Do you want kids?

[sparks19]

You guys are right. I still don't know if we will have another one or not but definitely nothing can happen u ntil Brian is recovered from his hip replacement he's having next week and until we figure out how to have a baby that wouldn't end up sleeping in a drawer in this little house lol. But who knows lol. It's true that our family dynamic is much different than my family dynamic when I was growing up and all my siblings are "half siblings" from other marriages and we only ever lived in the same houses for small periods of time so I'm sure that has more to do with our closeness than age does.

 

[stardogs]

Here you go sparks! No need for a drawer baby.

 

[sparks19]

Here you go sparks! No need for a drawer baby.

LOL awesome

 

[Romy]

You guys are right. I still don't know if we will have another one or not but definitely nothing can happen u ntil Brian is recovered from his hip replacement he's having next week and until we figure out how to have a baby that wouldn't end up sleeping in a drawer in this little house lol. But who knows lol. It's true that our family dynamic is much different than my family dynamic when I was growing up and all my siblings are "half siblings" from other marriages and we only ever lived in the same houses for small periods of time so I'm sure that has more to do with our closeness than age does.

Just wanted to chime in, my older brothers are 14 years older than me and my younger brother is only 10 months younger than me :rofl1: plus I have a sister 5 years younger.

I'm super super close with all my siblings. They are the best. It was so awesome having cool big bros in high school when I was little. We'd walk to the football stadium together and watch one brother play, so many good memories.

Your family is awesome and will be awesome no matter how it works out.

I wanted kids, and I got them. I'd planned to wait a few years after getting married but, well, birth control only works 99% of the time or something and over the years ended up with two unplanned. I'm really grateful for that though, because their dad turned out pretty nasty and abusive so the marriage is over but these two kids are the light of my life. <3

I'd kind of like to have more, but won't ever get married again. After what he did to me at the end, I don't think I could ever be in a relationship much less go through the procreating stuff that results in a kid. It probably wouldn't have worked anyway because my second pregnancy was super dangerous and my son and me both almost died during childbirth.

When my kids are grown or maybe are teens it would be pretty awesome to become a foster parent though.

 

[Oko]

My siblings are all much older/younger than I am as well. there is 20 years between my oldest sibling and my youngest sibling. NONE of us are close. We don't talk really unless we are up there visiting or they are here visiting. It's like being an only child with siblings if that makes sense lol. that's my only reservation. I don't like the idea of siblings who are so far apart that they don't relate and they just have older child/younger child relationship instead of sister/sister or brother/sister relationship.

does that make any sense at all? lol

I'm 7 years apart from my younger sister, and we're very close. I also have a brother that's 10 years older, a sister that's 6 years older, and another that's 3 years older, and we're all quite close to each other, FWIW.

On the actual having children subject, I don't know. For now, I think I'll be perfectly happy to just be a cool Auntie. But we'll see, I'm still young, there's plenty more time to figure it out.

 

[stafinois]

Because your child is perfectly awesome. No need to try again.

This so seriously! I posted I really only like babies, but I would love to have Syd.

She is pretty darned awesome. But, she's also a handful.

I don't know that we are doing it right, wrong, or different, but we make her fend for herself a good deal of time. She has been dressing and entertaining herself for some time. I sometimes encourage her to prepare her own food and do a lot of things on her own. Sometimes I feel cold about it, but we are setting her up to be independent. I hope.

We also talk to her like she's an adult. We explain things she's curious about, use grown-up language, etc. I think it has built her vocabulary, enthusiasm, and curiosity.

 

[AussieAshley]

Nope, I have never even had a slight feeling that I may want them. I can't say I even really enjoy hanging out other peoples either really. I am several years older than my youngest sibling who I more or less had to raise and I have very much a been there done that feeling towards raising children. I don't think my life is really stable enough to have them and to be honest I think I am far to selfish of a person to properly raise a child. So just dogs for me, and I am more than okay with that.

 

[Emily]

I don't think I ever had the deep burning desire to have kids but I wasn't opposed to it. Now that I have Hannah, it's the most amazing experience. I was always on the fence about having a second child because I'm just enjoying Hannah so much lol. Our house doesn't really permit adding a baby because we have NO WHERE to put a crib. But I am kind of regretting not having a second child when Hannah was younger. She always says she wants a sister but now that she's 6 and by the time baby was born she would be 7 and they would be so far apart in age it seems like it's too late

For what it's worth, I'm 6 years older than my sister and as young adults, we are super close. She is one of my best friends.

 

[*blackrose]

For what it's worth, I'm 6 years older than my sister and as young adults, we are super close. She is one of my best friends.

There are five years between myself and my younger sister and ten years between me and my youngest sister. Doesn't stop us from having a good time together. My youngest sister and I have Doctor Who marathons and my younger and I played together all the time as kids.

 

[Kootenay]

I can't really say yes or no at this point. I am very non-maternal, I have zero interest in children, I feel awkward around them, and when I see babies or pregnant women it sort of panics me. So, based on that I would say NO, however I have known various people who felt similarly and then the biological clock kicked in and they started wanting children. So I feel like I have to be open to that happening.

I am in a very stable long-term relationship, and I think we would make great parents.

Except I kind of just want more dogs, I feel like even 3 dogs with a kid would be a bit much, so I just don't know. I wouldn't want to end up giving the dogs the short end of the stick.

 

[Kootenay]

Oh and also I am 7 years older than my youngest sister (with one in between) and we are extremely close. Like, best friends. Well, both my sisters are my best friends.

 

[Romy]

Except I kind of just want more dogs, I feel like even 3 dogs with a kid would be a bit much, so I just don't know. I wouldn't want to end up giving the dogs the short end of the stick.

It really depends on the family, but I'm a single mom with 2 dogs and 2 children. My son is 2 and my daughter is 6. Somehow it all works out for everyone to get plenty of time. We do a lot of family outings together, like going for walks and things. Or I'll work on training out in the yard while my kids build a fort, and then they'll bring the dogs into the fort and play together. Or they'll dress the dogs up in tutus and bows and stickers. lol.

 

[Dogdragoness]

Oh and also I am 7 years older than my youngest sister (with one in between) and we are extremely close. Like, best friends. Well, both my sisters are my best friends.

I know this has nothing to do with this thread ... But I LOVE your dog Onyx ... She is SO beautiful ... I want to steal her NAO!

 

[Dogdragoness]

That's great to hear! My husband and I already agreed to the one free night a week thing (which I'll use for dog classes, and he'll use to play basketball). I hope that having only one kid will keep things manageable too, since most people I know with one don't seem overwhelmed, and most people with two talk about how they have no free time (but that might just be my coworkers).

Still, I do enjoy a good weekend hanging out and watching movies or reading a book (aka pretty much doing nothing!) and that seems unlikely to happen once we have a kid. But I think the fun of hanging out with my kid will make up for it.

That's why I don't want them, I like for us to be able to just up and go when we want to go ... You know ... Wherever; the store, mall etc. I mean I do have dogs but they are all at the age where they can be left at home in crates or in a room while I am gone for up to 6 hours if needbe ... Can't do that with kids

I have two neices (11 and 13) and a nephew (8) And while I love them to death, I really do ... They tire my ass out ... Quick! So it's nice to be able to give them back to momma xD

 

[Muttkip]

I thought I did....and I was having baby FEVER BAD! Then I got Outlaw and now I want nothing to do with kids because it would take time away from him, so I'm in the NO camp :rofl1:

 

[Miakoda]

I still can't get past that children with special needs are "its". I suppose the next step is to have them all culled so people won't be inconvenienced with having to look at and/or deal with them...?

 

[GipsyQueen]

Yes, with all my heart. I have baby fever on and off... have for years, and I'm only 22

 

[milos_mommy]

Oh, and to add to the big age gap thing: my brother and I are just shy of 4 years apart. We grew up hating each other and abusing each other. We get along now, but really aren't close. I love him, but we don't choose to hang out together or talk or anything.

My boyfriend has a sister 10 years younger. They are incredibly close...and even though he is a bit more of a supervisor than a typical playmate, they spend a ton of time together playing, bicker like typical siblings, etc. He's as close with her as he is with his brother who's 2 years apart.

I agree it depends much more on family dynamics and how the parents foster the sibling relationship rather thAn age.

Also, sparks, haven't you been considering adopting an older child? That would give Hannah a sib close in age, and that might be the route we take in 6 or 7 years...

 

[stafinois]

I still can't get past that children with special needs are "its". I suppose the next step is to have them all culled so people won't be inconvenienced with having to look at and/or deal with them...?

I've always understood the "as long as it's healthy" mentality, but it makes me cringe a bit inside. I doubt that many hope that their child is born with special needs, but will step up to the plate if necessary. I'm guessing that people don't realize how callous this can sound to those wearing those shoes.

At least that is what I'd like to believe.

 

[meepitsmeagan]

I'm undecided.

As of right now, DH and I are saying no to everyone who is asking. Realistically, 10 years down the road I think we may look at one... We've talked about fostering and possibly adopting, but cost may hold us back. We don't want to have a biological child as we both have health issues that are genetic and it would be wrong to chance that. I think having a little cowboy would be fun.

We both have VERY expensive hobbies and neither of us want to sacrifice those. I like the idea of being an aunt and I love babysitting my cousins two boys. I won't be upset if we don't end up doing anything child related.