What Would You Do? (neighbor rant =x )

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I would really like opinions on what I should do about this, because it's really been bugging me all day.

Last night, I didn't get home until around midnight. And I really wanted to talk to a friend. I was talking, in my house, and the dogs wanted outside so I went outside for like 10 minutes. I was not talking loud, just in a normal voice. I was like, sitting on the patio, and I heard some one yelling and was like "what?". The nieghbor behind us was standing on his deck yelling down "You should not be talking this late!" and "bad" words that I won't add. ;)

Ok, so, from our patio to the privacy fence in the back is about 100 yards. 100 yards! We have a huge grassy area, then a retaining wall thing, then a hill, a flat area of trees, then the fence. Then his backyard and his house kind of at the top of the hill. Our backyard is at least 1 acre. This man obviously had to have had his window open and he must have been wide awake to be able to hear me talking from THAT freaking far away! Even if he was able to hear me, I was talking, it wasn't a party going down at my house. Can he not close his window?

This annoys me even more because this is our ONLY neighbor that has not said a word to us! This is literally the first time I've seen him since we moved here 6 months ago. Like, wth? Our other nieghbors warned us that he is a jackass, but I didn't even listen to that until now.

My point is, do you guys think I was rude, to be talking on the phone at my house? If I lived in a tiny subdivision where the houses are 10 feet away from each other, I'd understand, but we are totally seperated from other homes and there is a huge privacy fence. My dogs want to go out around midnight all the time, and sometimes they get zoomies and run around making growly noises. Am I not allowed to do this, either? -_- I really feel my privacy was invaded, and especially since he had to add cuss words into it, I don't feel like I'm obligated to respect what he wants.
 

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I would have said 'WHAT? WHAT WAS THAT? I CAN'T HEAR YOU!" and every time he repeated I would say it again..lol..j/k, I would probably just forget about it and keep talking, or go in the house or something..I don't want to waste my time with rude people like that..
 

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I've learnd since I moved here that people can't tolerate noise as much as people in the city could...I mean you could be running around your backyard screaming and no one would care. But where I live now, you could just be calling you dog back to you and someone would report you to the cops saying your being loud and rude and blah blah blah...
 

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LOL My first reaction would be to tell the guy to get over it:D

He was probably tired and had a bad day. I would just ignore him. :cool:
 
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He may have had his window open because of the heat. You are allowed to live your life on your schedule, but I think no matter what that schedule is we should respect people who arent on that schedule.

Most of the neighbors I have had never shared more than a dozen words with me. Its not because I'm mean, I just like my privacy and I respect theirs.

The reason I moved out here is because I am a light sleeper and once I am woke up, I am up for the night. I was awakened nightly by our neighbors and the last few times there was profanity and a certain air of impending violence. They had no respect for me and I had none for them, it was just nasty. They would be loud at night and I found all kinds of projects that required power tools between 4am and 9am.
 

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Ignore him and try not to say to much or the next time you might find that he threw some poison over the fence to kill your dogs just because you pissed him off for opening your mouth. I would try to bite my tongue even though he is a jackass. Some people just have nothing else better to do. I mean, I could see if your dogs were barking like crazy at midnight and he said something but just because you were talking to someone is ridiculous :rolleyes: .
 
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He was being rude, and you do have a right to talk on the phone in your own yard. However, who knew his circumstance. If I was in that situation I would of just went inside the house and finished the call. It's not worth dealing with him when I could simply just go inside.
 

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He was being rude, not you. He probably has issues sleeping, or maybe he was cranky for some reason and decided to take it out on you. I think you were perfectly fine to sit at your house and talk. He should close his windows or turn on a box fan to help with the noise. You can't help it that your dogs needed to use the bathroom and that you were talking to your friend. He needs to get over it.
 
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I would have been nosey and listened to the conversation. We have a neighbor that does this on his driveway. I can hear him from my bedroom window. I found out all kinds of things about him from his conversations. LOL
 

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I don't think you were being rude and you have every right to talk out there but the guy may not be completely crazy- the people across the street can be talking behind their house which is way more then three hundred yards and for some reason it funnels right to my front porch,its kinda odd.
 

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I don't think you were rude at all. Right now we live in a duplex and we're up until after 1am, usually taking the dogs out and chatting outside once it cools down.

We talk softly but we still talk.

I'm a hot head, so I probably would've freaked out.. blah blah blah, police, blah blah blah ROFL.

But I don't think you were in the wrong. I used to work a night shift and nighttime was the only time I used to be able to play with my dogs or go for walks whatever.
 

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I'm so glad you agree with me! I thought that maybe I had horrible neighbor etiquette or something. ;)

The thing is, we have a road like one street down that has cars going down it, and people honking and yelling. It isn't like it's dead silent outside, or like I'm yelling on the phone! My sister was like half-asleep in the living room, which has a window that is right where I'm sitting, and it was open, and she didn't even know I was home. So, I'm pretty sure he's desperate to complain about anything. I'm good friends with a guy whose family lives on his street, across from him, and this neighbor actually yelled at his Mom about how ugly the flowers/garden was in her front yard, and how she'd better change it.? Gawd, I've been lucky about not having creepy neighbors until now. =( I was over at the friend's house earlier, and his Mom got home and told me stories about this guy! OMG. She actually told me she'd provide the eggs & toilet paper if we wanted to mess up his house :p
 
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I'd say let it go this time. Next time he's got a problem go to him about it right then. Ask him how he could hear you talking from 100 yards (or one acre) away. If he says something like "sound carries easily up this hill" or something reasonable like "I've had a bad week, I'm sorry." then I'd leave it alone. If he's an all out a$$ about it I'd tell him, I appreciate his concern for my business but do not need him cussing at me at midnight and possibly waking up other neighbors with his loud mouth. Tell him your dogs needed to go out and you happened to be on the phone. If this is a problem for him since he lives so far away, on the other side of a wall, maybe he should invest in some ear plugs if his hearing is that sensitive.
Basically, be sarcastic but in a way that you won't be seen as the "loud neighbor" but the "neighbor that called him out". I don't think he'll have much to say and you'll probably leave him spitting and spluttering trying to think of something else to complain about.
 
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No you weren't being rude!
Hell i live in an apartment block and if people stand outside thier front doors whispering everyone else hears them at nighttime b/c it echoes, do we all complain........NO!!
I think i just got used to it.
We hear doors slamming and people arguing and allsorts during the night here.
 

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One thing to remember is that sound can really seem to carry at night--I know that I have been woken up by my neighbours talking on their back deck late at night. Now, I don't go yell at them or anything, but maybe this guy was just having a bad night or something. I would cut him some slack this time, and hopefully it won't happen again.
 
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Be carefull, I have a problem with one neighbor who complained the very first day we moved in. I tried to tell her my dog was just new to the house so barking at his shadow (it was just the first day afterall) and this one incident has fuelled a never-ending battle. In the end I would have to say, it doesn't matter who is right or wrong the most important is to keep civil relations between you as you are stuck together. I STILL resent my neighbor (who by the way has a very yappy noisy dog!) and have a knee-jerk reaction against her such that everything she does is bad (and I'm sure she is the same) I RECOMEND YOU AVOID THIS and in everyone's best interest, clear the air with him. Let him feel like you listened and try to explain yourself in day-time when maybe he won't be so grumpy.
 

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This thread is so so old. =)

But, I had to update this! I was jogging with my sister this morning, and we noticed that THE neighbor aforementioned, had shredded papers ALL over his lawn. I found a note in the street, one that had not been shredded....

"Have the neighborly courtesy to park where you are living, working, or visiting. Parking where you are is 30 ft from my living room and dining room window. It is very upsetting to me. I do consider it a form of harassment. Why don't you park in your garage as most people do in a single family subdivision?

- (Neighbors name)"

ROFLMAO! Apparently, I'm not the first nieghbor he has been uppity and rude to. These people have 4 cars, 3 in the garage/driveway and one right next to the driveway, in front of THEIR yard. There must've been 15-20 notes torn up all over his lawn. Wierdo!!!
 

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