People That Go Out Of Their Way to Disagree With You?

[tessa_s212]

Anyone ever run across these people? The ones that will refuse to ever agree with you, and when they do actually agree will still find a way to not exactly agree, such as pointing out that another person's advice, which followed yours but was the exact same advice, was great but refusing to admit that your advice had any validity?

I think they are rare, but when you do come across them they are quite the pest.

This is where selective hearing comes into play.

 

[Saje]

I find that people like that are usually responding to something. The other persons tone or manner of speaking. I've never met anyone who was like that all the time. Others just brought it out in them. Especially people who were very opinionated or full of themselves. Most of the time it's easy to fix if you know how to control a conversation.

 

[Julie]

I find that people like that are usually responding to something. The other persons tone or manner of speaking. I've never met anyone who was like that all the time. Others just brought it out in them. Especially people who were very opinionated or full of themselves. Most of the time it's easy to fix if you know how to control a conversation.

I Get It!

 

[pugzrule]

i dont get it

 

[Gustav]

I find that people like that are usually responding to something. The other persons tone or manner of speaking. I've never met anyone who was like that all the time. Others just brought it out in them. Especially people who were very opinionated or full of themselves. Most of the time it's easy to fix if you know how to control a conversation.

You've obviously never met my dad!

 

[Denaluvscorgis]

Quite regularly actually

 

[tessa_s212]

I find that people like that are usually responding to something. The other persons tone or manner of speaking. I've never met anyone who was like that all the time. Others just brought it out in them. Especially people who were very opinionated or full of themselves. Most of the time it's easy to fix if you know how to control a conversation.

You can't control people though. The best you can do is control yourself. If they want to be an arse, that's their choice. In the mean time, I'll just have to continue sharpening my selective hearing skills.

 

[Saje]

You can't control people though. The best you can do is control yourself. If they want to be an arse, that's their choice. In the mean time, I'll just have to continue sharpening my selective hearing skills.

I said control the conversation Tessa. Not control people.

 

[tessa_s212]

Controlling a conversation means controlling what comes out of another person's mouth.. and you can't control people.. You can't control their thoughts or what they say.

If there is a way to control what comes out of other's mouths, please tune me in! I sure could use it both on forums and real life.

 

[Dreeza]

lol, sheesh tess, way to be quite the "dissagreer" (is that a word??)

hehe

and you can control what comes outta someones mouth. Next time you want someone to stop talking...quickly shove an apple in their mouth, grab some duct tape...and VIOLA! (you may have to duct tape their hands behind their back too...)


ugh, i wanted to do that to someone i was talking to today...cept it was over the phone. Most frustrating convo of my life!!!!!!!!!

 

[Saje]

Controlling a conversation means controlling what comes out of another person's mouth.. and you can't control people.. You can't control their thoughts or what they say.

If there is a way to control what comes out of other's mouths, please tune me in! I sure could use it both on forums and real life.

Gosh you sound like the person you were describing in your first post! lol

But since you asked. Here is a good article

http://projectmagazine.com/leadership-skills/control-every-conversation.html

Bascially, it's a skill that can be learned and it helps keep you from being manipulated and pushed around. It's something I still work on but it's a skill that is very useful as a reporter when you have to talk to all sorts of people. And get them to talk to you.

 

[Georgygirl]

lol, I think I kind of do what that article says by accident. If someone is talking and I don't feel like I have enought time to "register" what they just said I ask them to repeat themselves, even though I know/heard what they said to begin with. It just gives me a little more time to think of an appropriate response. I have a friend who could carry on a conversation by herself for an hour, plus she talks very quickly. I've had to use that technique a lot with her.

 

[bubbatd]

Many people want the last word and really don't listen . In those cases I change the subject .

 

[Saje]

Many people want the last word and really don't listen . In those cases I change the subject .

^ taking control of the conversation

 

[smkie]

my ex use to say YOUR JUST NOT LISTENING TO ME and i would reply oh i heard you well enough, i just don't AGREE with what you are saying. REpeating it isn't going to change my mind....sighs....

 

[Giny]

The only time I ever get into that kind of situation is when 2 people participate into the conversation, myself and the other party, we both are guilty. Usually happens with my dad most often, my husband says it's because we're both too alike and too thick headed to let it go. lol

The best solution to this problem was what bubbatd has mentioned and just change the conversation. My dad and I now know that there are some conversation that we cannot participate in, it's too much of a hot topic, so we don't bring it up. Life is just too short!

 

[bubbatd]

Sure , change the subject without a question ! Never ask a question unless you are willing to hear an answer to which you may disagree . This is called starting an argument !

 

[smkie]

Gosh you sound like the person you were describing in your first post! lol

But since you asked. Here is a good article

http://projectmagazine.com/leadership-skills/control-every-conversation.html

Bascially, it's a skill that can be learned and it helps keep you from being manipulated and pushed around. It's something I still work on but it's a skill that is very useful as a reporter when you have to talk to all sorts of people. And get them to talk to you.

:hail:

 

[smkie]

The only time I ever get into that kind of situation is when 2 people participate into the conversation, myself and the other party, we both are guilty. Usually happens with my dad most often, my husband says it's because we're both too alike and too thick headed to let it go. lol

The best solution to this problem was what bubbatd has mentioned and just change the conversation. My dad and I now know that there are some conversation that we cannot participate in, it's too much of a hot topic, so we don't bring it up. Life is just too short!

my daughter and i have a lot of those topics. WE agree to disagree but we still love each other. THat is the way it is suppose to be i think.
I don't want people to agree with me unless i am right. But i reserve the same with their voice as well.

 

[RedHotDobe]

Controlling a conversation means controlling what comes out of another person's mouth.. and you can't control people.. You can't control their thoughts or what they say.

If there is a way to control what comes out of other's mouths, please tune me in! I sure could use it both on forums and real life.

I can do it to people I've talked to before. You have to be able to predict what their reaction may be, and know what to say to elicit the reaction you want. It's hard to explain, but I can do it pretty effectively.