Why do people say this?

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are you telling me my marriage is doomed in ten minutes :yikes: :lol-sign:
That may depend on how much sleep that unborn baby's letting you get!! And how much grumpiness your hubby can put up with! But you won't hear me saying 'I told you so":D
 

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Just curious..... but why do people always say:

"I would love to ask these people this same question ten years from now"

Why?

I have seen it in threads about marriage.... I have seen it in threads about religion..... I have seen it in threads about kids.

What is the meaning behind this?

Are you convinced that in ten years I will not love my husband as I do now? Are you convinced that I am weak in my faith and will not have it ten years from now? Are you convinced that I will be a bad parent and will have taught my kids nothing ten years from now?

I know others have commented on these comments before too.

Why do people say this? What are you hoping to prove? That in ten years we will all be miserable? Are you trying to tell us we are stupid for believing what we believe now?

I'm just not sure of the true meaning behind such a statement.
If you read my post..... I was specifically referring to the one posted in a MARRIAGE thread.

I just happened to see it again from you and it reminded me that I wanted to ask why people say that. it struck a much stronger cord with people in the marriage thread (and it always turns up in marriage threads too for some reason)

I know I don't have experience with raising children..... I hope I can do a good job and I think it better to have some sort of guidelines to how I would like to try to raise them than have no idea at all.

But honestly this wasn't about just you and your post. This statement has been made many many times by many many members in many many threads. yours just happened to be the straw that broke the camels back so to speak.

I GET your reasoning behind posting what you did. I get it, I do. It's just that most of the time that statement comes across as smug and condescending.... and I am apparently not the only one that views it that way.
From your original post--it sure looked like it came from my comments--happy to hear it is not just from me. Nothing smug or condescending behind my post--you would know it if it was. I find it interesting though that the reaction is a negative one--why is that? Time is a teacher...that is what those words mean. Good, bad, or somewhere in between...time is a teacher.
 

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That may depend on how much sleep that unborn baby's letting you get!! And how much grumpiness your hubby can put up with! But you won't hear me saying 'I told you so":D

LOL OOOOOOOOOOOOH NO.... he's not getting out of this THAT easy lol..... I will tie him down if I have to hehehe
 

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From your original post--it sure looked like it came from my comments--happy to hear it is not just from me. Nothing smug or condescending behind my post--you would know it if it was. I find it interesting though that the reaction is a negative one--why is that? Time is a teacher...that is what those words mean. Good, bad, or somewhere in between...time is a teacher.
Ok now this is gonna get confusing..... in response to your post about overkill you quoted my post in which I specifically mentioned that the one that struck the strongest cord was the marriage one..... yours just happened to come at an unfortunate time.
 

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...and she bursts into song with the first of a series of songs on Time!

Time, time, time
See what's become of me
While I looked around
For my possibilities
I was so hard to please
But look around
Leaves are brown
And the sky is a hazy shade of winter

Hear the Salvation Army band
Down by the riverside
It's bound to be a better ride
Than what you've got planned
Carry your cup in your hand
And look around
Leaves are brown
And the sky is a hazy shade of winter

Hang onto your hopes, my friend
That's an easy thing to say
But if your hopes should pass away
Simply pretend
That you can build them again
Look around
The grass is high
The fields are ripe
It's the springtime of my life

Seasons change with the scenery
Weaving time in a tapestry
Won't you stop and remember me
At any convenient time?
Funny how my memory skips
While looking over manuscripts
Of unpublished rhyme
Drinking my vodka and lime
I look around
Leaves are brown
And the sky is a hazy shade of winter

Look around
Leaves are brown
There's a patch of snow on the ground
 

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Time is a teacher...that is what those words mean. Good, bad, or somewhere in between...time is a teacher.
Interestingly enough, the sermon at church last Sunday talked alot about how people change over time. He gave examples of himself....things he thought were okay at one time in his life that he no longer saw as okay, etc. He also talked about how he had changed in his religion, too. He still believed the basic things, but different scriptures seemed to hold different meanings now than he had seen in them previously, etc.

None of that is relevant to this thread, I just thought it was interesting in the timing!!

Time and circumstances do change people. Just things that my parents used to say that I would, at least inwardly, roll my eyes at, started making sense once I had children of my own. Not that I necessarily thought everything they said all of a sudden were right, but I could see their point of view much better. And, I even do agree with them more often than I would have ever thought years ago!
 

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speaking of changing with time.....

If I knew a few hours ago that this thread would prompt TM to start singing I never would have started it :D
 

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Sparks ... you and Pucky boy are a forever couple ..... because you both give and take and have VALUES !!! Your baby to be is blessed ! No marriage is all wine and roses , but I don't see either one of you cheating on each other ..... trust and honesty is what keeps a family together .
 

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Sparks ... you and Pucky boy are a forever couple ..... because you both give and take and have VALUES !!! Your baby to be is blessed ! No marriage is all wine and roses , but I don't see either one of you cheating on each other ..... trust and honesty is what keeps a family together .
Very true. and thank you.

and if it weren't for all the "I told you so" type relationships (the ones people say will never make it) I wouldn't appreciate and respect this relationship as I do now. So with every dark cloud there really is a silver lining and a lesson to be learned from it. Heartbreak and disappointment were nessecary to bring me to this point.
 

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well, if we're going to sing:

You who are on the road
Must have a code that you can live by
And so become yourself
Because the past is just a good bye.

Teach your children well,
Their father's hell did slowly go by,
And feed them on your dreams
The one they picked, the one you'll know by.

Don't you ever ask them why, if they told you, you would cry,
So just look at them and sigh and know they love you.

And you, of tender years,
Can't know the fears that your elders grew by,
And so please help them with your youth,
They seek the truth before they can die.

Teach your parents well,
Their children's hell will slowly go by,
And feed them on your dreams
The one they picked, the one you'll know by.

Don't you ever ask them why, if they told you, you would cry,
So just look at them and sigh and know they love you.



May be a song way before any of your generations!
 

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It is difficult to live in the present, ridiculous to live in the future, and impossible to live in the past. Nothing is as far away as one minute ago.
-Jim Bishop
 

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shut up? You can't talk to me like that
Ok I'll apologize but then you will have to listen to my video. I'll leave it up to you. I'll wait...
:D

...clearing my throat and practicing my notes. Closing the window so the dogs don't gather under it...
 

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