Sad :(

[M&M's Mommy]

Our rings have never left our fingers since the day we married (except once a month I put mine in the jewerly cleaning solution while taking a bath, but then I'd put it on right back when I'm done). Both of us find that it's important to wear our rings at ALL times - but that's just us. I've known people who're very happily married, but they don't wear their rings at all... So, while the ring is the symbol of the never-ending love you vowed to give each other, in itself it is not that love.

If it bothers you, do tell your husband. Maybe he doesn't know that it bothered you.

 

[Debi]

my hubby only wore his ring two times....to visit when we had our children. which I teased him endlessly about, guess he wanted to look 'proper'. lol some people don't like jewelry, and he's one of them. it never bothered me a bit. I have a gorgeous diamond that I never wear, and recently haven't worn the band either. we love being married, just aren't into rings.

 

[milos_mommy]

honestly, some guys don't like wearing rings. especially if it doesn't fit perfect and he's not used to wearing them, it could annoy him at work and he might not want to have to take it off there and be afraid of losing it. i know it's a symbol of you love, etc. etc., but i don't think him NOT wearing it is an attempt at offending you.

 

[Gempress]

I personally don't mind if my hubby wears his ring or not. To be honest, he's much better about it than I am. He wears it every time we leave the house. I used to wear mine about 75% of the time.

Notice I said "used to wear"....

I've lost my wedding ring.

 

[iluvdogs]

My boyfriend and I have "promise rings" and one morning he left in on the bathroom sick, he didn't do it because he didn't care about it. He only took it off to put lotion on, and just forgot to put it back on.

When I got engaged before, I remember it took me a while to get use to wearing a ring, and I would find myself in the middle of the night taking it off, because it would bug me..and it got to the point where I wouldn't even remember doing it.

I'm sure he cares about it, like milos_mommy said...Maybe hes just not use to wearing one yet.

 

[puppylover2007]

oh yes the wedding ring .. AKA "the ball and change" the "Omg what did i do"... etc... my hubby and i have been married for over 6 years, we look at the ring as more of a "materialist kind of thing, kinda like proof of ownership if you will. IMO, the ring along with the piece of paper is only for legal reasons like Grammy said back in the day there was really no reason for to exchange rings, you just knew you were in love, LOVE as no real moral ties, it is in your heart your soul, you mind, love is a feeling and a price CAN not be put on it, no matter how much or how little you pay, it is what is in your heart, men and women these days do not wear wedding rings for numbers of reasons, ( already listed by a few members) but, it is what is in your heart that matters most. yes, to some the ring may be a symbol of your love, but, it goes deeper than that, it is the time when you were really sick and needed a cold medicine in the middle of a freezing night and he got dressed and got it for you. it is the time you got stuck in the middle of the BFE ( you all know what i am talking about) and he came to your rescue. its things like this that make a marriage a REAL marriage, you know in your heart he loves you and you love him, so, why question him not wearing it, trust me, LOVE lasts A whole hek of a lot longer than that ring of his.

but, just IMO.

 

[Debi]

I forgot to say..it also depends on his job. some construction type jobs makes it a hazard to wear a ring. no..it's not an excuse either, I know a person that got his finger caught due to a ring and suffered a bad cut.

 

[puppylover2007]

^^^ i also agree with the above my hubby and i worked at a manufacturing place where we were machinists and it CAN happen he could not where it at all! same with plumbers, welders,machine ops,anything that is dealing with heavy machine equipment is pretty much a no no, hek even women in certain jobs can not wear theirs.

 

[Zoom]

My parents, who have been married for over 25 years, have different ring habits. My dad only wears his on special dress-up occassions and mom the same. Neither of them like to wear rings that much and it's just a symbol. The ring is not the marriage.

 

[sparks19]

I left my engagement ring sitting on the side of the bathroom sink twice within two months of being engaged. I think it was after that second time that my husband went and got insurance on it. :lol-sign:

LOL.... the first time I lost my ring was when we went for our first ultrasound.... the ring was too big and when I washed my hands I must have pulled it off with the paper towel when I was drying and thank GOD the lady I spoke to was determined to find my ring because she sifted through the garbage and found it.... we sent them flowers lol.

The second time it was lost for over a week and I was certain we would never see it again.... so hubby bought me a new ring in a smaller size.... two days after buying that ring we found my old one under the couch cushion LOL.

This is why I insisted on a very inexpensive ring lol... I can't have expensive stuff and wear it because I will lose it haha.... do you know how many housekeys I have been through in my lifetime lol. I'm terrible.

 

[jess2416]

I wonder if it could be that you are allergic to the type of metal. My mother had a friend that could only wear her ring for about 6 hours a day and then it would turn her finger green. It didn't matter what type of metal it was either.

I know I can wear any type of ring (gold, silver, platinum) but if I wear anything other than sterling silver earrings my ears swell and become VERY painful.

My mom cant wear yellow gold (it breaks her out), but she can wear white gold...

 

[zoe08]

Did that help? Cause right now it's driving me crazy.

It has helped me. After a few nights of not wearing them and putting on Neutrogena hand cream they were not as dry and itchy. I normally put the lotion on every night because my hands get dry, but now I make it a point to take my rings off and get the lotion underneath them and it helps a bunch.

 

[zoe08]

I forgot to say..it also depends on his job. some construction type jobs makes it a hazard to wear a ring. no..it's not an excuse either, I know a person that got his finger caught due to a ring and suffered a bad cut.

Also if you ever go water skiing it would be best to take your rings off. When I was in junior high the secretary lost her ring finger (AND wedding ring) while water skiing. She was more sad about losing the ring than her finger I think.

 

[Baxter'smybaby]

I would suggest just asking him if he doesn't like wearing a ring? Some guys don't--and they do take getting used to. Don't read too much into it--if everything else shows his love to you, then why worry about a ring? I'd rather have my mans attention, than have him wearing a ring 100% of the time--love is demonstrated in many ways---and I have been married for 21 years!

 

[Saje]

If it was me I wouldn't worry about it. I wouldn't expect steve to wear a ring. Like they say, it is just a symbol.

But, I'm not you so talk to him about it. It's obviously important to you so it's best to share. He may have a good reason. It may bother him or if he works with his hands it may be dangerous. Many men have lost their ring finger because the ring got caught in machinery.

 

[puppylover2007]

My parents, who have been married for over 25 years, have different ring habits. My dad only wears his on special dress-up occassions and mom the same. Neither of them like to wear rings that much and it's just a symbol. The ring is not the marriage.

that is soo true Zoom, the ring is just simply a symbol, i would worry more when he comes home late for no reason, or he comes home "smelling different" .
or he just plain does not come home!! to me rings are nice and shiny, but, if you have love it conquers all!

 

[sparks19]

that is soo true Zoom, the ring is just simply a symbol, i would worry more when he comes home late for no reason, or he comes home "smelling different" .
or he just plain does not come home!! to me rings are nice and shiny, but, if you have love it conquers all!

True....

Did you know that the wedding ring my husband wears is ACTUALLY the ring from his first marriage lol.... I couldn't afford to buy him a ring although I should do that someday. And the ring I had been wearing was a ring from one of my exs a long time ago lol.... we got married kind of spur of the moment and didn't have any rings but we wanted to have something to exchange on our wedding day so since neither of us were really hung up on the fact that those rings actually came from someone else we just used those.

Plus it kind of took a nice piece of jewelry that had less than desireable memories attached to them and turned them into pieces of jewelry that now have wonderful memories attached to them.

 

[Nefarious]

True....

Did you know that the wedding ring my husband wears is ACTUALLY the ring from his first marriage lol.... I couldn't afford to buy him a ring although I should do that someday. And the ring I had been wearing was a ring from one of my exs a long time ago lol.... we got married kind of spur of the moment and didn't have any rings but we wanted to have something to exchange on our wedding day so since neither of us were really hung up on the fact that those rings actually came from someone else we just used those.

Plus it kind of took a nice piece of jewelry that had less than desireable memories attached to them and turned them into pieces of jewelry that now have wonderful memories attached to them.

I got a chuckle out of that. :lol-sign:

 

[Samantha's pet]

My dad has never worn a ring and my mom is fine w/ that. Danny works in retail so its not his job. I asked him. He said he just forgot it after his shower. It just bothered me that he forgot. I never forget mine. We talked about it before the wedding and he wanted to wear his ring. I just hope he remembers it from now on.

 

[Buddy'sParents]

I think sometimes it's easy to forget new things. While I love my wedding ring it's not nearly as important as the man that gave it to me. I take mine off to shower, etc.. and hubby never takes his off. If he didn't wear them, it wouldn't bother me, because he married ME, not some fancy type of metal.

My brother has never worn his wedding ring outside of getting married and having it put on for the ceremony.. it's just not important to him. Thankfully, the marriage is as they have three kids.