I think he is cheating...

[oc_spirit]

lisa we should go get our licenses together cause i don't havemine yet either! LOL

 

[Becca_]

If you are going to the church for concilling, maybe another thing you should do is insist he start going to church with you. When I was a kid I remember my parents having a tough time, fought alot. It got so bad mom was saying she was going to leave him. He agreed to go to church with her. What a big change in my dad. They have been married almost 50 years now. I've seen it with other couples who were having problems. WOrth a try.

 

[Renee750il]

ok, I am going to get thown off this board for this...
I want to shake you and tell you that you need to wake up! I have been with my DH for 20 years, married 15. NEVEr in that time has he needed to go for a drive, taken secret calls or wanted to quit a job to not suport us.

Frankly he dosen't want to get arried either! if he did he would. No man (lets face it form those of us married) wants to go through the expence or harassment of a big wedding....I just don't buy it and neither should you. that he will when you get the money, it is a delay for as long as you will buy into it and it seems you have.

I also have the feeling you are trying to convince yourself you love him and he loves you. I think you are scared to move on and find happiness for you and your daughter. if you are not happy and taking care of you, you can not take care of your daugher, and what is wrong with public asstance for the short term to get on your feet and get this guy to buck up to the baby and his responsability? It sounds to me that he is trying to push you out in a cowedly way. He should go if he does not want to be there.

Sex 4 x a day is not about loving you it is about self satisfaction and control. If you are in his bed and taking care of the baby, when will you possibly find time to do ANYTHING else feel good about you and find who you are and what your role in this world will be?

Please wake up, go visit Yuck for a few days, get yourself together and figure out what you want out of life instead of waiting for this man to decide for you.

Ok off my soap box it was nice getting to know you all.

Tons of truth and insight in your post, Dixie!

 

[moe]

I am definately with Dixis chick on this one, he has you exactly where he wants you, now its up to you to either accept the life he will give you (and constantly having doubts if he is faithful) or make the move, of course its not easy, you are in the position better the devil I know than the one I dont, but I can tell you, if you dont trust him now you never will and it will always haunt you, move on girl, do yourself a favour, this will get your self esteem back too as it appears he has robbed you of that too, sex is definately not everything,a good marriage/relationships is built on stronger stuff

Mo

 

[Sirius]

Well, in my opinion, there is nothing worse then a liar! Maybe the next time this woman calls, pick up another phone in another room, and listen in on their conversation, or insist that you go to the store with him. If he lets you come with him, and all it turns out to be is that he is looking for 'pro fisher' (LOL I have no idea what he likes) Then, I would ask him who that lady is. Is she a spokesman from 'pro fisher' that is calling him to say that 'pro fisher' is in a store near him? On the other hand, if he literally says, No, sorry, you can't come.... I would be mad.
Another idea is to say innocently enough to him, "Where's the magazine you bought?" If he won't show it to you, then I would get really suspicious, and just say cold turkey to him "Okay, what's going on"? (While he was out, pack you, Gwen, dogs things and call someone to give you a ride somewhere) If he doesn't tell you, just leave. Just say "Okay, I'm done. Goodbye" Take your daughter, your dogs and just walk out the front door, plain and simple. He'll be in too much shock to tell you whats going on.

-Laurr