What do you do when you...

[Mayasmydobe]

... are hurting becuase of a situation your in?

You have two options,
Speak up or stay quiet and hurt

speaking up could either make the situation all better and take away the hurt...
Or, you could end up really messing up the situation and leave you hurting even worse...


This is about Kyle... yes I still really care for him.
We are back to being best buddies again, have been for a long time now, and I STILL feel the chemistry I felt before... only this time something is different and I dont know really how to explain it...
Ever since what happened this summer, I have noticed that I avoid looking into his eyes.
Another thing I have noticed recently is the tone in his voice... it's alot softer and gentle, more relaxed when he's talking to me than when he is talking to other people (his friends). I dont know what to think of that, its just an observation.

He also showed last night that he is protective of me. I dont remember if I mentioned it, but a while back, I got hit by a drunk guy at a bar... well last night we were talking about my friend that went back with her abusive boyfriend and I mentioned the bar guy and apparently I hadnt told Kyle about it... Kyle freaked out. He was like "Why didnt you call me, I would have been there in a matter of minutes and the guy would be seriously regretting laying his hands on you like that" He said that he wont tolerate anybody hurting his "Sir" (thats my nickname from him... he's my "Ma'am")

Speaking of the serious side of Kyle... which doesnt come out often... its amazing when it does. He recently gave me some advice about a sensative subject and omg that man is seriously wise and amazing.

We are going shopping on Sunday, just to get out of town for a day. and he is teasing me becuase I refuse to drive in Des Moines (where I think we are going). lol... but he says he's okay with driving.

I know this is long and doesnt make any sense... i just need to get things off my chest.

I hadnt intended to write so much... but once I started writing it just kept going and going... lol
and just for me to have another excuse to look at it... here's my favorite picture of Kyle...

:music_guitarred:

 

[jess2416]

Speak up....

 

[Renee750il]

Sounds like you need to keep letting Kyle work his way to, well, to whatever he works his way to. You know what happened last time you tried to hurry things along

 

[Mayasmydobe]

I know Renee--- thats why I have kept my mouth shut about my feelings.. I am terrified of that happening again. But in the mean time... I am hurting... 'bleh... i hate this. I just wish he would let me know one way or another
He has to know how I feel... theres no way he doesnt. lol...

Im just scared becuase Kyle is pretty quiet about his feelings, especially if he thinks it could hurt him. I am afraid that he wont ever be able to tell me...
I keep trying to tell myself not to judge the situation... but I just feel something there ya know?

 

[Renee750il]

When you get too impatient, remind yourself how you felt when you lost your best friend Then decide if it's time to ask him how he feels.

Sometimes people need a nudge, some people really do need to have it laid out it in the open and some people you have to let come to things in their own way, in their own time. The trick is figuring out which kind you're involved with . . .

And how much you can take.

 

[Mayasmydobe]

im going to just keep quiet untill he gives me a clear sign that there is something there...


Oh.. lol instead of making a completely new thread about Kyle... I'l just put it here... I am soooo proud and happy for him! He runs a computer repair business out of his house... and he just got funding to purchase land and build a building for his business! he plans on having an apartment built as the upstairs and living in the new business... right now he lives with his mom... but he owns the house. He told me that he met with a bank and the City people and they told him that they really want to get him into a building and help his business grow as they think it would be really beneficial to the city
I told him that he's going to the top with this and he said "Im taking you with me!"

 

[Renee750il]

Well then . . . . I think you just need to be patient

 

[Barb04]

I agree with Renee. Take it slow and easy and things will fall into place.

 

[bubbatd]

Agree.... don't rush !

 

[MisssAshby]

Pushing him into something he isn't ready for is only going to make things worse. Once he comes to you with his feelings you will be so glad that you waited and let him come to you on his own terms.

I kind of went through the same thing with my husband. I was always fishing for information (about us) and then one day I decided to just leave things alone.

About a month later we were casually talking and I asked, "What are your plans for us?" and he responded with, "to make you my wife". I was left speechless...

Remember that the best things in life are worth waiting for...

 

[cinnamon]

Well then . . . . I think you just need to be patient

Agree with you.

 

[Samantha's pet]

I agree w/ waiting. I am nit sure what happened last time but from the way it sounds he isnt going anywhere so there's no real pressing need to reveal your feelings right now. It sounds like he has feelings for you and if something bad happened last time you told him how you felt I would just wait. It sounds like things are going somewhere. And again if he isnt about to move away or persue another relationship then I would be patient and enjoy what you have now as it sounds like it could progress into something more.

 

[noludoru]

I can't add anything, but ((((((((((HUGS)))))))