To put it simply, I'm trying to see if I can develope a romantic relationship with someone who simply holds the title of really good friend.
I've never thought it to be wise to simply go up to an attractive girl and ask them out on a date. So generally, I try to be friends with girls who I can see myself being romantically entangled with. The problem is, I tend to make a lot of friends and so very few "girlfriends". And often times when I realize that I've begun to develope feelings for said friend, it's come to the point where I can pretty much expect this response: "I don't want to become romantically involved with you because I don't want to possibly ruin the friendship we have."
Fair enough, I suppose, but it's such a commonly used mechanical response that I'm highly suspect of that response simply being a coating for the real reason. Also, I tend to believe that the biggest rewards come from the biggest risks.
And honestly, I'm always hearing girls complain about how guys don't know them and don't care to know them. If I'm a good friend at first and I've come to know just about everything about them, from the way they like their eggs to simplistic personality quirks - so that takes care of that. In this scenario where I'm a good friend who wants to start a romantic relationship, we've already gotten far past the interview stage.
I'm honestly not prepared to confront this matter to said girl but it's something that has been running through my mind because I do have feelings for the girl and we share a mutual respect for each other and we love each other on a high plateau of friendship. The reason I don't want to bring it up is because past precedent has showed those in the past who have felt as I have, have had it end badly. Plus, aside from other complications, I want to know if she has any remote romantic interest in me: I get a lot of mixed messages from her.
So: any thoughts or opinions on the subject of having a strong friendship turn into a romantic relationship? Any comments at all would be appreciated, I'd also like to know, if you all wouldn't mind sharing, how you met your boyfriend/girlfriend/significant other and how the relationship came about. Thanks a lot.
I've never thought it to be wise to simply go up to an attractive girl and ask them out on a date. So generally, I try to be friends with girls who I can see myself being romantically entangled with. The problem is, I tend to make a lot of friends and so very few "girlfriends". And often times when I realize that I've begun to develope feelings for said friend, it's come to the point where I can pretty much expect this response: "I don't want to become romantically involved with you because I don't want to possibly ruin the friendship we have."
Fair enough, I suppose, but it's such a commonly used mechanical response that I'm highly suspect of that response simply being a coating for the real reason. Also, I tend to believe that the biggest rewards come from the biggest risks.
And honestly, I'm always hearing girls complain about how guys don't know them and don't care to know them. If I'm a good friend at first and I've come to know just about everything about them, from the way they like their eggs to simplistic personality quirks - so that takes care of that. In this scenario where I'm a good friend who wants to start a romantic relationship, we've already gotten far past the interview stage.
I'm honestly not prepared to confront this matter to said girl but it's something that has been running through my mind because I do have feelings for the girl and we share a mutual respect for each other and we love each other on a high plateau of friendship. The reason I don't want to bring it up is because past precedent has showed those in the past who have felt as I have, have had it end badly. Plus, aside from other complications, I want to know if she has any remote romantic interest in me: I get a lot of mixed messages from her.
So: any thoughts or opinions on the subject of having a strong friendship turn into a romantic relationship? Any comments at all would be appreciated, I'd also like to know, if you all wouldn't mind sharing, how you met your boyfriend/girlfriend/significant other and how the relationship came about. Thanks a lot.