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Hannah got a letter today from a friend she made at Disney World when we were there at the beginning of December 
They made friends during the Christmas parade and the mom and I swapped addresses so they could be pen pals. I don't know who was more excited when the letter arrived... me or Hannah :rofl1:
They made friends during the Christmas parade and the mom and I swapped addresses so they could be pen pals. I don't know who was more excited when the letter arrived... me or Hannah :rofl1:
What matters to me is eloping. What matters to him is a having a real wedding.
Also, I want the cheapest wedding ever because I want all our $ to go towards things like... buying a house. And I have no one to help me plan it but him and he's not exactly helpful.
What I'm thinking of doing is renting a park pavilion ($220/day includes parking, bathroom, tables, electric and can hold 80-100 people) and then getting catered food(will prob do the pick up/set up with rented serving ware and set it up buffet style). Buy tons of drinks including liquor and pay someone for the day to make drinks. Then rent stereo equipment and just play music off my ipod. I still need to think of decorations and such and find an officials to do the actual ceremony portion...
It won't be fancy, but it gets him a wedding, saves money, and my family likes to not RSVP and just show up. So doing a hall I would either not have enough room/food or have to pay for extra seats not knowing if they will get filled our not. And having an open bar at a hall is expensive as hell.
I really just want to elope. I'm totally chill with being married by some dude who looks like Elvis.
Also, I want the cheapest wedding ever because I want all our $ to go towards things like... buying a house. And I have no one to help me plan it but him and he's not exactly helpful.
What I'm thinking of doing is renting a park pavilion ($220/day includes parking, bathroom, tables, electric and can hold 80-100 people) and then getting catered food(will prob do the pick up/set up with rented serving ware and set it up buffet style). Buy tons of drinks including liquor and pay someone for the day to make drinks. Then rent stereo equipment and just play music off my ipod. I still need to think of decorations and such and find an officials to do the actual ceremony portion...
It won't be fancy, but it gets him a wedding, saves money, and my family likes to not RSVP and just show up. So doing a hall I would either not have enough room/food or have to pay for extra seats not knowing if they will get filled our not. And having an open bar at a hall is expensive as hell.
I really just want to elope. I'm totally chill with being married by some dude who looks like Elvis.
That really stinks.. I totally understand the way you are thinking as I am much the same. I don't want a wedding, i think they are stupid and would much rather spend money on a house.. And maybe a nice honeymoon trip. But the house is a number one priority.
Instead of a wedding I would rather be engaged, get officially married at a court house, get a house shortly after and throw a house warming/we got married kind of party where you can actually talk to your guests and don't have to do things like spending tons of money and dancing and such I do not like.
My SO originally was not for the idea, because his family wouldn't really approve, but in the end it is our day. So he sounds much more accepting of the idea.
Just try and keep it small, but make it where you are going to enjoy it as well!
Good luck!
Instead of a wedding I would rather be engaged, get officially married at a court house, get a house shortly after and throw a house warming/we got married kind of party where you can actually talk to your guests and don't have to do things like spending tons of money and dancing and such I do not like.
My SO originally was not for the idea, because his family wouldn't really approve, but in the end it is our day. So he sounds much more accepting of the idea.
Just try and keep it small, but make it where you are going to enjoy it as well!
Good luck!
Yes! also will you help me decorate actual day of? I have some ideas to make it a tick more fancy.
For the pavilion I can use Christmas lights inside strung across the ceiling.
Then maybe hang white sheets on all the pillars kinda like the barn in this picture:
And then maybe for the center pieces I can carve out pumpkins and put fall colored mums inside?
For the pavilion I can use Christmas lights inside strung across the ceiling.
Then maybe hang white sheets on all the pillars kinda like the barn in this picture:
And then maybe for the center pieces I can carve out pumpkins and put fall colored mums inside?
Yeah, it's really annoying because I HATE being the center of attention. I do not like people looking at me. I do not like crowds. Just pretend I'm not there! And I would really, really rather be putting our money towards things that we actually need in life (like the house).
And this isn't for his family. He wants it. So... it's happening. I've spent the last few years pleading for a town hall deal with immediate family only and a restaurant for dinner afterwards and no go. /sad.
And this isn't for his family. He wants it. So... it's happening. I've spent the last few years pleading for a town hall deal with immediate family only and a restaurant for dinner afterwards and no go. /sad.
Yes! also will you help me decorate actual day of? I have some ideas to make it a tick more fancy.
For the pavilion I can use Christmas lights inside strung across the ceiling.
Then maybe hang white sheets on all the pillars kinda like the barn in this picture:
And then maybe for the center pieces I can carve out pumpkins and put fall colored mums inside?
For the pavilion I can use Christmas lights inside strung across the ceiling.
Then maybe hang white sheets on all the pillars kinda like the barn in this picture:
And then maybe for the center pieces I can carve out pumpkins and put fall colored mums inside?
My mom is ADORABLE while watching hockey.
Her: Have they ever come back from three goals down before?
Me: Yes.
Mom: Are you sure?
Me: Yes.
Mom: This is just as bad as watching the Bears...
Me: Just wait. There are two periods left.
*Blackhawks tie up game*
Me: *chuckling* 'Have they ever come back from three goals down before.' HOW DO YOU LIKE HOCKEY NOW???
Me: So who's your favorite player?
Mom: I don't know... that Kaner guy since he's always who you're talking about.
Me: Just because Kane is MY favorite doesn't mean he has to be YOUR favorite... you can pick a different player. Like Toewser. Or Hossa. Or Seabrook. Or Shawsie. Or Sharpie. Or even Crawford, I mean, a goalie can be your favorite player. Or -
Mom: *Keith misfires a pass* Well it's not that guy. >=<
Adorable. So funny. She didn't used to like hockey but she watches more and more games with me when it's on and now she's yelling at the TV and it's hysterical. I asked her tonight if I bought tickets if she'd go to a game, and she hesitated with this look on her face that was TOTALLY a yes but she didn't want to admit it, LOL.
Her: Have they ever come back from three goals down before?
Me: Yes.
Mom: Are you sure?
Me: Yes.
Mom: This is just as bad as watching the Bears...
Me: Just wait. There are two periods left.
*Blackhawks tie up game*
Me: *chuckling* 'Have they ever come back from three goals down before.' HOW DO YOU LIKE HOCKEY NOW???
Me: So who's your favorite player?
Mom: I don't know... that Kaner guy since he's always who you're talking about.
Me: Just because Kane is MY favorite doesn't mean he has to be YOUR favorite... you can pick a different player. Like Toewser. Or Hossa. Or Seabrook. Or Shawsie. Or Sharpie. Or even Crawford, I mean, a goalie can be your favorite player. Or -
Mom: *Keith misfires a pass* Well it's not that guy. >=<
Adorable. So funny. She didn't used to like hockey but she watches more and more games with me when it's on and now she's yelling at the TV and it's hysterical. I asked her tonight if I bought tickets if she'd go to a game, and she hesitated with this look on her face that was TOTALLY a yes but she didn't want to admit it, LOL.
Sweet. Project ULTRA CHEAP WEDDING.... HERE WE COME! HaHa.
Just an idea!
The problem I'm having is not actually the cost of the ceremony as it is the cost of the reception.
If we rented a catering hall they charge you per person and in my family people like to not RSVP and then show up anyway. My cousin's wedding last year had about 20 unexpected family members just show up... luckily her husband had close ties to the catering hall.... so he warned them it could happen, they planned for it, and they didn't charge her. I'm not about to pay for an extra 20 seats "just in case" as that costs a decent amount and I have no idea what I would do if that many people showed up and we didn't have seats for them....
I spent all night looking up DIY weddings last night... so I actually have a lot of plans now that I can do at the park. The pavilion I'm thinking of is a stone pavilion with a giant stone fire place inside a big field(which I believe is stone fenced). I will be making A LOT of the decorations, but I think I can make it fancy-ish without costing too much. We'd have the ceremony outside in the field and then have the reception in the pavilion. I'm going for fall/rustic theme which actually works out great because we're both huge into hiking/woods.... so it would fit our personalities very well.
I sent him a lot of the things I was looking at and he seems to like them... so we will see.
Town hall and a pizza party or a road trip and Elvis still sound like more fun to me. /sigh.
I also asked about town hall wedding now with immediate family only dinner party afterwards and a reception planned for AFTER we bought a house so we could just use our house to host it. He wasn't for that idea either because "then we'd already be married and it wouldn't be the same." Arg.
If we rented a catering hall they charge you per person and in my family people like to not RSVP and then show up anyway. My cousin's wedding last year had about 20 unexpected family members just show up... luckily her husband had close ties to the catering hall.... so he warned them it could happen, they planned for it, and they didn't charge her. I'm not about to pay for an extra 20 seats "just in case" as that costs a decent amount and I have no idea what I would do if that many people showed up and we didn't have seats for them....
I spent all night looking up DIY weddings last night... so I actually have a lot of plans now that I can do at the park. The pavilion I'm thinking of is a stone pavilion with a giant stone fire place inside a big field(which I believe is stone fenced). I will be making A LOT of the decorations, but I think I can make it fancy-ish without costing too much. We'd have the ceremony outside in the field and then have the reception in the pavilion. I'm going for fall/rustic theme which actually works out great because we're both huge into hiking/woods.... so it would fit our personalities very well.
I sent him a lot of the things I was looking at and he seems to like them... so we will see.
Town hall and a pizza party or a road trip and Elvis still sound like more fun to me. /sigh.
I also asked about town hall wedding now with immediate family only dinner party afterwards and a reception planned for AFTER we bought a house so we could just use our house to host it. He wasn't for that idea either because "then we'd already be married and it wouldn't be the same." Arg.
Don't let planning it stress you out. Make it a lunch reception, not etoh, and just serve snacks. Seriously. Have crackers and cake. That cuts out thousands! I could have saved a lot of my catering bill and should have. A lot of people will RSVP and not come anyway. And then not eat even if they do.
Look at halls that don't do the catering. We rented a local town hall and spent 400 and that was a expensive one. Local park services here have beautiful places but we waited to long to reserve them.
Look into who does catering by you. Tons of places do it and usually the actual halls are the most expensive. Have them get food buffet style so you don't get charged serving fee.
I had my wedding in my backyard with immediate family and invited everyone(couple hundred) to the reception I had several months later. It worked out well. But you will never make everyone happy.
Look at halls that don't do the catering. We rented a local town hall and spent 400 and that was a expensive one. Local park services here have beautiful places but we waited to long to reserve them.
Look into who does catering by you. Tons of places do it and usually the actual halls are the most expensive. Have them get food buffet style so you don't get charged serving fee.
I had my wedding in my backyard with immediate family and invited everyone(couple hundred) to the reception I had several months later. It worked out well. But you will never make everyone happy.
Sweet. Project ULTRA CHEAP WEDDING.... HERE WE COME! HaHa.
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So...I was hired under the pretense of it being mainly a seasonal, part-time job, which is cool with me because of course at this stage and with my interests I don't see myself doing it for a very long time. It's extremely pleasant enough for retail though.
But this city is also a plethora of both big and small dog grooming, boarding, veterinary, shelters, etc. places and I really, really would like to have a job or apprenticeship any of those places because I could be around what I loved and also get a foot in the door because even though I have several dog career ideas, I'm far from knowing what I really want, only which ones I'm leaning toward. Plus, well, I'd feel more secure working around something I have a passion for. But they never seem to be hiring and I don't want to overcrowd my life anddddd I want to see how my current hours are going to pan out here forward.
Most of these careers I'm best going with apprenticeships and mentors and advice and connections and just experience. Which works in my favor because after 8 years of vigorous schooling I know I don't really want to go to traditional college, although I'm a little more open to it right now - but ultimately school + me = meltdown. I learn in other ways but the pressure is not for me.
Sooo...I'm on a gap year, slated for a DE school majoring in Animal Sciences/Behavior, and it's the closest one where I can pursue what I wanted. Except for really being uncomfortable with intense schooling, it could go either way because I can keep my passions and be closer to the SO who's been a huge support all these years and win-win all around.
But it's now basically January and I haven't figured out what to say to the school about not feeling like college is my fit and all that.
To think this miniature existential crisis started with me wondering if I have enough stability in a part-time job to move off the parent's plan and finally get a better phone and data freedom.
I'm excited but life feels very crowded sometimes.
But this city is also a plethora of both big and small dog grooming, boarding, veterinary, shelters, etc. places and I really, really would like to have a job or apprenticeship any of those places because I could be around what I loved and also get a foot in the door because even though I have several dog career ideas, I'm far from knowing what I really want, only which ones I'm leaning toward. Plus, well, I'd feel more secure working around something I have a passion for. But they never seem to be hiring and I don't want to overcrowd my life anddddd I want to see how my current hours are going to pan out here forward.
Most of these careers I'm best going with apprenticeships and mentors and advice and connections and just experience. Which works in my favor because after 8 years of vigorous schooling I know I don't really want to go to traditional college, although I'm a little more open to it right now - but ultimately school + me = meltdown. I learn in other ways but the pressure is not for me.
Sooo...I'm on a gap year, slated for a DE school majoring in Animal Sciences/Behavior, and it's the closest one where I can pursue what I wanted. Except for really being uncomfortable with intense schooling, it could go either way because I can keep my passions and be closer to the SO who's been a huge support all these years and win-win all around.
But it's now basically January and I haven't figured out what to say to the school about not feeling like college is my fit and all that.
To think this miniature existential crisis started with me wondering if I have enough stability in a part-time job to move off the parent's plan and finally get a better phone and data freedom.
I'm excited but life feels very crowded sometimes.
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Congrats on the new job! You got hired as a non-dog related retail job? (It wasn't clear in your post).
What are the jobs with dogs you are leaning towards? I know some careers you don't need to go to college, or at least a traditional college. A lot of times I feel like it is building connections, experience, etc. but a degree in animal behavior wouldn't hurt either.
I know for many people moving out and becoming independent can be very stressful, but i think it is so worth it! Even if most/all your money goes toward paying bills or college it is so nice.
Good luck with everything!
What are the jobs with dogs you are leaning towards? I know some careers you don't need to go to college, or at least a traditional college. A lot of times I feel like it is building connections, experience, etc. but a degree in animal behavior wouldn't hurt either.
I know for many people moving out and becoming independent can be very stressful, but i think it is so worth it! Even if most/all your money goes toward paying bills or college it is so nice.
Good luck with everything!