Hehe, I was opposed to cosleeping for us...then I had my daughter. It was co-sleep or get no sleep
Honestly, as I am not a naturally motherly type I feel in a way lucky that I had a very spirited and high needs first baby. If she had been super easy going I dont think I would've been pushed to really learn how to mother and nurture out of my comfort zone.
Babywearing, the slings, wraps, mei tais, etc arent important, but holding your baby and being close is...I just feel sad in this culture the push is often to immediately start pushing babies and children away. "Don't spoil them!" "They will never sleep on their own, walk, want to be put down, etc". It makes me
Mothering is a WONDERFUL resource. It is a huge forum and of course there is the expected forum drama but it is such an amazing starting point to research well, anything. I was quite active on the pet forum there years ago lol.
Natural Birth - for me its not that one HAS to go natural or taking medications, pain relief etc is a failure....because that is not the case. What it means to me is that women should take back the power and own birth. Don't let Drs and insurance treat it as a disease that needs a cure by a certain time in a certain time frame. Understand the very real risks of the drugs and procedures often used in hospitals and why they were first implemented...often NOT for the mother but to take power away from the mother
Lilah was planned natural, Cian was a planned homebirth. BOTH ended up c-section. I have no guilt over it, no remorse. Do I wish I had been able to deliver? Of course! Lilah especially, the drugs used and induction (water broke but then sealed back up...hindsight I shouldve just waited it out, instead I went to the hospital where they induced which, as she wasnt ready, didnt work) really caused some issues with her. She was a drugged baby when she came out and it took as awhile to get over that. She was not harmed medically or physically, but she was just not ready to come out. If I hadnt been so dead set on breastfeeding, it wouldnt have happened. We had a very rocky start and I almost gave up several times...my DH was awesome and was just so calm and matter of fact about it which really helped me.
Cian, I ended up with the epidural still (and csection of course) but no other drugs (pitocin) and was on the epidural for much less time. I had also gone into labor on my own with him (albeit 10 days "late"). Big difference when he was born. He was ready and it showed.
Gah, this post is kind of all over the place and I have to go get a couple things done...oh well lol, sorry for the rambling mess