Talk it out so you can get it over and done with
Then write him off as your rebound guy and get on with life!
Well...we kinda did talk about it...sorta. I don't know. It's been a month now since we last talked (aside from the few "do you want to be my friend now?" "Ok, how about now?" "and now?" messages on MSN) and I'm worried that if I talk to him now it's just going to be even harder on me cause I'll have to start over forgetting about him.
And I don't know what there is to gain from talking it out. The whole thing was pretty weird. While we were kinda working on getting back to a relationship he said a) I love you, I never stopped loving you, I can see us married down the road and b) I don't want to be in a long distance relationship, I don't want to be in a serious relationship right now, I don't want to be in a relationship when I'm between jobs, I'm still hurt from you dumping me and have to get over that, I don't want to be in a relationship while you're still technically married.
And comments (a) and (b) were interwoven for weeks. Tres confusing. Finally I told him straight out "I've been totally honest with you about where I'm at but I don't feel you're being complete honest with me" and he said "You're right. I don't think at this point that I want to be in an intimate relationship with you. But I really want to be friends." Like, a week after he went off on comment (a).
And I know this sounds really typical and "guys say things" and "you got played", etc, etc. But the super confusing part is that he's a genuinely NICE GUY who doesn't play people and doesn't have it in him to lie and be selfish. So I told him goodbye and I've been scratching my head ever since.
Apparently my activity for tonight is going to be rambling on about this.