Just a bit of a vent

[AllieMackie]

I am so tired of dealing with family (mostly extended) who are not dog people. Finn's not badly behaved for the most part, but he's a lot of dog, and they can't handle that. The worst part is when I ask them to help me help him behave better by telling him OFF when he jumps, LEAVE IT when he gets obnoxious, etc, and they don't, because as soon as he's in their face in any way they're all "ohmygoodness ohmygoodness get him away oh my oh my" uuuuuuugh.

He just spent the entire morning locked in the basement because Matt's sister HAD to follow us home, and HAD to spend the entire morning cuddling the cat. Finn gets very interested in whoever has the cat, and she was tired of him following her around.

Shoot me in the face. And people wonder why I hermit in the house and don't want people coming over. Can I have a family of dog people, please?

 

[Laurelin]

Lol, well even having a family of dog people doesn't help all the time. My dad is definitely a dog person but he and Mia are on interesting terms right now... Mia is a bit difficult and he's figuring out that without constant supervision, she will get into something of some sort. He's also very annoyed that we have to go to extreme measures to keep her contained. Etc, etc.

I know he likes her but he's been griping about her to me too. I don't even really think about managing Mia anymore, I'm just so used to her, I guess.

 

[ACooper]

It's the pits I'm sure. You would think if they didn't want to be "bothered" by the dog, they'd keep their butt away from your house, LOL,

I'm lucky that my family all ADORES Phoebe, but she's nearly perfect in her manners with guests and easy to like. Orson is much more pushy, they don't complain about him, but I do put him in the bedroom until everyone is settled before letting him "scope out" everything. After he "scopes" I sometimes put him back away because it's just easier than staying on top of the situations, LOL

 

[Gena]

I feel your pain! My cousin was over last night and he's not been here before. He's a VERY large man...tall and muscle-y. He's also a bit of an idiot sometimes LOL! He had a puffy parka type coat, a beanie cap with a bill and he has a beard plus he's rather loud. The boys were NOT amused. After he gave the boys a few treats, they settled down about him. Then he decided to start stomping at them (like people do to instigate play), but they didn't think it was play. It took my sis griping him out and smacking him in the back of the head before he quit. In the end, they were both on his lap eating cheese, but I was *this* close to kicking him out.

 

[Southpaw]

Amen haha. Juno's not badly behaved, either, but she likes to greet everybody and she loves to shove toys in your lap so you'll play with her... and I'm the only person that isn't annoyed by that behavior. But no one else will pull her away or tell her to leave it, I just hear a bunch of "get Juno out of here!" Because I'm apparently the only person capable of doing these things.

 

[tessa_s212]

I'm in the crowd that if they don't' like my dog, they can stay out of my house

My sister is also having problems with her boyfriend's family. They think it is gross to allow animals to live indoors. Insanitary. She wants my sister to throw the dogs in the basement and never allow them in the rest of the house. And she's said she won't visit until my sister puts them in the basement, at least while she's over. She of course said Well good, then you won't be coming over! But.. the psychopath still comes over and then tells her again and again that the animals should be outside.

 

[Lizmo]

Wow, that is a pain. Especially since you didn't invite them over.

We had lots of family over for Christmas and they aren't really 'dog people'. Blaze put a paw on my aunt last year and she about screamed. This year since our house isn't huge and we have 4 dogs and lots of people were coming over I decided to put them all up in rooms/crates. It's less stressful for the dogs. I don't have to worry about one being let out accidently or someone getting mad one of the dogs. I don't mind the dogs being up for a few hours.

 

[KageandHorton]

My family are all dog people. My husband's family has never had dogs. When our puppy meet the kids from my side he leaned over and got pets from them and then basically ignored them. When he met the kids on my husband's side he started jumping and nipping them. I realized all my brother's kids know dogs well enough that when I said "don't jump" they understood why and just held their hands out to get sniffed. When I told my husband's families kids "don't jump" they just kept jumping and shrieking. They were then surprised the puppy started to get wild. It is a PITA to have to calm down a normally pretty calm puppy when the puppy did not need to get so wild in the first place.

 

[MandyPug]

Look at it this way...

It's better that they call you to come handle your dog rather than trying to dominate them or try to discipline their own way!

My girls are allowed on the couches whenever they want, it's their house too. However my parents have friends that despise dogs, they only have 2 Siamese cats and a fish i think... So I think it was Chai that jumped up on to the couch to her normal spot where the blanket is and the woman screamed at Chai and knocked her off the couch right on to her back and she slid/rolled into the stone bit on the fireplace. I was furious, i'd rather she have screamed out for someone to come get Chai rather than smacking her off the couch!

 

[tessa_s212]

Wow!! I'd be FURIOUS if someone did that, and they'd NEVER be allowed back in my house if that is the way they treat animals. Just wow.

 

[ACooper]

..........So I think it was Chai that jumped up on to the couch to her normal spot where the blanket is and the woman screamed at Chai and knocked her off the couch right on to her back and she slid/rolled into the stone bit on the fireplace. I was furious, i'd rather she have screamed out for someone to come get Chai rather than smacking her off the couch!

:yikes::yikes:

Um, ya........that person would have been told off and immediately asked to vacate the premises in no uncertain terms. (my gut reaction would've been to smack HER off the couch into the stone fireplace, but hopefully I could've swallowed that down, LOL)

I am not a kid/teen, don't have to live by anyone else's house rules, and THAT would have never been overlooked in this house!

I make every attempt to accommodate any guest in my home, (invited or not) I really do go out of my way to make sure people feel welcome and comfortable, but there are some things that I will not tolerate and that would be one of them!

 

[milos_mommy]

If your (general your) dog isn't well trained or is excessively pushy or...well...annoying, I think it's the right thing to do to put the dogs away for a little while ( a few hours)...however if your dog is well behaved and the guests just happen to have a stick up their behind, then I would certainly say "shut up or go home."

 

[winniec777]

I am so tired of dealing with family (mostly extended) who are not dog people. .... Can I have a family of dog people, please?

I so agree!! Whether the dog is fearful, like mine, or wants to be the life of the party, having non-dog people in your house can be a PITA, I agree. Finally, after a year and a half of being back in my home state, my family has learned to totally ignore the dog. They'll even feed her the treats I hand them. Still can't get them to use the commands I use (how hard is it to say "sit" or "down" or "shake" before giving a dog a treat???? ), but at least they're interacting with her at a level she can deal with. She even has come to love some of them and will lick them and rub on them for pets.

But it took a long time and many side conversations with individual family members during parties to explain (again and again) what was going on and why I needed them to do what I asked them to do. They get it now. But boy, that first year was a struggle.

Now if I can only get them to realize how fast a long-legged 65-70 lb dog is and how eager she is to get out that front door....They're totally oblivious and take zero precautions when coming into and out of the house.:headbanger:

 

[Snark]

So I think it was Chai that jumped up on to the couch to her normal spot where the blanket is and the woman screamed at Chai and knocked her off the couch right on to her back and she slid/rolled into the stone bit on the fireplace. I was furious, i'd rather she have screamed out for someone to come get Chai rather than smacking her off the couch!

Omg! :yikes: Did that idiot apologize at all?? I'd have a hard time not yelling at her even if she was a guest... I'd also hammer home how she'd feel if her cats were treated the same way.

I'm willing to rent my family out for a nominal fee... They all like dogs and my sister and sis-in-law were happy to sit on the floor and play a game of Puppy Ping Pong with Riley at Christmas.

 

[Dogs6]

I'll happily GIVE you my family who insist on giving the wrong commands to the dogs and are furious when they don't obey. Although I don't think my mum will make that mistake again lol. She tells the dogs to 'down when they are on the sofa when the command is 'off'. So one day when she was watching Fudge got on the sofa. She looked at me and I told Fudge to down which he did perfectly :lol-sign:


Have fun

 

[smkie]

I put my animals up when pretty much anyone comes over because this house is so small and Pepper still gets over zealous in her greeting. After awhile if my guest stays for some time I will take one out at a time and let them say Hello and then I expect them to go lay down in the room and be quiet which they do. I have family that didn't figure out dogs until late in life. THey always thought I was just about ridiculous. Now they are new dog owners and one was basically dangerous during the Christmas party. Growling and anxious at a 6 year old girl. STill they didn't put the dog away. I offered to get a leash.

I don't expect my company to see my dogs as I do. I personally want all my company attention.THe dogs are use to the routine and not bent out of shape. It's a good fit all the way around. I am happy, my company is happy and my dogs learn to mind their manners and stay quiet in the bedroom when I need them to.

When Zoomer comes with Sawyer or Jean with Higgs it is all off...it is zany and there is no way it's going to calm down until we get them to the park. THey are sooooo happy to see each other and they also know Disney Land is about to happen. You have to be fair in your expectations.:banana: