Well, I just had to endure 45 minutes of hell :yikes: I told you guys how Arielle finally realized Jake was not a good boyfriend for her. She's been avoiding him since Friday because she hasn't had a chance to give him his "dear John" letter she wrote him last night breaking it off with him.
He figured it out when he went to her myspace account and she blocked him and deleted all the things about him off her page. He started calling over and over again. She had her friend Kelly sleep over here last night and when Kelly went home this afternoon... TJ drove Arielle to her other friend Britney's house for the night. She's finally spending time with her friends and not him. So, I'm the only one home and I'm in my ratty old night gown because it was a lazy Saturday kind of day for me.
I'm sitting at my computer reading some posts here on chaz and all of a sudden my doorbell is ringing like crazy. It took me about 10 seconds to realize it was Jake. I ignored the doorbell that never seemed to stop ringing until he moved onto banging on all the windows on the front of the house calling her name and making a big scene out in my front yard.
This went on for about 20 minutes and I thought he finally gave up. Next thing I know he walks in my back door :yikes: The front door had been locked but he tried to get it open. It was obvious he was not welcomed in the house or I would have answered the **** door!
I quickly shut the computer room door and locked it. I didn't want him to know it was me home alone in the house because if he knew it wasn't Arielle behind the locked door he would have gone searching for her at her friends houses and I was fearful of her safety at that point because he was obviously unstable at this time. He went rummaging through her room and then had the balls to shove something in the lock and jimmy it open and try and push his way forcefully through the door I am leaning my full body weight against to keep him out. I'm a big girl and he's a skinny little thing.. I don't know where he mustered up the strength to get that door part way open and slide me backward across the carpet.
Thankfully I got enough strength up to slam the door shut again and managed to get it locked and then held onto the door knob as tight as I could to keep him from unlocking it again. At the same time I'm still leaning all my weight against the door. He kept trying to get in there and was getting madder and madder. He was slinging the "F" bomb around and then he punched the door when he couldn't get it open.
Then he proceeds to pick up the box of stuff she packed up of his and threw it across her room and trashed her room. I'm sure there's broken stuff under the mess... I just left it there. Oh, did I forget to mention that in the middle of all this drama he pauses long enough to say "oh, I think your dogs just got outside" He knows fully how much we love our dogs and they mean the world to us and we don't ever let them loose. He figured he would say that and she'd open the door.. which she would have if it had been her home here and not me. I saw through his little manipulative game and pretty much called his bluff as I prayed to God the dogs were still safely in the house. I chose to completely ignore him and his comments.
I had been calling TJ on my cell phone but kept silent. He could hear the commotion in the background and knew something was wrong and came right home. But he called the house phone when he lost his signal on the cell phone to me and Jake saw that it was TJ calling and he decided he'd better get out of the house. But just as Jake was heading down the driveway leaving TJ came home and confronted him. It wasn't until TJ came in the house that he knew what had all happened.
I am so ticked right now. He trespassed into MY HOME. He made me feel unsafe in my own home I was actually fearful of this skinny wimpy boy... the rage he had in his voice and his behavior scared me. My arms were even trembling as I held that door shut.
I requested a sheriff out to the house and told them what happened. I'm not certain if he took anything other than the stuff he may have bought her. But they said we could file burglary/trespassing charges against him even if he didn't take anything because he entered the home. He went through a gate and through my backyard to get to the back door that was unlocked. But as soon as he entered the property knowing he wasn't a welcomed guest he broke the law.
So, we could have had him arrested... but I didn't. I'm going to give him the benefit of the doubt that it was his emotions getting the best of him. I did, however, have the sheriff contact him right there on the spot and basically read him the riot act and let him know how close he came to going to jail and if he even as much as stepped on a blade of grass on our property that he would go to jail. And that they can keep this report an open case for 2 years and file charges against him anytime during that 2 years if he refuses to obey the orders to stay away.
So, now I have to contact the officer at the high school and let him know what's going on and have him keep a close eye out for any harrassment or stalking behavior from him. I don't trust him... he's libel to do something to Arielle because he is truly obsessed with her and has the attitude that "if I can't have her, no one can" I'm worried for her safety.
He figured it out when he went to her myspace account and she blocked him and deleted all the things about him off her page. He started calling over and over again. She had her friend Kelly sleep over here last night and when Kelly went home this afternoon... TJ drove Arielle to her other friend Britney's house for the night. She's finally spending time with her friends and not him. So, I'm the only one home and I'm in my ratty old night gown because it was a lazy Saturday kind of day for me.
I'm sitting at my computer reading some posts here on chaz and all of a sudden my doorbell is ringing like crazy. It took me about 10 seconds to realize it was Jake. I ignored the doorbell that never seemed to stop ringing until he moved onto banging on all the windows on the front of the house calling her name and making a big scene out in my front yard.
This went on for about 20 minutes and I thought he finally gave up. Next thing I know he walks in my back door :yikes: The front door had been locked but he tried to get it open. It was obvious he was not welcomed in the house or I would have answered the **** door!
I quickly shut the computer room door and locked it. I didn't want him to know it was me home alone in the house because if he knew it wasn't Arielle behind the locked door he would have gone searching for her at her friends houses and I was fearful of her safety at that point because he was obviously unstable at this time. He went rummaging through her room and then had the balls to shove something in the lock and jimmy it open and try and push his way forcefully through the door I am leaning my full body weight against to keep him out. I'm a big girl and he's a skinny little thing.. I don't know where he mustered up the strength to get that door part way open and slide me backward across the carpet.
Thankfully I got enough strength up to slam the door shut again and managed to get it locked and then held onto the door knob as tight as I could to keep him from unlocking it again. At the same time I'm still leaning all my weight against the door. He kept trying to get in there and was getting madder and madder. He was slinging the "F" bomb around and then he punched the door when he couldn't get it open.
Then he proceeds to pick up the box of stuff she packed up of his and threw it across her room and trashed her room. I'm sure there's broken stuff under the mess... I just left it there. Oh, did I forget to mention that in the middle of all this drama he pauses long enough to say "oh, I think your dogs just got outside" He knows fully how much we love our dogs and they mean the world to us and we don't ever let them loose. He figured he would say that and she'd open the door.. which she would have if it had been her home here and not me. I saw through his little manipulative game and pretty much called his bluff as I prayed to God the dogs were still safely in the house. I chose to completely ignore him and his comments.
I had been calling TJ on my cell phone but kept silent. He could hear the commotion in the background and knew something was wrong and came right home. But he called the house phone when he lost his signal on the cell phone to me and Jake saw that it was TJ calling and he decided he'd better get out of the house. But just as Jake was heading down the driveway leaving TJ came home and confronted him. It wasn't until TJ came in the house that he knew what had all happened.
I am so ticked right now. He trespassed into MY HOME. He made me feel unsafe in my own home I was actually fearful of this skinny wimpy boy... the rage he had in his voice and his behavior scared me. My arms were even trembling as I held that door shut.
I requested a sheriff out to the house and told them what happened. I'm not certain if he took anything other than the stuff he may have bought her. But they said we could file burglary/trespassing charges against him even if he didn't take anything because he entered the home. He went through a gate and through my backyard to get to the back door that was unlocked. But as soon as he entered the property knowing he wasn't a welcomed guest he broke the law.
So, we could have had him arrested... but I didn't. I'm going to give him the benefit of the doubt that it was his emotions getting the best of him. I did, however, have the sheriff contact him right there on the spot and basically read him the riot act and let him know how close he came to going to jail and if he even as much as stepped on a blade of grass on our property that he would go to jail. And that they can keep this report an open case for 2 years and file charges against him anytime during that 2 years if he refuses to obey the orders to stay away.
So, now I have to contact the officer at the high school and let him know what's going on and have him keep a close eye out for any harrassment or stalking behavior from him. I don't trust him... he's libel to do something to Arielle because he is truly obsessed with her and has the attitude that "if I can't have her, no one can" I'm worried for her safety.