yeah, that I definitely don't do. I bring him to the bathroom, though it is annoying when bathrooms have no changing station but that's a whole 'nother topic

I totally agree! Where are you supposed to change your child if there is no available surface? I also hate the fact that those changing stations in public rest rooms always appear dirty!

 

[Pam111]

I totally agree! Where are you supposed to change your child if there is no available surface? I also hate the fact that those changing stations in public rest rooms always appear dirty!

They are gross. I always put my own changing pad over them but then I hate to put it back in my diaper bag after touching the gross table.

 

[Fran27]

Holy crap Juicy I can't believe that story! There are no words... I'm seriously speechless.

Boemy... I'm right there with you, lol.

Fran... yeah that's my point. It bothers people. Using the 'it's natural' argument really is lame when you're pretty much disturbing everyone around you... And parents who bring their kids to the restaurant when they are allergic to about everything should be kicked in the face. Seriously. Not only they do it purposely knowing it's going to be a pain, but they're running the risk that an allergen will be missed and the kid will die. I don't get it. I went to Denny's once and there was such a mother there and she ended up calling the manager to complain because something had an allegen on it... well yeah, chicken nuggets are not exactly made to order. It disturbed everyone in the area too...

 

[Zoom]

These days, unless the pictures you are developing are of your kids in winter gear or halloween costumes, someone is going to look at you funny. Remember how everyone used to take pics of their kids in the bathtub or sink and such? That's grounds for getting arrested for child porn these days. Thank God for digital cameras and photo paper...there are so many childhood memories stuck on harddrives or film, because it's almost illegal to get them printed anymore. One of my dad's favorite pictures is of my mother breastfeeding me as a young infant...it's just a snap of a loving, quiet moment with less "exposure" than the Kohl's ad I just got in the mail, but if it were taken today and processed at a public store, there is a huge chance CPS would get involved.

 

[~Jessie~]

It's so sad how things have come down to that. My parents have a bunch of pictures of me as a little kid naked in the tub, covered in bubble bath. I think my mom even has one framed and on her nightstand.

And no, I would never ever breastfeed my baby in a bathroom... that's just so disgusting. I don't understand what the big deal is with breast feeding in public. It's not like most women would be whipping out their boob, nipple exposed for everyone to see. Babies have pretty big heads to cover it up anyway.

I remember being a little kid, and seeing my friend's kittens nurse... we all thought it was adorable... I mean, what nursing animal isn't cute?!

Buuuut... most people who see a woman breast feeding in public (even covering up) will laugh and talk about how "weird" and "gross" she is. It's ridiculous.

 

[sparks19]

UGH I HATE when there is no change table in the bathroom at a restaurant... AND I also hate how hardly ANY mens' rooms have change tables. I mean what if Brian was out with hannah alone and she needed a diaper change? he has to take her out to the van or the car and change her there because there is no change table in the men's room. MEN HAVE KIDS TOO!!!!! lol

my mom always tells me stories about how my dad would let me run wild through restaurants and stuff when I was a kid and she HATED that lol. I can't imagine doing that. Hannah gets a high chair and she STAYS in it while we are at the restaurant. when we are ready to leave she is either carried out or has to hold our hand and walk out. We bring things for her to do while we wait for the meal to arrive so she doesn't get fidgety and then when the food comes she's busy mowing down. and then I see other parents who's kids are loud and obnoxious and just being general pains in the arse. I don't get it. I would be MORTIFIED if I let hannah behave like that in public.

 

[Pam111]

UGH I HATE when there is no change table in the bathroom at a restaurant... AND I also hate how hardly ANY mens' rooms have change tables. I mean what if Brian was out with hannah alone and she needed a diaper change? he has to take her out to the van or the car and change her there because there is no change table in the men's room. MEN HAVE KIDS TOO!!!!! lol

my mom always tells me stories about how my dad would let me run wild through restaurants and stuff when I was a kid and she HATED that lol. I can't imagine doing that. Hannah gets a high chair and she STAYS in it while we are at the restaurant. when we are ready to leave she is either carried out or has to hold our hand and walk out. We bring things for her to do while we wait for the meal to arrive so she doesn't get fidgety and then when the food comes she's busy mowing down. and then I see other parents who's kids are loud and obnoxious and just being general pains in the arse. I don't get it. I would be MORTIFIED if I let hannah behave like that in public.

yeah, that is annoying about men's rooms, too. I wish more places had family bathrooms, too, because I don't want to leave Damien to go into the men's room alone when he is, say 4 or 5 years old either, but some women have a fit when little boys are in a women's room.

 

[sparks19]

yeah, that is annoying about men's rooms, too. I wish more places had family bathrooms, too, because I don't want to leave Damien to go into the men's room alone when he is, say 4 or 5 years old either, but some women have a fit when little boys are in a women's room.

OH yeah family bathrooms are a god send. I love those. we use them whenever they are available... which like you mentioned isn't enough.

 

[drmom777]

I took an infant to college for a year and a half....and then my husband tookm her to grad school. She never caused a bit of trouble. It is all in how you raise them AND in the inherent disposition of the infant. Rachel was a very good baby, who could entertain herself. She ate out in all kinds of restaurants, and was quiet and well behaved without exception. She was also willing to try any kind of food. Not all kids are that portable, and like I said earlier, I usually fed her in restroom stalls. Miserable for me, but she did not mind.

She had a Noble prize winner, who shared an office suite with my advisor, watch her whenever I was in there. Invariable I would come out of my advisor's office to find Rachel on Salvador Luria's lap, sharing his tim of Swedish butter cookies with him. I believe the MIT community found Rachel to be an interesting addition to student life.

When she was a little older, and going to school with Steve, she had her own backpack, much like daddy's, and like his it was full of books andf writing utensils. She would sit next to him in class or in his office and take notes and do projects. I believe she actually though she was a grad student.

But if she had been loud, or cried, or prone to getting bored, she would have been out of there and we would have found another alternative. I also hate when people bring kids to restaurants that do not behave. for one thing it makes people look askance at my kids, whose behavior I can guarantee, and for another thing, these days we get to go out so rarely, I hate to have it ruined by anyone.

One time, when she was two, she got cranky in a restaurant and started kicking up a fuss. I took her outside and sat it out in the car. She was really unhappy about missing our outing with friends, and never tried it again.

She is now 24, in grad school herself (or will be in a couple of weeks), a self sufficient hardworking focused adult and i am very proud of her. I think the fact that we were able to keep her with us and raise her ourselves and expose her to tons of interesting experiences contributed to how she grew up.

 

[AGonzalez]

yeah, that is annoying about men's rooms, too. I wish more places had family bathrooms, too, because I don't want to leave Damien to go into the men's room alone when he is, say 4 or 5 years old either, but some women have a fit when little boys are in a women's room.

HAHA...I send my 5 almost 6 year old in the mens room alone, and if he's not out within a minute or two (I stand by the door) I walk in and retrieve him, horrified men or not.

Doesn't bother me, no man has any anatomy I haven't seen before.

 

[Domestika]

Doesn't bother me, no man has any anatomy I haven't seen before.

As evidenced by the offspring you're going in to claim!

 

[Baxter'smybaby]

OH yeah family bathrooms are a god send. I love those. we use them whenever they are available... which like you mentioned isn't enough.

try maneuvering a 17 year old girl with developmental disabilities--out with her dad.... certainly not enough family bathrooms available.

 

[Pam111]

try maneuvering a 17 year old girl with developmental disabilities--out with her dad.... certainly not enough family bathrooms available.

they really don't think of situations like that, do they? i'll admit, that didn't occur to me either. what are people supposed to do?

 

[Samantha's pet]

Yeah i dont see WHY kids need to breastfeed their dolls.

I showed my roommate the video and he said it made him feel uncomfortable lol

my question is why NOT? if you arent sexualizing breastfeeding and you feel that its perfectly appropriate for a child to mimic bottle feeding, spoon feeding, diaper changing, etc then there is no reason to feel that mimicing breastfeeding is inappropriate. the ONLY reason one would feel that way is if they felt breast feeding was sexual or naughty or dirty in some way.

there arent any anatomically correct ken amd barbie dolls b/c that IS sexual. putting BF in the same category as "baby making" dolls would be a perfect example of sexualizing it.

there really doesnt need to be a why. only the why NOT. i mean, why do kids pretend to bottlefeed? why do they pretend to do anything? its just what kids do and there is no reason they cant pretend to feed a baby in the best, healthiest way that was intended by nature.

i do feel that there actually is a reason why, though. i think children should pretend to BF their dolls b/c it would be nice if the next generation didnt have all the "creepy-weird" feelings about it that this generation does. we see little girls pretending to bottlefeed babies all the time and dont even think twice. wouldnt it be nice if one day we could see little girls pretending to BF and think nothing of it? Wouldnt it be great if our kids just accepted it as the normal, everyday way to feed babies? I mean, it kinda is.