I really need help. My mother and father are being so ridiculous when it comes to my in-laws and now my sister is on their side. I can't handle this any more.
Thanksgiving: we went there around 12 or 1, ate at like 2, left at 4. Got to my parents by 5. Had dessert. Sister left at like 7. Parents were so angry that I spent "more time" with my in-laws that we spent all day that sunday with parents.
Two weeks ago: in-laws had gigantic garage sale at their house so we could get rid of our extra furniture. My parents were mad because I saw them on Friday, Saturday and a little on Sunday. We took my parents out for a nice dinner and dessert that night because I knew they were upset.
Christmas: original plan was not to see anyone on Christmas Eve and spend it by ourselves, you know as our first Christmas as husband and wife. My family wants us over at 10a tomorrow to open presents, and then they are doing dinner at 3 or 4. That means we won't get to his family until after 5, and we wont see his sister. So we said we will see her tonight.
I got a scathing email from my mother on how I like his family more, talking derrogatorily about his family and how its not fair I spend more time with them than my family and how if I go to church with them I might as well raise my kids atheist because she wont care what I do anymore.
I honestly cannot handle this and I have no idea what to do. They are making my first four months of marriage he** with tit for tat. I work 50+ hours a week and he does roughly the same. I see him at night for like 2 hours before we have to get up and do it all over again. He works saturdays, so the only time I see him all day is sunday. I cant help that his parents are 10 minutes away and mine are an hour. I cant help that they make plans with us and mine wait for me to make plans w them. Or that when she tries to make plans with me she double talks and makes me feel bad about her feeling bad shes taking my only day to spend w my husband w them.
I don't know how to resolve this issue and have been crying since this morning when my sister kind of agreed with them (she also said shes staying out of it).
The only way I can see change is for me to never see his family ever again. And thats not fair to his family.
Im sick of being put in the middle.