Which is easier?

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Getting laid when you're single or in a LTR?

This spawned from Paige's comment in the venting thread... I'll post my reply later. :rofl1:

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In a relationship lol it's just easier when you are already in close proximity and already know they are down and what everyone likes.

That said, I have a FWB on my roster and it's wonderful...it's kind of the best of both worlds, and is so simple (minus scheduling conflicts)
 
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Well, keeping in mind I havent been single since I was 19 and I am now 34, I would say easier in a healthy LTR. Ones where there are a lot of issues may be different but yeah, pretty much all I have to do is say ok.
 
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A healthy LTR for sure I mean the goods are right there :p

That being said I've been alone for a week and will be for another week and a half....... I'm frustrated cranky and my male person needs to hurry up and get home.
 

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Honestly, I don't see a huge difference really.

In a relationship is always gonna be there, so super easy and you know what each other likes, etc. There's also the fact that it's not as novel, so it might not be as good as new people.

I'm single and meet a lot of guys and have a TON of options, though I'm not particularly interested at this point. A month ago it was game on. The novelty adds more to it, even if it's not *that* good.

Right now I am constantly telling guys I'm not interested. But when I am there's always someone... I had a nice roster going for a while. it's nice not to have to worry about entertaining a significant other or worry about their schedules, etc. I can do what I want when I want, and find someone when I want it. :D
 

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Well, seeing as how I never had sex until I was in a LTR...I'll say that. I also wouldn't be having sex with someone if I weren't in a committed relationship, so...meh. However, a friend of mine had quite a few FWB and that worked quite well for her. She had guys on speed dial and could just pick which one and which night. LOL

According to DH, being in a relationship has always made sense to him because then he has "sex on tap". Much easier to just come home and get naked than go through the process of trying to find someone to bring home. "Getting laid when you are in a relationship is way easier than getting laid while you're single."

He also said we have weird conversations. :lol-sign:
 
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Well and also in a LTR its easier to fit it in, no need to primp and groom, no questions about them being interested or not, no need to flirt and small talk your way up to it, no need to even leave the house! Don't get me wrong, all of that is fun, but not necessarily easy

(and if someone has a FWB, while not a LTR traditionally, that is still a sexual relationship so definitely includes a lot of the easy because of relationship aspects)
 

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I've never really had an issue finding someone to have sex with when I want a sex buddy. However I have had issues finding people I would like to give a second chance to. Sexual chemistry means a lot to me and I have no idea how it will jive till we give it a go. Some people are just not my cup of tea.

Im really forward though. I have no issue pouncing lol

It was harder to find a boyfriend because well... I'm going to want to sleep with him lots so he needs to be a whole bunch of awesome in day to dayblife AND rock NY socks off. Anyways, I like the arrangement now though. I just get it whenever I want it
 

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LTR is definitely easier. I'm kind of a shut in so I used online dating to find FWBs (and then eventually my boyfriend, who started out as a FWB) and it wasn't *TOO* hard but man, so many weirdos and scumbags. It definitely took patience to wade through it all and find people I was actually interested in hanging out with. Then there's all the work of primping and getting ready... :p Don't get me wrong, I like to look nice for my boyfriend, but it's also really nice to have someone that still wants me when I'm in sweatpants and no makeup.
 

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Marriage.

My two LTR were almost sex-less. That's a combined total of almost 8 years, with 6 of almost 0 sex.

I don't do FWB and I don't do casual sex.

Marriage has, by far, been the very best thing to happen to me...and my sex life LOL
 

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LTR. I live in a little nowhere town and know everybody who would be a possibility... no thanks.

Rick is awesome and I get to hop on that whenever, lol.
 

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I honestly never had casual sex before this LTR. Make sense of that. LOL.

BeAu and I enjoy hunting unicorns, but we have a pretty healthy sex life anyway. I think it is probably harder finding a girl, who is bi, and willing for a threesome than it would be just any gender looking for sex.

So I am going with LTR.
 
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One night stands FTW, The only thing I really miss about being single is picking up some random and having (safe, always safe) sex with them. I was a raging who're back in the day, and some days I miss it.
 

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All random sex I've had, turned into a relationship... so there goes random.

I didn't care one way or another about sex until my current relationship, but I'd had plenty. Now I quite enjoy it.
 

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Well, I can only say LTR, because that's all I've ever been in :p

But like, if I wanted it, all I have to do is go wake him up :p
 
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Single. I have zero interst in a relationship right now( or ever. I don't hink I've been really happy in any of my long term relationships ans would be miserable living with someone else), so a nice FWB is perfect. Sadly, my last special friend found an actual girlfriend who would probablyfrown on him boffing the neighbor, so I'm without benefits at the moment. Unless you count the friend that needs batteries and lives next to my bed.
 

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I think in general, typically, a ltr has easier and more frequent sex.

certain lifestyles, situations, whatever, can allow certain single folks comparably easy access to sex. I imagine for someone who hangs out with a number of swingers or has a list of potential fwb or casual bang buddies, it's just as easy to get laid.

But for me and all or most of my friends, I can say we see
More action in a ltr.
 

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