To hear all this "I was NEVER punished as a child" honestly scares me,
im one of those NEVER punished kids...
but i wasnt NEVER punished because my parents let me get away with being naughty...
i was never punished because i was genuinly a good child...
they never NEEDED to punish me.
all my mum or dad would ever have to do was sit me down, look directly at me and in a firm slow voice tell me to stop, or explain why i shoudlnt do anything and that was ALL i needed, whatever it was i got talked to for i would stop IMEDIATLY.
i never needed a spaking, i never needed my mouth washed out with soap, i never needed time outs or privledges removed, i played quietly, i enjoyed life, i got dirty and had fun, but when my parents told me to do something, i did it...
they never once had to PROVE them ment it because i knew it just form the tone of their voice...they never needed to show me what would happen if i didnt stop, they never felt a need to "prove" their power because i never gave them a reason to.
assuming a child wasnt punished simply because their parents were pushovers and let them get away with being nauthty is a rather large generalization, based on an assumption, that in this thread particularly was directed at a slect group of people.
and ill say it again...
i was NEVER punished, they never needed to, and to this day ive never smoked, done drugs, drank without their knowlege and permission, drank to exces, stolen, cheated, been in trouble with the cops, heck i dont even go more than 7mph above the speed limit!
i was a very good child...
both my siblings were raised the exact same was and are also geniunly good kids...
i do agree that kids need to learn respect...
i have no problem with people spanking for good reason (a licking with a belt for taking a cookie is excessive, but your kid runs towards the road after being told no, thats fine) i have no problme with time outs, loss of privledge ect...
i feel that a parent should do what they need to to teach their child RESPECT...but teaching them FEAR is another thing completly...if your going to spank a child for running out into the road, thats fine, but if there old enough to understand you should also explain WHY they got in trouble...
my parents didnt have to use any kind of physical punishment (be it spanking or privledge) to earn our respect as kids, even to this day, we are FRIENDS and have great relationships with our parents but they are also still PARENTS.
just because you dont feel their methods would work for you does NOT mean that we were naughty children who got away with everything simply becasue we "wernt punished", it simply means that in our cases, our parents never NEEDED to punish.