me too. when i first got laney b. i was TOTALLY overwhelmed! i wasn't sleeping and it caused so much tensions between me and my partner... i was so close to giving her back! it was a daily struggle... i hated it...
now, she is much less of a stress to me, though i often overdo things to make her "happy" when i should probably think of me first... i have A LOT to learn. first, i need to learn to relax and trust that she's going to be okay. i only have to be good enough.
so i echo Dizzy! 100%. it was overwhelming for me and it sounds like it has been for you too.
i really admire how you have worked with it.. communicating.. searching for answers. . being honest! your puppy and your kids are lucky to have you. you're not a bad owner.. you're a REAL owner with real limitations.... that's human. the bad owners are the ones that have limitations, but can't admit it or don't know it.. and then they act all their sh** out on the animals... or their children.
i hope you do what's best for you.. and it sounds like you are.
good luck to you! good luck to us all
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