This is a continuation of my socialization/unique situation thread, because the forum closes the 'edit' option after a couple of hours
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I am at an all time low. I am scared/sad/confused about my current situation.
As readers of my last thread will know, I have a unique situation with my puppy and her socialization. Long story short is we have to put her in a safe house for 4 days while the family is at Nor-Cal. Second part of the story is Wanta is having a hard time socializing due to her being with us since week 6.
And TODAY: I went to my aunt's house. Long story short is that forumers and I decided that it would be a good idea to let my puppy get beat up a little for being obnoxious. However, today proved to be A GRAVE ERROR. I feel like a HORRIBLE PARENT to my puppy and am EXTREMELY agitated for what came about
When I went to my aunt's, I found out a few interesting 'facts'. For one, Ginger (the adult dog that was growling at my puppy the other night for being over excited) BITES HUMANS. In fact, the family doesn't correct it. THEY ENCOURAGE IT IN A WAY! I found it INSANE but kept my mouth shut for social reasons. They played tug with it and let it tear stuffed animals to shreds. They do a little 'slap the dog in the face playfully' kind of game, almost kind of like stimulating its aggressive behavior. Also, the dog bites REGULARLY. In addition to biting the father of the house, it bite MY FATHER for touching her chew toy. It was also to have said to growl if you get close to her bone, and their whole family finds it 'oh so cute'
I found this all crazy, and went insane when I saw her growling at my puppy. This time around, Wanta wasn't acting crazy at all, BUT WAS STILL BEING GROWLED AT. It usually happened when she was near Ginger's chew toys or a little too close to Ginger herself. There was one time Wanta was yelled at for chewing around her kibble. But she didn't know any better, whatever happened to parent dogs giving little puppies some leiweigh? By the end of the day [3 hostile growl/nips] Wanta, who was ALREADY easily scared of new things due to personality, was hiding in the corner and didn't look like she was having fun at all. The family, completely oblivious to all of this, laughed saying "oh look how much fun they are having. its so cute". I wasn't amused, and fumed at my parents the whole way back home.
So particularly to the two comments posted in my other thread, I assume your judgments are now drastically shifted about socializing with Ginger, who is clearly now a devil-dog. It wasn't encouraging when I asked my aunt nervously about her dog's details. Yup, they've had her since she was TWO WEEKS OLD. Wanta was with us since six weeks, and I found that to be frightening already. I can only imagine Ginger's opinion of 'other dogs'. They also said she never socialized during her puppy window [8-16 weeks]
To new viewers, I could use some pep-help, because I'm really confused of what to do. The nipping/yelping tactics also don't seem to be effective tonight either for bite inhibition training, so I'm afraid that Wanta is learning [partially from Ginger's experience tonight] that being violent is the way to go or something equally nuts. In addition, now I have no clue how to properly socialize Wanta. My aunt's family is completely oblivious to the mistakes they are making: they are forming IMO an aggressive, spoiled and very attention seeking dog. Ginger would growl at Wanta for playing with her family. It was horrible (she's a chihuahua/beagle mix); NOT TOO FAR OFF FROM WANTA
advice would be great. I realize I'm kind of a mess right now, and honestly its because I am. I feel like a horrible parent with no idea what to do next. I feel Wanta doesn't have good role models around and I'm especially afraid to let her play with other dogs now, after being with Ginger. I'm afraid she might've been a little scarred as well.
Also I don't know what to do for Thanksgiving. I'm thinking of letting her stay with another friend that doesn't have a dog. Extreme circumstances mean I stay with Wanta completely, but something tells me this is attachment-disorder behavior, of which I was told to avoid by a doggie-trainer
Sorry for the mess, help would be great
PS: I'm taking it now that no one would support me leaving Wanta with Ginger for 4 days in my Aunt's house now, unless maybe I'm missing something?...Am I over-protective? Like.. do all dogs growl when other puppies are near their chew toys or playing with their masters? I swear that Wanta was acting rather kindly today, and wasn't the least bit obnoxious. I think she learned it pretty quickly. But Ginger IMO just doesn't seem to like other dogs period, and contains the most hostile-sides of a chihuahua
PSS: this is extra frightening for me because I have been advised by previous posts that snarling/nipping from adult dogs was a good thing; because this taught puppies appropriate behavior. But how much is TOO much? How do you tell a normal dog to a hostile one?! Given my previous guidelines, its almost impossible to tell!
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I am at an all time low. I am scared/sad/confused about my current situation.
As readers of my last thread will know, I have a unique situation with my puppy and her socialization. Long story short is we have to put her in a safe house for 4 days while the family is at Nor-Cal. Second part of the story is Wanta is having a hard time socializing due to her being with us since week 6.
And TODAY: I went to my aunt's house. Long story short is that forumers and I decided that it would be a good idea to let my puppy get beat up a little for being obnoxious. However, today proved to be A GRAVE ERROR. I feel like a HORRIBLE PARENT to my puppy and am EXTREMELY agitated for what came about
When I went to my aunt's, I found out a few interesting 'facts'. For one, Ginger (the adult dog that was growling at my puppy the other night for being over excited) BITES HUMANS. In fact, the family doesn't correct it. THEY ENCOURAGE IT IN A WAY! I found it INSANE but kept my mouth shut for social reasons. They played tug with it and let it tear stuffed animals to shreds. They do a little 'slap the dog in the face playfully' kind of game, almost kind of like stimulating its aggressive behavior. Also, the dog bites REGULARLY. In addition to biting the father of the house, it bite MY FATHER for touching her chew toy. It was also to have said to growl if you get close to her bone, and their whole family finds it 'oh so cute'
I found this all crazy, and went insane when I saw her growling at my puppy. This time around, Wanta wasn't acting crazy at all, BUT WAS STILL BEING GROWLED AT. It usually happened when she was near Ginger's chew toys or a little too close to Ginger herself. There was one time Wanta was yelled at for chewing around her kibble. But she didn't know any better, whatever happened to parent dogs giving little puppies some leiweigh? By the end of the day [3 hostile growl/nips] Wanta, who was ALREADY easily scared of new things due to personality, was hiding in the corner and didn't look like she was having fun at all. The family, completely oblivious to all of this, laughed saying "oh look how much fun they are having. its so cute". I wasn't amused, and fumed at my parents the whole way back home.
So particularly to the two comments posted in my other thread, I assume your judgments are now drastically shifted about socializing with Ginger, who is clearly now a devil-dog. It wasn't encouraging when I asked my aunt nervously about her dog's details. Yup, they've had her since she was TWO WEEKS OLD. Wanta was with us since six weeks, and I found that to be frightening already. I can only imagine Ginger's opinion of 'other dogs'. They also said she never socialized during her puppy window [8-16 weeks]
To new viewers, I could use some pep-help, because I'm really confused of what to do. The nipping/yelping tactics also don't seem to be effective tonight either for bite inhibition training, so I'm afraid that Wanta is learning [partially from Ginger's experience tonight] that being violent is the way to go or something equally nuts. In addition, now I have no clue how to properly socialize Wanta. My aunt's family is completely oblivious to the mistakes they are making: they are forming IMO an aggressive, spoiled and very attention seeking dog. Ginger would growl at Wanta for playing with her family. It was horrible (she's a chihuahua/beagle mix); NOT TOO FAR OFF FROM WANTA
advice would be great. I realize I'm kind of a mess right now, and honestly its because I am. I feel like a horrible parent with no idea what to do next. I feel Wanta doesn't have good role models around and I'm especially afraid to let her play with other dogs now, after being with Ginger. I'm afraid she might've been a little scarred as well.
Also I don't know what to do for Thanksgiving. I'm thinking of letting her stay with another friend that doesn't have a dog. Extreme circumstances mean I stay with Wanta completely, but something tells me this is attachment-disorder behavior, of which I was told to avoid by a doggie-trainer
Sorry for the mess, help would be great
PS: I'm taking it now that no one would support me leaving Wanta with Ginger for 4 days in my Aunt's house now, unless maybe I'm missing something?...Am I over-protective? Like.. do all dogs growl when other puppies are near their chew toys or playing with their masters? I swear that Wanta was acting rather kindly today, and wasn't the least bit obnoxious. I think she learned it pretty quickly. But Ginger IMO just doesn't seem to like other dogs period, and contains the most hostile-sides of a chihuahua
PSS: this is extra frightening for me because I have been advised by previous posts that snarling/nipping from adult dogs was a good thing; because this taught puppies appropriate behavior. But how much is TOO much? How do you tell a normal dog to a hostile one?! Given my previous guidelines, its almost impossible to tell!
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