I think he is cheating...
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You need to be assertive. Being male (as I am, LOL) he probably thinks he is pulling one over on you. (If he is indeed doing anything). Getting in his face about it will proabably surprise him and he will be all "uhhh, ummmm, uhhhhh".
Cheating is proabably the most painful thing a person can do to somebody they care about. If it ends up that he IS, kick his ass out and take him for all he has. I am sure there is some method for you to put him in the ringer, given the child.
They key is to be assertive, unless of course, you have reason to fear he might hurt you. In which case I would ask you why you are still there?
Good Luck
You need to be assertive. Being male (as I am, LOL) he probably thinks he is pulling one over on you. (If he is indeed doing anything). Getting in his face about it will proabably surprise him and he will be all "uhhh, ummmm, uhhhhh".
Cheating is proabably the most painful thing a person can do to somebody they care about. If it ends up that he IS, kick his ass out and take him for all he has. I am sure there is some method for you to put him in the ringer, given the child.
They key is to be assertive, unless of course, you have reason to fear he might hurt you. In which case I would ask you why you are still there?
Good Luck
Well he says it was his friend Steve but his number comes up not this unknown number crap like that call did.I need to talk to him more once he is up.I love him but if anything is going on I will leave him.Puckstop I cant take him for all he is worth he claims if I left he would quit his job so he wouldnt have to pay child support or he would take her from me and give her to his parents.
Oh nonsense.....he's trying to scare you! My ex said that crap to me. He'd have to prove first that you are unfit, that wont happen. Tell him go ahead and quit his job. He's bluffing. He knows he'd have to live off his mom if he does.
When my ex told me he was going to take my baby, I said ok, but just so you know, I'm dragging every piece of dirt I know about you and your family and in the end, you still wont get her but your name will be trash!
Also, when I left my husband, I was pregnant (he cleared the kitchen table on me), final straw. But because I was pregnant I wasnt allowed to divorce because the lawyer said pregnant people are to emotional and basically unstable in the eyes of the court. He told me dont to let my husband take our child. If I let her go for him for a day, he wouldnt legally have to bring her back. So I had to refuse him to take her until after I had my baby and could go get temporary custody. I dont know how all that works when your not married.
When my ex told me he was going to take my baby, I said ok, but just so you know, I'm dragging every piece of dirt I know about you and your family and in the end, you still wont get her but your name will be trash!
Also, when I left my husband, I was pregnant (he cleared the kitchen table on me), final straw. But because I was pregnant I wasnt allowed to divorce because the lawyer said pregnant people are to emotional and basically unstable in the eyes of the court. He told me dont to let my husband take our child. If I let her go for him for a day, he wouldnt legally have to bring her back. So I had to refuse him to take her until after I had my baby and could go get temporary custody. I dont know how all that works when your not married.
Puckstop31 said:
Where is Stratford in relation to London? Next time I am up, I can go pay him a visit and "convince" him to be a better man and treat you and his child right. 
OK, no problem. Being a right wing lunatic, I am always looking for a fight. LOL (KIDDING!)
Meh... it is going... SLOW. In my mind, I see this going on...
"My packet makes it to the immigration center in Montreal. Angry Quebecois gets my packet. <cue bad french accent> 'Awww haw haw, stoopide amer-e-can, think he can come into my coun-tree. I show him who is super-powerrrr. </bad french accent>"
I am sure it is nothing like that, I am only frustrated because all I can do is wait and I miss Tanya SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO much.
But, this thread is not about me. So, sorry.... LOL
Have you tried calling your phone company to see if they can trace the call. maybe that would ease your mind. I would get another phone also. Personally, If you do find out he is cheating,I wouldn't leave. I would throw him out. But then, Texas, is a community property state. Do you have any good friends or family you could call to help you follow him? Two women can be resourceful together. I know it happened to one of my friends a few years ago and we came up with some pretty resourseful ideas to bust him.
Good luck and I hope everything works out for you. I am sorry you have to go thru this, it can be heartbreaking. You are in my prayers and thoughts.
Good luck and I hope everything works out for you. I am sorry you have to go thru this, it can be heartbreaking. You are in my prayers and thoughts.
Sorry to chime in so late...but honestly any person that would knowly run someone down that they were supposed to love, isn't someone worth being with. I spent 5 years with a person like that. He kept my esteem low to keep me under his nail. When I finally left him, it was like the world was coming to an end for a day. After that day, I couldn't figure out why I stayed with him so long! Then I met and married the man of my dreams who wakes up every morning to him telling me he loves me and EVERYTIME he has called me in 5 years I hear "Hello Beautiful".
You stay because of your child, what is her upbringing going to be like with a father that treats her mother that way? Cheating or not now, he needs a dose of reality. He's not going to change his ways of how he treats you.
Any jackass that would say the above encaptioned, isn't someone that cares about his child either. Much less the mother. You won't lose your child to him. And you will still be entitled to support whether he quits his job to get out of it or not. Does he think he's the first dead-beat to think that up? And unless there was something DRASTICALLY wrong with you, I'm talking selling drugs or something over the edge like that, no judge in the world is going to take a child away from it's mother and giveit to someone else entirely! He is threatening you just to keep you under his thumb.
Best wishes and I will keep you and your daughter in my prayers.
You stay because of your child, what is her upbringing going to be like with a father that treats her mother that way? Cheating or not now, he needs a dose of reality. He's not going to change his ways of how he treats you.
Any jackass that would say the above encaptioned, isn't someone that cares about his child either. Much less the mother. You won't lose your child to him. And you will still be entitled to support whether he quits his job to get out of it or not. Does he think he's the first dead-beat to think that up? And unless there was something DRASTICALLY wrong with you, I'm talking selling drugs or something over the edge like that, no judge in the world is going to take a child away from it's mother and giveit to someone else entirely! He is threatening you just to keep you under his thumb.
Best wishes and I will keep you and your daughter in my prayers.
Hon, keep your cool and sit him down and tell him, look we have a problem....Tell him what you suspect and tell him why you suspect it. Tell him his actions are a bit suspicious and go from there. Also lay it on the line, let him know that you deserve 1000 times more better treatment than this and that you will not allow anyone to walk all over you and make you feel like a fool. Let him know that if he doesnt think that you and your child are the most important things in his life then well dont let the door hit you where the good lord split ya Good luck my dear
Good luck my dear