The Venting Thread
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Gah Discovery certainly isn't what it used to be.
I'd definitely jump at the chance to marathon some of their more traditional programming like Globe Trekker or Planet Earth. Not this reality nonsense.
...But then again I guess "TLC" used to actually be The Learning Channel instead of "Omg look how many kids I can have!"
Blech.
I'd definitely jump at the chance to marathon some of their more traditional programming like Globe Trekker or Planet Earth. Not this reality nonsense.
...But then again I guess "TLC" used to actually be The Learning Channel instead of "Omg look how many kids I can have!"
Blech.
i hate the holidays and i hate my birthday. everywhere i look and everywhere i go and everything i hear just rubs salt in my wounds of "nobody likes you, you have no family, you have no friends, nobody gives half a **** about you or anything about you". sigh. work today is going to be very very hard.
I really need help. My mother and father are being so ridiculous when it comes to my in-laws and now my sister is on their side. I can't handle this any more.
Thanksgiving: we went there around 12 or 1, ate at like 2, left at 4. Got to my parents by 5. Had dessert. Sister left at like 7. Parents were so angry that I spent "more time" with my in-laws that we spent all day that sunday with parents.
Two weeks ago: in-laws had gigantic garage sale at their house so we could get rid of our extra furniture. My parents were mad because I saw them on Friday, Saturday and a little on Sunday. We took my parents out for a nice dinner and dessert that night because I knew they were upset.
Christmas: original plan was not to see anyone on Christmas Eve and spend it by ourselves, you know as our first Christmas as husband and wife. My family wants us over at 10a tomorrow to open presents, and then they are doing dinner at 3 or 4. That means we won't get to his family until after 5, and we wont see his sister. So we said we will see her tonight.
I got a scathing email from my mother on how I like his family more, talking derrogatorily about his family and how its not fair I spend more time with them than my family and how if I go to church with them I might as well raise my kids atheist because she wont care what I do anymore.
I honestly cannot handle this and I have no idea what to do. They are making my first four months of marriage he** with tit for tat. I work 50+ hours a week and he does roughly the same. I see him at night for like 2 hours before we have to get up and do it all over again. He works saturdays, so the only time I see him all day is sunday. I cant help that his parents are 10 minutes away and mine are an hour. I cant help that they make plans with us and mine wait for me to make plans w them. Or that when she tries to make plans with me she double talks and makes me feel bad about her feeling bad shes taking my only day to spend w my husband w them.
I don't know how to resolve this issue and have been crying since this morning when my sister kind of agreed with them (she also said shes staying out of it).
The only way I can see change is for me to never see his family ever again. And thats not fair to his family.
Im sick of being put in the middle.
Thanksgiving: we went there around 12 or 1, ate at like 2, left at 4. Got to my parents by 5. Had dessert. Sister left at like 7. Parents were so angry that I spent "more time" with my in-laws that we spent all day that sunday with parents.
Two weeks ago: in-laws had gigantic garage sale at their house so we could get rid of our extra furniture. My parents were mad because I saw them on Friday, Saturday and a little on Sunday. We took my parents out for a nice dinner and dessert that night because I knew they were upset.
Christmas: original plan was not to see anyone on Christmas Eve and spend it by ourselves, you know as our first Christmas as husband and wife. My family wants us over at 10a tomorrow to open presents, and then they are doing dinner at 3 or 4. That means we won't get to his family until after 5, and we wont see his sister. So we said we will see her tonight.
I got a scathing email from my mother on how I like his family more, talking derrogatorily about his family and how its not fair I spend more time with them than my family and how if I go to church with them I might as well raise my kids atheist because she wont care what I do anymore.
I honestly cannot handle this and I have no idea what to do. They are making my first four months of marriage he** with tit for tat. I work 50+ hours a week and he does roughly the same. I see him at night for like 2 hours before we have to get up and do it all over again. He works saturdays, so the only time I see him all day is sunday. I cant help that his parents are 10 minutes away and mine are an hour. I cant help that they make plans with us and mine wait for me to make plans w them. Or that when she tries to make plans with me she double talks and makes me feel bad about her feeling bad shes taking my only day to spend w my husband w them.
I don't know how to resolve this issue and have been crying since this morning when my sister kind of agreed with them (she also said shes staying out of it).
The only way I can see change is for me to never see his family ever again. And thats not fair to his family.
Im sick of being put in the middle.
As far as the 2 sets of parents go would it work with the holidays if you alternate who you spend the time with. For instance one year Thanksgiving would be with your parents and the following Thanksgiving would be with his parents. If and when you & your hubby have children you can change the rules that you are celebrating at home and both sets of parents are welcome to join your crew.
I tried that last year and heard about how I didnt spend time with my family for Christmas for months. We thought this year we will split time between them so we wouldnt have to hear about it, but it isn't working.
Then she throws in about how my father is old and I will regret all the times I could have spent with him but didnt.
Next year I think we will just boycott holidays altogether and spend them just the two of us. Then no one will get mad that we spent more time with the other. They can just be mad we didnt see them at all. Lol
And Stardogs, moving sounds nice right about now....
Then she throws in about how my father is old and I will regret all the times I could have spent with him but didnt.
Next year I think we will just boycott holidays altogether and spend them just the two of us. Then no one will get mad that we spent more time with the other. They can just be mad we didnt see them at all. Lol
And Stardogs, moving sounds nice right about now....
Hubby lost his keys (house, cars, everything) sometime in the last couple days and doesn't seem to think it's a big deal. He's now cooking a dessert for tomorrow (when we had said I would make the dessert, and I got mine done this morning) instead of looking for them. Nevermind that it's stressing me out and I'm not going to be able to sleep... he just gets pissed at me if I ask him to look for them...
Well, you're married adults. Family is important, but you are also your own family unit now and your needs are important as well. Short of moving to an inconvenient location, clear boundaries will have to be set or it's going to be a miserable life. It is impossible for working humans to divvy out the exact same attention and time frames to two sets of families..and they shouldn't have to.
Clearly your mother needs to take this to heart
Clearly your mother needs to take this to heart
Shitty little studio trailing along behind me from 2 years ago and keeps wanting to low-ball me by a mile for my work (aka trying to HAGGLE and paying me $15 per colored character). They emailed a couple weeks ago asking for just a few little edits, and I was in a good mood then, so I agreed. But no, I was a fool.
If they want me to keep working for them after this portion is done, they'll need to pay me my normal price. I'm pretty sure they're just idiots though, with no idea about this industry and what's polite and what NORMAL charge is for freelancing (depending on the studio, ~$200 per colored character, and $25 for any additional edits/changes). Yep- averaged $250 per colored character is the norm. And this shithole of a studio is trying me at $15 per colored character.
Lesson learned: don't reply to freelance emails when in a good mood.
If they want me to keep working for them after this portion is done, they'll need to pay me my normal price. I'm pretty sure they're just idiots though, with no idea about this industry and what's polite and what NORMAL charge is for freelancing (depending on the studio, ~$200 per colored character, and $25 for any additional edits/changes). Yep- averaged $250 per colored character is the norm. And this shithole of a studio is trying me at $15 per colored character.
Lesson learned: don't reply to freelance emails when in a good mood.
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I wish I could ask not to work with a certain horrible person, but I feel like that'd be too selfish.
But I really don't ever want to go near that person, see them, hear them, talk to them, or even hear about them. And I am dreading having to go to work knowing that they're having a shift with me. On my longest day.
I kinda wish I could just explode at this person so maybe they'd shut up and back off, but I like my job. I think I'm down enough without losing that too.
But I really don't ever want to go near that person, see them, hear them, talk to them, or even hear about them. And I am dreading having to go to work knowing that they're having a shift with me. On my longest day.
I kinda wish I could just explode at this person so maybe they'd shut up and back off, but I like my job. I think I'm down enough without losing that too.
Well, you're married adults. Family is important, but you are also your own family unit now and your needs are important as well. Short of moving to an inconvenient location, clear boundaries will have to be set or it's going to be a miserable life. It is impossible for working humans to divvy out the exact same attention and time frames to two sets of families..and they shouldn't have to.
Clearly your mother needs to take this to heart
Clearly your mother needs to take this to heart
I closed my etsy shop. For one thing, I just don't have the time to devote to it anymore nor the desire but the BIGGEST reason is the quality of customers lately!!! I've had VERY few customers lately who don't want something for nothing. Who drag me up and down with their wants and additions sometimes for over a month of dealing with the... but then aren't willing to pay extra for the EXTRA they are getting.
It's been very frustrating lately. I never had this issue before and now it seems like every customer wants more silver, bigger beads, more length, etc etc but they expect me to absorb the cost for them. Well... I can't DO that. I already make less on my jewelry to keep prices reasonable. I'm not doing this for FREE!!!!
So I'm just done!
It's been very frustrating lately. I never had this issue before and now it seems like every customer wants more silver, bigger beads, more length, etc etc but they expect me to absorb the cost for them. Well... I can't DO that. I already make less on my jewelry to keep prices reasonable. I'm not doing this for FREE!!!!
So I'm just done!