but I have to say this: You are missing what Tempura and I are trying to say. You stressing the "importance" of laughing at oneself is condescending. We are trying to say that it is NOT so freaking easy sometimes. It is NOT about the joke, or the laughing about it that took place after...thats fine...that stuff is funny to read. My issue is people making people feel stupid for having a harder time than others...
I guess it's hard to explain this sort of stuff to people who have no personal experience with social anxieities, or depression, or the like- but it doesn't mean that those feelings are less valid. They are perhaps simply outside your own realm of experience. Likewise, having those feelings doesn't mean that we just misinterpret people all the time- I find it interesting that the only sort of "apology" people who were hurt received, was along the lines of "we're sorry YOU don't understand this. We're sorry YOU don't think it's funny." It doesn't take a genius to realize that a statement like that isn't really an apology. Even just seeing someone take a modicum of responsibility for the fact that making light of the feelings of those that didn't think it was funny, wasn't the most kind-hearted approach would be refreshing. A little bit of tenderness goes a long way.
Sorry about the fact that this now seems off topic- must've posted at the same time as you, Grammy.