Decided to rehome bruno

[Buddy'sParents]

Sorry, I stand by my proclamation that a dog is for it's life.. not just temporary or until the shoe doesn't fit anymore. Dogs are not disposable.

The issues with the dog should have been dealt with right away instead of letting it escalate. If this person was serious, they would be doing whatever they could instead of giving up.

 

[hedwig]

i train him 20 mins a day, i take him on the park on the other side of the fence and watch kids play. i take him to the shops and walk around inside with him while i shop.

he is so much better then he was.

he is the perfect dog he really is, the situation at the moment i admit is manageable but with my pregnant sister soon moving back here i HAVE to move out and soon!

i cannot afford to keep him becase i have to get a flat! im nearly crying because i got no idea what to do.

the house is not big enough for me n sister AND a baby plus i hate kids n i dont trust myself with it. i would kill it to shut ikt up!

i cant go councill because im in so much debt with them and i ran off and they lost track with me. i need another job but there are none.

i dont want to give him up but if someone can offer a better place then me then yeah great or would just foster him long enough for me to get a place.

and my relationship was stable when i got him with boyfriend. you never think it will end so how was i to no? my ex has a dog already n he is the sort that will take it to shelter n swap for another because he gets bored!

bruno was my dog! not his so he COULDNT of readopted him. i would of killed him if he did. and i rescued him myself from an abusive back ground

 

[ACooper]

I do agree with BP...........but if Hedwig has already given up, then this dog would probably do better with someone else. Not just temporarily, but permanently.

DOGS ARE NOT DISPOSABLE!

 

[savethebulliedbreeds]

The problem is, is I do think think this is a training issue more than a money issue. I am not really sure how you can work three jobs and not afford food?

We live on one income, (most of the time, other than my casual job) my husband is a construction worker (he doesn't make THAT much money). We can afford to buy dog food for 8 dogs, plus pay for regular vet visits, pay a mortgage and bills, renovate our house, pay for insurance, maintanence & loan payment on our vehicle and save for a trip. Yes, emergency vet bills can get a little tight but we still do it. We do it because we HAVE to. Because we took these dogs and they are now our responsibility.

I don't know maybe we just budget better...

ETA: I am sorry but this is kind of a touchy subject for me. I ended up up with most of my dogs because someone else didn't want them anymore because of a million different reasons.

 

[RD]

Tough times happen, Hedwig, and dogs will stick with you through them even if the two of you don't get the best of the best, all the time.

I do believe that there are some homes that are unsuitable for certain dogs (and I'm currently dealing with that situation right now) but it doesn't sound like that's the case with you and Bruno.

Why does getting a flat mean you can't have Bruno? You couldn't pinch pennies to feed and care for him? Is this really a money issue (as in, you don't have enough for you both to survive) or is it a spending issue (as in, you don't want to spend the money to keep Bruno anymore)?

 

[hedwig]

i have been trying to save for a flat for 6 monthes and i have £0 money saved up! my mum will end up kicking me out if i break anything else.

everything breaks if i even touch it!

i cant keep this up much longer i need a home of my own!

all im saying is IF someone who i think is suitable comes along to offer a stable home or foster him till i can get some sort of money together then great!

so basically what everyone is saying is stop whining and pull through it?

thats easyer said then done! i have had 6 monthes of crap with people who cant afford to keep me.

fine i will keep him but i will be living in this dump for the rest of my life with a growing dog living on pennys!


bruno is insured! as soon as i get payed the insurance goes out. i would never forgive myself if something happened to him.

i dont want to tie him down to someone as worthless as me! he could be a great family pet but is stuck with me struggling to dish out basics.

it might get better i dunno but im on the end of my teather! and i really cant take any more let downs. i now got to buy my mum new freezer parts n a tumble dryer because i happened to be near it as it broke!

 

[savethebulliedbreeds]

I think your situation sucks, hedwig. I understand what you are going through, but imagine how Bruno would feel if the only person he loves gives him away. Bruno doesn't care about getting expensive stuff. All he needs is food, water & you.

I don't mean to come down hard on you, I really don't but I just feel more for your dog because he doesn't have a choice in this matter.

 

[savethebulliedbreeds]

Wow, hedwig, I just went to the currency converter. I am very sorry. I can completely understand how you can barely buy food for him.

I didn't realize that 100 pounds was only $215.00 Canadian.

I sometimes spend that in a day!

I am very sorry for my lasts posts. If I would have known I wouldn't have come down on you so hard. I am very sorry. Please accept my apologies.

What is your minimum wage there??

 

[hedwig]

well its around £5.50 an hour. one job i get £6 pounds an hour, another job £5 and the last £3. i mean they are not long houred jobs so i want another job n still have some time left for bruno but because so many foren people are moving in brits dont get a look in. so many houses being built there are no jobs.

i cant get a full time job because of the location. im cut off n transport is a problem. not that there is full time jobs either!

ideally i would like £250 a week but i lucky if i £400 a month at moment!

 

[Doberluv]

Frankly, I think it's a kindness and a sacrifice to give up a dog to someone who can take better care of him and who isn't so stressed out. The dog will adjust in no time as long as it's a good home with loving people. It's too bad things weren't thought out thoroughly before getting the dog but situations change that most people don't have clairvoyant abilities for. Maybe when you're more settled and have a more stable life style, you can re-think getting another dog. But I'd put that off for quite some time until you're sure you can support it for it's lifetime.

 

[SummerRiot]

Very good post Dober..

I agree 100%

 

[BostonBanker]

If you decide to rehome him, please be very, very careful in selecting a home. Passing on a dog with an aggression issue isn't always easy. The last thing you want is for someone to get in over their head, have him bite someone, and then either a) get passed on to someone else, b) get put down, or c) end up with a sad, isolated life. Be 100% honest when talking to people. If anything, you need to exaggerate the problem so they are very aware of what they are taking on. Do not sugarcoat his issues.

I hope something works out for both of you; the sad truth is, not that many people are out their looking for an adolescent, large mixed breed who is a bite risk (I'm gathering this information from your posts on this thread, forgive me if it isn't correct). I help with a friend's rescue and it is something we have discussed. Does he have any potential as a sport dog? Usually people involved in dog sports are experienced handlers who can manage some behavioral issues if the talent is there. It may be a direction you could look in.

 

[Doberluv]

Thanks Summer Riot.

Good points BB. For sure he needs to be carefully placed.

 

[hedwig]

i always exhaduarate when i talk about him to people who try touch him any way because he will bite them.

and i would either get the place vet checked or check it myself or both even for fostering.

i really only want fostering but if a home props up then its better for him.
and i would never put him in a shelter, i would rather wait for a home to come up, and he isnt really a runner, he will sprint after something or "canter" beside me whilst i bike but other then that.

i think i will try for another job as i have been n hope i can then earn more and see if anyone can offer a foster home but no rehoming i think.

like you said, dogs are for life...

 

[StevePax]

I'm with Dober. If you can't care for your dog, give him to someone who can. Yes, take precautions on who you give him to, and all that stuff, etc, etc. But the dog needs to be cared for, and this person can't do it. To keep the dog in that situation would be cruel, if you ask me.

 

[taratippy]

i always exhaduarate when i talk about him to people who try touch him any way because he will bite them.

and i would either get the place vet checked or check it myself or both even for fostering.

i really only want fostering but if a home props up then its better for him.
and i would never put him in a shelter, i would rather wait for a home to come up, and he isnt really a runner, he will sprint after something or "canter" beside me whilst i bike but other then that.

i think i will try for another job as i have been n hope i can then earn more and see if anyone can offer a foster home but no rehoming i think.

like you said, dogs are for life...

Can I ask what you've tried already regarding rehoming him or getting him fostered?

There are many many rescues that will place a dog with experienced foster homes, have you tried contacting any rescues to help with rehoming and back-up if things should go wrong or with home checking (another thing I would insist on, not just a vet reference).

Personally if I ended up in your unfortunate position I would be on the UK rescue forums asking for help with either training or rehoming and can certainly recommend a couple (you may get some harsh questions but Im afraid you must be prepared for that) and Im sure you will get help with him.

Can I ask where abouts you are in the UK as Im sure there will be good rescue near to you.

Please be very careful if you are going to go about rehoming him on your own, as I say personally I would always be asking for rescue back up, just in case.

 

[hedwig]

i havent posted or asked around yet as im still in a faze of doubt.

 

[Labra]

You will struggle to find anyone who will adopt or rescue a dog with human aggression issues. A dog who "tries to bite when you touch him" is a potentially dangerous liability. Most rescue shelters will not take a dog with human aggression in and placing him in a pet home through your own means will be extremely diffcult. When the average person, couple or family looks for a dog, they want a safe, friendly dog and not one who is human aggressive. While I hate the be the bearer of bad news, that is reality. When there are so many friendly, tempermentally stable dogs in shelters, those dogs will get picked over the ones with baggage every time.

Can I ask, if money is an expense in regards to the dog, what exactly are you spending on him besides food? have you considered putting him on a cheaper brand of food? while it is not ideal, if I was in your situation my dogs would be on supermarket garbage long before I ever considered rehoming them.

 

[hedwig]

when i got him, the person didnt tell me he was aggressive or nervous.

i was very shocked when i got there and saw what i saw.

they basically told me what i wanted to hear, as i drove all accross the country to fetch him and dint really like the idea of leaving him with those people i still took him.

bad move but i thought exactly what your thinking now. what would happen to him if i didnt take him.

i am feeding him raw and as i have only just found a cheap dealer it was expensive. but now my main worry is my preg sis moving back here soon.

i will have nowhere to go with a nervy aggressive dog. thats why im in a panic to get a place! not because i want to!

things i admit were ok apart from never having money to put away, let alone for training.

and i recently bought a freezer to store food in thats another dint in my pocket.

at the end of the day as long as he has what he needs nn is happy im happy, wheather its with me or another kind person.

i admit the chance in finding him a new home are remote so i will have to bear it but i want to widen my options if i become homeless which may happen

 

[Sunnierhawk0]

Very sad situation all around.

I feel for you both. But it is a very humble thing to do, to try to give the dog a chance at a better life if you can't afford to give him one.

So many people are so quick to jump on people before they have even heard the whole story or situation. How judgemental people can be never suprises me. I imagine if the shoe was on the other foot, everyone of us would be trying to find our dogs a home to where they can have a life that we can no longer give them.