OK last try to see if you can follow this...
As for the rest who are jumping on my behind you can ignore the proof all you want and all the studies that are published in books; <snip> Letting babies cry it out unattended is wrong in my book.
Ok not ignoring it. Crying is bad for babies brains. Got it. But YOU say that choosing the option that reduced crying by ~80% is wrong.
This is why I find your 'studies' funny. They don't take into account what actually happens, only what they think happens. (not with the brain chemistry but with the baby)
CIO =3-5 min of crying
Walking and trying to sooth = 20min -1 hour of crying before he would fall into that exhausted traumatized sleep that article talked about.
So your arguments actually support CIO! as long as its the option the produces the least amount of distress to the infant imagine that!
I mean really I do love how you ignore what people post repeatedly and go on about CIO being a certian way, when none of us here have done it the way you describe.
As well Darien only went through a phase like that for a month or two. He never had issues with being left with baby sitters, day care. He had no issue going off to kindergarten, nor going off to spend time with family up at the cottage.
Oh and I can find scientific studies showing how 'attachment parenting' though its not called that can cause problems in children just like people in this thread are talking about.... I think you need to learn a bit more about science. It takes a LOT (a lot more than there is on this topic) to prove something. You can support a hypothesis or reject it, you can't conclude something true with a few studies.
(I would like to point out I do like a lot of what AP says, to me its all about listening to the child, but if the child doesn't want you right now.. you should listen to that. I do think AP can be taken too far, age wise. Ever spoiled horrible child I know had parents who continued to cater to the child through toddlerhood and beyond. I agree with giving a baby what they want, they don't have the cognitive ability to reason or rationalize)