Ditto... there are times, when the only option is being brutally honest... and then what.. if someone is supposed to care about me, they arent supposed to lie to me, its about honesty and respect, so the way I see it, if they dont respect me enough to be honest with me, then I have no respect left for them, and I will be brutally honest about things... if thats what it takes, thats what it takes...
Is Something suddenly wrong with telling the truth???
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I just read this and you said that you never lie and then I got to the bottom and it says that every time you did lie it caused more problems I don't understand where you were going with this.
Does this mean you were lieing about not lieing......
You guys said you wanted brutal honesty well that line your ex always told is a very common break up line used by guys who don't want to tell the girl the truth about how they really feel.
Sorry but I just wanted to be completly honest with you guys!!!!
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Does this mean you were lieing about not lieing......
You guys said you wanted brutal honesty well that line your ex always told is a very common break up line used by guys who don't want to tell the girl the truth about how they really feel.
Sorry but I just wanted to be completly honest with you guys!!!!
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You guys said you wanted brutal honesty well that line your ex always told is a very common break up line used by guys who don't want to tell the girl the truth about how they really feel.
Sorry but I just wanted to be completly honest with you guys!!!!opcorn:
Sorry but I just wanted to be completly honest with you guys!!!!
opcorn:
You wanted honesty, don't ask if you don't want to hear.
This is exactly why people don't always need to hear the truth.opcorn:
This is exactly why people don't always need to hear the truth.
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so please before you reply again, at least know what the **** your talking about
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You said that you want to know the truth even if it is so brutal that it hurts. If you didn't want people forming opinions about your personal life you should have never brought it up.
I never made any negative remarks about your ex or you. Just stated that the quote you used is one of the most common break up lines in the book. (found on many sites to easily let her down)So what gives you the right to call my friends or me losers based on nothing, and not to mention the constant cussing witch if I remember right is not allowed.opcorn:
I never made any negative remarks about your ex or you. Just stated that the quote you used is one of the most common break up lines in the book. (found on many sites to easily let her down)So what gives you the right to call my friends or me losers based on nothing, and not to mention the constant cussing witch if I remember right is not allowed.
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I dont believe that anyone tells the truth all the time. And I dont believe that everyone wants to hear the truth all the time but if you ASK for the truth you should be prepared for it. I am willing to admit that I am not always truthful if I want to avoid hurting someone's feelings or uneccessary confrontation.
I try to be as honest as possible most of the time, I'll "lie" by omission or find a different way to phrase things, but apparently I have a very forceful tone much of the time and I come across "wrong" even when I don't mean to. I'm sure I have entire groups of people thinking I'm a bitch because of how I said something, even though I meant it compeltely different in my head.
I apologize to everyone that was reading this thread for what I was saying, but I wont apologize for saying it to someone that was being an ass...
but when you think you know someone and 6+ months down the road you find out they have lied to you about EVERYTHING... It hurt...
Hooray for my beginning of the new year
but when you think you know someone and 6+ months down the road you find out they have lied to you about EVERYTHING... It hurt...
Hooray for my beginning of the new year
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Actually I read the entire thread and what I got from it was someone who asked us to argue for or against telling the truth. But the someone who created the post was completely one dimensional in her posts.
All I was doing was trying to prove to her why we shouldn't tell the whole truth sometimes.
I know what I said crossed the line and shouldn't have been done.
The case is that somethings should be said but if you know that it will upset a person who really doesn't need to be upset at that moment you shouldn't say it. You should wait until they are emotionally ready to hear what you have to say.
And what I said wasn't just my words. I found numerous websites about letting your partner down easy and that was a common quote.
Personally I have never used it or would ever use it unless I really meant it, otherwise it would be a horribly thing to say.
All I was doing was trying to prove to her why we shouldn't tell the whole truth sometimes.
I know what I said crossed the line and shouldn't have been done.
The case is that somethings should be said but if you know that it will upset a person who really doesn't need to be upset at that moment you shouldn't say it. You should wait until they are emotionally ready to hear what you have to say.
And what I said wasn't just my words. I found numerous websites about letting your partner down easy and that was a common quote.
Personally I have never used it or would ever use it unless I really meant it, otherwise it would be a horribly thing to say.
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Dbleichner, there's a difference between being asked something and telling the truth, and just jumping in and being a jerk. Whether you were trying to prove a point or not, it was uncalled for. And I don't think she posted this to have us argue about telling the truth or not. I think maybe she was going through something and was looking for just a little support from those who have gotten to know and love her.
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I HATE lies. I can't lie. I have a mechanism in my brain that doesn't allow it.
Even white lies bother me.
When I ask someone something, I like to know they're being honest with me, and for those reasons, I will always be honest back.
Most people will come to me for a frank opinion, and some people will be sure never to ask me because they know they'll get a frank opinion lol, and they usually end up telling me anyway
You can be honest without hurting peoples feelings. If they have something they LOVE and you think it's ugly, you can just say... Well, I wouldn't pick it, but I probably don't have any taste anyway, I am pleased you really like it
And so on.
Same with babies... awwww look at how small it's EARS are... and so on. Babies generally do have some cute factor, even if it's the clothes they are wearing.
Even white lies bother me.
When I ask someone something, I like to know they're being honest with me, and for those reasons, I will always be honest back.
Most people will come to me for a frank opinion, and some people will be sure never to ask me because they know they'll get a frank opinion lol, and they usually end up telling me anyway
You can be honest without hurting peoples feelings. If they have something they LOVE and you think it's ugly, you can just say... Well, I wouldn't pick it, but I probably don't have any taste anyway, I am pleased you really like it
And so on.
Same with babies... awwww look at how small it's EARS are... and so on. Babies generally do have some cute factor, even if it's the clothes they are wearing.