Breastfeeding in public
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I think its both. He nurses a lot less when you are out and ab out with the pair of them but at home he is wanting to nurse a lot. He is still 99% breastfed.
He has never nursed for long sessions. Since a newb he was always doing short 5-10 minute little intervals. Quite often now it's a two minute thing and he is back to doing something else but he at least is asking to nurse once an hour. Some times he will go a bit longer, than ask double the next hour.
He has never nursed for long sessions. Since a newb he was always doing short 5-10 minute little intervals. Quite often now it's a two minute thing and he is back to doing something else but he at least is asking to nurse once an hour. Some times he will go a bit longer, than ask double the next hour.
Thanks for filling me in Breeze, I guess I've been spoiled by Carter's routine! I'm sorry, I didn't know nursing takes so much time. We had our precious time of it, but it was so early I didn't worry about him nursing constantly, and figures we would work on a schedule over time. Formula forced it pretty quick.
Paige, thanks too
Paige, thanks too
I have only read this far.... Will go back and continue but had to address this....
When I had my daughter, I was only 17... I was already judged on so many levels.... I breastfed for three months, with little to no support (think rural NS in the early 90's) my Mom tried but being a 70's baby I was from the era they pushed women to formula feed....
Anyhow, I was so upset by the "looks" and judgments already, and the ugly things I heard the few times I breastfed in public, I started making her wait rather than feed in public... Bad idea... At the three month mark I developed mastitis... It was AWFUL the worst pain I have ever been through, I was hospitalized for a week and forced to dry up..... I was so scared when I had my son I formula fed.... I regret to this day that I was not strong enough to stand up to these judgmental bullies......
When I see a baby nursing in public, I am so awed, somewhat envious and try not to stare because of the beauty of it.... If I catch the eye of a nursing mom I smile... A few times the Mom engages me in conversation and I always tell them how I admire them, and have shared my story with a couple...
Long story short, I find nursing babies and Moms a sweet, nurturing site that makes me go "awwwww" and always leaves a smile on my face!!!
When I had my daughter, I was only 17... I was already judged on so many levels.... I breastfed for three months, with little to no support (think rural NS in the early 90's) my Mom tried but being a 70's baby I was from the era they pushed women to formula feed....
Anyhow, I was so upset by the "looks" and judgments already, and the ugly things I heard the few times I breastfed in public, I started making her wait rather than feed in public... Bad idea... At the three month mark I developed mastitis... It was AWFUL the worst pain I have ever been through, I was hospitalized for a week and forced to dry up..... I was so scared when I had my son I formula fed.... I regret to this day that I was not strong enough to stand up to these judgmental bullies......
When I see a baby nursing in public, I am so awed, somewhat envious and try not to stare because of the beauty of it.... If I catch the eye of a nursing mom I smile... A few times the Mom engages me in conversation and I always tell them how I admire them, and have shared my story with a couple...
Long story short, I find nursing babies and Moms a sweet, nurturing site that makes me go "awwwww" and always leaves a smile on my face!!!
I wanted to add- not everything that is natural is good. Nature does a lot of things that are bad. LOL! Not that breastfeeding is, but I hate the whole "its natural, that means its good" thing.
I have very bad anxiety, and that is something *I* have to deal with. I can't just expect everyone to stop making eye contact with me, or staying at least 5 feet away from me all the time, or never touch me. I wish that were the case. LOL! I guess my point is, it may be uncomfortable, but that really is a personal problem. With that said, if something is REALLY distracting, like a child screaming, or running around, or a grown up swearing loudly, or whatever... yeah, that is something that needs to be stopped. But, I have never seen a woman breastfeed in a way that was obnoxious.
Something that really bothers me are the super short shorts that girls wear these days. The ones that look more like underwear. Uhm... that just seems slutty and completely innapropriate. Or, those girls who's shirts are so low cut that you can almost see their nipples... how is that "more" appropriate that breast feeding? Its all boobs, one is just meant to be sexual and the other isn't. Is being provocative and sexual better and more accepted than being as modest as possible while feeding a child?
The world is full of things we don't like. I mean, I am the expert on that! I don't really like most people, and I really dislike most children, and am almost magnetically repelled from any sort of baby. I feel uncomfortable just going to the grocery store, if someone there looks at me. But, we (and our dogs, actually) have to go through life learning how to better deal with things that upset us.
I have very bad anxiety, and that is something *I* have to deal with. I can't just expect everyone to stop making eye contact with me, or staying at least 5 feet away from me all the time, or never touch me. I wish that were the case. LOL! I guess my point is, it may be uncomfortable, but that really is a personal problem. With that said, if something is REALLY distracting, like a child screaming, or running around, or a grown up swearing loudly, or whatever... yeah, that is something that needs to be stopped. But, I have never seen a woman breastfeed in a way that was obnoxious.
Something that really bothers me are the super short shorts that girls wear these days. The ones that look more like underwear. Uhm... that just seems slutty and completely innapropriate. Or, those girls who's shirts are so low cut that you can almost see their nipples... how is that "more" appropriate that breast feeding? Its all boobs, one is just meant to be sexual and the other isn't. Is being provocative and sexual better and more accepted than being as modest as possible while feeding a child?
The world is full of things we don't like. I mean, I am the expert on that! I don't really like most people, and I really dislike most children, and am almost magnetically repelled from any sort of baby. I feel uncomfortable just going to the grocery store, if someone there looks at me. But, we (and our dogs, actually) have to go through life learning how to better deal with things that upset us.
All I know is that I love you.
Seriously, you have the most down to earth personality and the kindest heart. You're the kind of person, while we may disagree on many things in life, we'd still be good friends.
As to breastfeeding, respect needs to be given all the way around. People need to realize that babies are just that - innocent babies. And when they're hungry, they're hungry. To me, the saddest thing is to watch a hungry child crying for food and not be able to do something about it.. On the other side, if you're at a restaurant and you need to feed your baby, and there's another family across from you that consists of young boys in the 9-13 age group, please don't flash your nipple just because you can. (My sis-in-law decided to nurse while we were all out at a restaurant, and she refused any type of cover - or tact -, and a family with two young boys were right across from us. Those boys saw nipple and all, and they turned sooo red and kept looking at the floor or the ceiling, because if they looked across to their parents, they saw M as well. I understand they were "old enough to know better, but that's an awkward age and an awkward sight for them. So in that case, M should've done what she could've to be discreet in such a situation)
The breastfeeding debate will always be a hot issue, and the issue is mostly between moms.
I have never in my life been treated so badly as I have by mothers pushing breastfeeding. It didn't matter that Cole was born without the sucking reflex, I should've demanded they only had me breastfeed (they did encourage it when he was older and stronger, but he never had a strong enough latch and he tired too quickly....so I pumped, bottlefed breastmilk comvined with formulas as was needed for calories, protein, and Vitamin D and we had plenty of skin-to-skin bonding time). With Carson, my milk never came in (not even colostrum). So I was tarred and feathered and called lazy and told it was all a cop-out. With Cooper, it was right back to latch issues, and the frustration of it (with nipples that looked like something out of a grinder) combined with trying to be a caretaker for my Dad, who was dying and died just 4 months later, plus two REALLY bad bouts of mastitis (think pus and blood coming from nipples), and it was all too much. Again, I was called "lazy", and I was pretty much told that I could not possibly care for the health and well-being of my children, and that I should t have any more.
I have horrible memories of the verbal abuse inflicted upon me by other breastfeeding mothers, so to me , I stand by each mom and the decision she makes for herself and her baby. It's not an attack of "formula moms" on "breastfeeding moms".....it's 50/50 each way, IMO.
Seriously, you have the most down to earth personality and the kindest heart. You're the kind of person, while we may disagree on many things in life, we'd still be good friends.
As to breastfeeding, respect needs to be given all the way around. People need to realize that babies are just that - innocent babies. And when they're hungry, they're hungry. To me, the saddest thing is to watch a hungry child crying for food and not be able to do something about it.
. On the other side, if you're at a restaurant and you need to feed your baby, and there's another family across from you that consists of young boys in the 9-13 age group, please don't flash your nipple just because you can. (My sis-in-law decided to nurse while we were all out at a restaurant, and she refused any type of cover - or tact -, and a family with two young boys were right across from us. Those boys saw nipple and all, and they turned sooo red and kept looking at the floor or the ceiling, because if they looked across to their parents, they saw M as well. I understand they were "old enough to know better, but that's an awkward age and an awkward sight for them. So in that case, M should've done what she could've to be discreet in such a situation)The breastfeeding debate will always be a hot issue, and the issue is mostly between moms.
I have never in my life been treated so badly as I have by mothers pushing breastfeeding. It didn't matter that Cole was born without the sucking reflex, I should've demanded they only had me breastfeed (they did encourage it when he was older and stronger, but he never had a strong enough latch and he tired too quickly....so I pumped, bottlefed breastmilk comvined with formulas as was needed for calories, protein, and Vitamin D and we had plenty of skin-to-skin bonding time). With Carson, my milk never came in (not even colostrum). So I was tarred and feathered and called lazy and told it was all a cop-out. With Cooper, it was right back to latch issues, and the frustration of it (with nipples that looked like something out of a grinder) combined with trying to be a caretaker for my Dad, who was dying and died just 4 months later, plus two REALLY bad bouts of mastitis (think pus and blood coming from nipples), and it was all too much. Again, I was called "lazy", and I was pretty much told that I could not possibly care for the health and well-being of my children, and that I should t have any more.
I have horrible memories of the verbal abuse inflicted upon me by other breastfeeding mothers, so to me , I stand by each mom and the decision she makes for herself and her baby. It's not an attack of "formula moms" on "breastfeeding moms".....it's 50/50 each way, IMO.
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This. I said I was uncomfortable seeing a woman breastfeed. But I'm also uncomfortable when people bring children in public (especially if they try to interact with me), or when people bring unruly, loud dogs in public, or when people ask me stupid questions....I could go on and on. I'm not saying that dogs and children and nursing babies shouldn't be in public - that's not logical or fair. I would never expect someone to remove themselves to make things more convenient for me - that's ridiculous. I'm just saying that it makes ME uncomfortable, and that's not something I can change or help, it's just how I am.
This. I said I was uncomfortable seeing a woman breastfeed. But I'm also uncomfortable when people bring children in public (especially if they try to interact with me), or when people bring unruly, loud dogs in public, or when people ask me stupid questions....I could go on and on. I'm not saying that dogs and children and nursing babies shouldn't be in public - that's not logical or fair. I would never expect someone to remove themselves to make things more convenient for me - that's ridiculous. I'm just saying that it makes ME uncomfortable, and that's not something I can change or help, it's just how I am.
Me either, unless they go together like the rice & refried beans at a Mexican restaurant or something like that. Lol I still get made fun of for it.
Look it's not I verbally attack someone brestfeeding but it seems that thr few times I have seen it they have been those no-cover, allergic to modesty don't care who they flash ones, thr first time was when I was a kid... Guess that's why it gives me the willies now cuz I was scarred as a kid.
But seriously, for the sake of everyone else around you (& this is to no one in particular) please use a blanket & be discret
Look it's not I verbally attack someone brestfeeding but it seems that thr few times I have seen it they have been those no-cover, allergic to modesty don't care who they flash ones, thr first time was when I was a kid... Guess that's why it gives me the willies now cuz I was scarred as a kid.
But seriously, for the sake of everyone else around you (& this is to no one in particular) please use a blanket & be discret