Inviting guests on your honeymoon?

[Domestika]

Ok, this is strange.

A friend of mine is getting married next summer. I learned the other day that she's inviting her two good friends ON THE HONEYMOON. Oh, and a cousin might go as well. The bride and groom will be driving (to Vegas - barf) with the two other girls as passengers and the cousin will be flying.

Am I the only person who finds this strange? Have you ever heard of the bride inviting her friends and family on the honeymoon?

How do men feel about this? Would you want to go on a honeymoon with your wife's two best friends and a cousin?

 

[CaliTerp07]

Yeah, that's weird.

The only time I've heard of it is when it's a destination wedding, and everyone flies to hawaii or the carribbean for the week to see the wedding and spend time with the bride/groom. Often times though the couple takes off to a different island for a few days afterwards.

 

[release the hounds]

It wouldn't bother me one way or the other, unless I didn't like her cousin and friend.

 

[bubbatd]

I think it depends on the circumstances ......most couples today have their " honeymoon " way before they say their vows . I wouldn't have as it was the first night we spent together all night or even in bed together .

 

[ACooper]

I was going to say something along the same lines as grammy. A "honeymoon" isn't the same as it used to be, LOL, it's more like a vacation nowadays and nothing wrong with having friends and family around for that.

 

[M&M's Mommy]

I don't think it's weird at all as long as the couple have their own room, and have some times for themselves apart from the group to make their own memories .

On our 1st wedding anniversary, which fell on the same week with my bestfriend's honeymoon, we decided to go to Hawaii together. We each had our own room, and would book some activities together, and some separately. This way, all of us truly took advantage of both ways to have vacations: a fun one with friends & a private one just by ourselves.

 

[iluvdogs]

My parents took my grandma (my moms mom) on their honeymoon..LOL

 

[Fran101]

umm. no lol its definetly not something I would do nor is it something i'd heard of
honeymoon is about me and him. nobody else lol I'd save the group trips for later

 

[sparks19]

I think the only thing I find strange about that is it's all the bridesfriends... didn't the groom get to bring anyone? lol I think if I were the groom I might feel like a fifth wheel. The bride and her friends and family and the groom with no one?

 

[Kristy_Spca3]

I find that strange, I would definitely go alone with my husband on our honeymoon. When I get married I have no intentions bringing anyone else, I'd just be happy to have a night alone with him where no one can interrupt us by phone calls or whatsoever.

 

[Laurelin]

Yeah that's a bit weird. If I ever get married I want it to just be me and him.

 

[PoodleMommy]

I dont really find it wierd.

If I ever get married I want to get married on a Cruise Ship and then everyone who attend would also be on the "honeymoon", doesnt really matter to me.

 

[sparks19]

yeah lots of people just take a big vacation with friends and stuff for their "honeymoon"

the only thing I find strange is it's all her friends and family lol doesn't he get to bring a buddy? haha I would really feel left out if Brian brought all his friends and I didn't have at least one of mine even though I would be included in everything.

 

[Dreeza]

I think its really weird...especially, like others mentioned, that its all her friends. I guess if the explanation were that these were friends that they never saw, blah blah, then fine. But if these are friends that they will just see when the get home, then thats just weird. Your honeymoon is prob one of the few times that you will have to get away completely by yourselves. Just kinda strange to want to begin married life with others

 

[LauraLeigh]

I don't think it's weird at all as long as the couple have their own room, and have some times for themselves apart from the group to make their own memories .

On our 1st wedding anniversary, which fell on the same week with my bestfriend's honeymoon, we decided to go to Hawaii together. We each had our own room, and would book some activities together, and some separately. This way, all of us truly took advantage of both ways to have vacations: a fun one with friends & a private one just by ourselves.

That would be cool, and fun.....

I do think bringing along a few extra gals, and not a close couple friend is kind of odd...

With another couple, your own rooms, and time alone, I can see how that would be fun.

My hubby and I are close with another couple that we are planning a trip with, it will be an anniversary celebration as our dates fall close together. If we had known each other at the time, I know we could have done a joint honeymoon and had a blast while still having important alone time

 

[dogsarebetter]

we brought the kids with us on our hunnymoon



kids=dogs

 

[Gustav]

I'm not sure that the future hubby will be complaining.. Alone with 4 women?!!

But yeah, I do think it's a little strange.. Fair enough if you've invited EVERYONE, by why such a select few?

I dunno, maybe i'm old fashioned and not with it, but I certainly wouldn't want Florent's mother tagging along on my honeymoon.. Although she would think she was perfectly within her right to come, and would be seriously cross if we didn't take her..

 

[Domestika]

I think its really weird...especially, like others mentioned, that its all her friends. I guess if the explanation were that these were friends that they never saw, blah blah, then fine. But if these are friends that they will just see when the get home, then thats just weird. Your honeymoon is prob one of the few times that you will have to get away completely by yourselves. Just kinda strange to want to begin married life with others

That's a really good point...why WOULD you want to start your marriage with your friends there, every single step of the way. That's what the wedding and reception are for. For people to send you off. Then you head off as a married couple and enjoy your time together. It strikes me as strange that your friends would come to the wedding...come to the reception...and then get in the car with your and drive to your honeymoon as well.

These are definitely not friends she never sees. These are the two girls she goes to the bar with every weekend. They commonly refer to each other as "wife" and end phone conversations with "love you", if you that gives you an idea... I think the girls are accompanying them because they can't bear to be apart. Which is just really strange to me.

But it seems like you guys are pretty evenly split in whether or not you think it's ok to have friends tag along.

 

[sparks19]

Our honey moon was to go watch our friends play hockey that night and then have a few drinks and such in the parking lot after of course... our engagment was only like three days long haha.

I think these days a honeymoon is more like a regular vacation but when you get a bunch of girly best friends together (I know for me with my best friends anyway) it's all inside jokes that my hsuband doesn't get and doesn't WANT to get LOL.

 

[Dreeza]

These are definitely not friends she never sees. These are the two girls she goes to the bar with every weekend. They commonly refer to each other as "wife" and end phone conversations with "love you", if you that gives you an idea... I think the girls are accompanying them because they can't bear to be apart. Which is just really strange to me.

wow.

I guess every relationship is different...but thats a bit sick to me. I mean, I obviously believe that it is incredibly important to have strong friendships other than your S.O. but umm...your S.O. is supposed to be your "other half" not your other "one-eight". Makes me a bit concerned for their marriage...buuutttt, if everyone is happy, then well, I guess I can;t judge.