fathers hug your daughters

THis morning Hyia and i pulled behind a car getting ready to let her out for school. THe man in the car in front of us let out his daughter. Hy and I sat there and watched as he raised her high to his shoulders, hugged her until she pummeled him in jest, then he set her down and set her off.

I said to Hyia, "i can't do that love. I know you want that more then anything."
She said "I Don't want YOU to do it. I want a father." And she got out, gave me the I love you sign which is our goodbye wave.

I cursed her sperm donor. I cursed my own father. I never envied a child more in my life and can still see her smile as she was set gently on the ground.

Such a little thing, such a huge thing when you have never had it.

Bless that man and all fathers that hug their daughters.
Bless the men that see all their children as precious, and worthy, and show it.

Thanks for the reminder. I hug my kids as often as I can, but not nearly often enough.

I wish my daddy would hug me more often... I think the last time he did was when he left for China... 2 months ago.

My Dad left for the war when I was 7 and I was 12 when he came home ......I can't remember any real hugs or kisses .

Hy and i talk about it. It has been a major issue for her this 8th year of her life. Mostly because her friends all have fathers in the home and she sees how they interact.

THat little girl ran off with a quick happy step. Hy and I sat there with holes in our hearts. I told her a lot of people have fathers they don't want. A lot of fathers are not loving. Mine was as cold of a fish as you could get until he left. He was tired of family life, and children in general by the time i came a long. I told her it isn't a perfect world for most of us, but we grow up and have the ability to make it what we want. But that doesnt' change a thing when you watch something like that. She got out of the car a lot older then she should have to be. And i had tears on the way home. FOr her ANd for me, ANd for all the people like us.

A hug is free, it takes so little time or energy, a few seconds to recharge the protective field around the people you care about.
A real father, is priceless.
IF your lucky enough to have one, go hug him too.

That is so true, Smkie . . . It has such an impact on the rest of our lives.

Hannah is one lucky little girl.

LOTs of our CHazzer babies are. It gives me hope.
YOU can be a strong mom, or a strong dad, but you can't ever be both.
I will never understand Sperm donors.

((((HUGS))))) to our Good CHazzer Dads.

Will do Smkie...

Thanks for helping put things in perspective after my less than stellar morning.

YOUr a good guy Puckstop.

Your post made me tear up.

I can't wait until I have a baby, and I wish that more people would appreciate the fact that they have children. Hug your kids, kiss them... tell them that you love them. I don't understand how parents can abandon their children... it makes me really sad

Our family does not hug, kiss, or show any affection for one another. It's quite sad. I remember when I was a little girl, my father would do just what you described. I remember lots of kisses and cuddles and I don't remember when that changed. The last hug I remember from my dad, I think I was four.

A lot of fathers start to hold us at arm's length when we start growing up . . . right when we really need the reassurance we get our first big taste of rejection.

My family are a bunch of huggers. Even my grown children need hugs. My husband is a great dad. No matter what else is wrong in my life, I know that this is right.

I think a lot of families need to be more loving...

and I agree smkie... I don't understand sperm donors either... I had one myself... it really messes you up.

A friend of mine had the same and now (23 yrs later) he decided to pop back into her life, and when she didn't run up to him and act like he was the greatest thing since sliced bread, he blew a fit.

Moms and Dads are extremely important, I wish there were more of them and less "parents."

As I sit here crying my eyes out becuase of the beautifuly written post by Smkie... think ok WIlliam and his "father"
Williams dad walked out of our lives a week after he got the child support orders from the court.
I have spoken to him 2 times in the year that he has been gone. William doesnt recieve child support. His dad is not a part of his life anymore. Im just glad he left before William was able to form lasting memories with the man.

Thank God I have wonderful family who have helped me immensly. My dad and brother have stepped up and taken the "daddy" role in William's life. Thats good now, but I still dread the day when William realizes that his family isnt so normal after all. I dont know what I'll tell him or how...

Agreed

My dad died when I was 7. So no hugs for me

I am sorry mayasmydobe, i more then understand.

the only positive thing I can say about my ex is how great a father he is to my daughter. They have a special relationship, and that is when I see the good, the man I married, and as to why.. Here's to all the fathers.

I am very blessed and I know it. though my parents split up when I was very young my father was very much a part of my life. My mom didn't want any support from him as long as he was in my life and he was more than happy to oblige. My dad is BIG on hugs and kisses. And not just with his girls but with his boys too. Although sometimes our hugs from him turn into noogies lol.

My mom was never really big in the hugging department until she started going with my step dad. He is big on hugs and he hated to see us come and go without a hug. So he has now transformed my mom into a big hugger. So I am lucky to have three parents who hug me and love me

and I am lucky to have a husband who hugs me and kisses me all the time and who is a wonderful father to hannah. Even when he wasn't here last night and I was putting Hannah to bed he told her goodnight ont he phone... and she waved to him LOL. and then made sure I gave her his share of the hugs and kisses before bedtime.

I am truly TRULY blessed. The role of a father is so understated... it's getting better but still people don't see the role of a father as being nearly as important as the role of the mother and I think that is bull. a guy on another forum one day actually said "it only takes 15 minutes to be a father" What a horrible outlook on fatherhood. Fathers are EXTREMELY important.... more important than many people realize.