Absolutely no offense in this intended.
IMO Before I even have one I should preferably have alot of stuff straightened out. Finances, home situation, what you can/can't handle, stress levels etc - I am extremely harsh on myself about this child stuff. My lifestyle isn't right to raise a child up in, I wouldn't be a good parent/role model, I don't even know who I am quite yet - what more of trying to help someone find their place in this crazy world?; People keep telling me "You'll be fine, kids are good for you, have some quick!, what are you waiting for?" and so on. More to the point I have zero maternal instinct and even less desire to have a child of my own. If an accident occurred and it went too far beyond the point/timeframe of abortion I would have him/her adopted - preferably a closed one too. If I were the child I wouldn't want to know that my biological mom was someone like me.
I can deal with having train wrecked my own life - I can't deal with wrecking a child's. I just can't. Kids are privileges and gifts - not rights and commodities. They should be provided with love, correct guidance (not saying that anyone's particular guidance is correct or uncorrect - only speaking for myself), support, compassion, and basic stability. If I can't provide these elements to a child then I am not going to have one anytime soon. Regardless of money I am not a fit person to be a parent or to raise a child - I'm not sad about it at all; Not allowing my irresponsibility or recklessness affect a innocent soul will be my contribution to the world.
P.S
I just asked my mom now - "What were you thinking when you had me?"
"I wasn't, Obviously." lol.