If your kid gives you any reason to suspect something then why not? You are their parent and not their best friend. Kids do lie. It is your job to care for them. Look at some of these adults that you see and think why did their parents not do something? Maybe they thought they were taking it to far.
I agree with this ^
I do look around at some adults and wonder why their parents let it get that far, or where were their parents before it got this bad. Even though I
KNOW some parents are good parents and some kids just choose what they choose and go down a bad road..........it's not always the parents fault, but it's still the first thing that comes to mind for most people.
I've said it before, but I'll say it again. If I have REASONS.....actual CONCERNS about what is going on with my kids, I ask. If I feel that didn't cover it, I'd snoop...........but let me tell you, I'd snoop RIGHT IN FRONT OF THEM. I would sit them down right in their room (or computer, or wherever) and let them watch me search and see exactly what I was doing. I wouldn't do it behind their back.
We knock on their bedroom doors, we don't eaves drop on phone calls, letters, notes, diaries, or computer conversations. If I have to enter their rooms for any reason when they aren't home, I inform them of the fact when they get home. They have their space and privacy.
If I have reasons to think they are using drugs or alcohol, I would talk to them.......I have talked to them about it in the past. And like above, if I didn't feel good about that talk or felt they weren't being honest with me, then yes, I think I could/would test them at home.
As for them asking
US for the drug screen? They are
OUR responsibility, legally and morally, until they are adults, not the other way around. I am of legal age to consume alcohol if that is my wish (I do have wine on occasion, LOL) Illegal drugs? I can see where that could affect
THEM if I were using, (I mean it could cause all sorts of family problems, it could break up the family if I were arrested/jailed, etc) so I would probably consent to showing them I was clean if they asked.