I agree with everything foxy said
if I recall correctly MOST of those that caused the biggest problem don't have children... and nothing against those that don't have children... but it's very easy to sit back with your houseful of dogs and no children and decide between the two. BNow I mean those who thread after thread after thread sat there and continued to cause a huge scene.
given your situation I would have done what needed to be done and I don't give a flying fig what ANYONE thinks about it. to be honest...at this point... if something happened with Beezer and he needed to be removed from our home. I can flat out tell you he would be put to sleep. first off... I have a child to think about. secondly. beezer would NOT survive another home change. I do not believe he would be able to handle such a thing. I know him... no one here does. I need to make the decision that I know is right. be damned what anyone else thinks
I commend you for coming back and making this post and you know that there are going to be those that just WON'T let it go. but you need to just ignore those people and get on with your life while they are not able to get on with theirs
if I recall correctly MOST of those that caused the biggest problem don't have children... and nothing against those that don't have children... but it's very easy to sit back with your houseful of dogs and no children and decide between the two. BNow I mean those who thread after thread after thread sat there and continued to cause a huge scene.
given your situation I would have done what needed to be done and I don't give a flying fig what ANYONE thinks about it. to be honest...at this point... if something happened with Beezer and he needed to be removed from our home. I can flat out tell you he would be put to sleep. first off... I have a child to think about. secondly. beezer would NOT survive another home change. I do not believe he would be able to handle such a thing. I know him... no one here does. I need to make the decision that I know is right. be damned what anyone else thinks
I commend you for coming back and making this post and you know that there are going to be those that just WON'T let it go. but you need to just ignore those people and get on with your life while they are not able to get on with theirs
I haven't read the replies. They don't matter. I lost 2 cats. My own dog killed them. We all sometimes learn lessons the hard way. Reggin being pts was obviously not the ideal situation, but it was better than what you thought might happen. It would be unfair for us to judge you, we have ALL made mistakes in our lives. It sucks he is gone and may he rest his sweet soul in peace but nothing will bring him back. I think enough time has gone by where everyone needs to just stfu about it and quit judging you. You had human children to think about and I'm sure had something happened to one of them bc you were focusing on reg you would have been judged as well. You chose a priority that a lot of mothers would. I respect you, I was sad when it happened but we can't change it. Stick around girl, you're stronger than you think. Oh and (((hugs)))
It may have not been weeks, but you posted on Monday the 16th of your problems and said that reggin is no longer going to be with you come tomorrow. That is when arrangements started. People were actively getting together to get reggin out of that situation. If I remember correctly, he went to Paws on wednesday the same week. So it's not like reggin went to the shelter but oh wait, he had a transport.
Reggin was not in immediate danger considering it would be illegal for your landlord to evict you straight away (meaning you had to be out RIGHT NOW) So reggin could have stayed at your house while you were still at your mothers until he could've been picked up.
I was not, and still am not, happy with the situation. Tough times yes, And I sympathize with that however Reggin's death was totally avoidable.
Just my two cents.
Reggin was not in immediate danger considering it would be illegal for your landlord to evict you straight away (meaning you had to be out RIGHT NOW) So reggin could have stayed at your house while you were still at your mothers until he could've been picked up.
I was not, and still am not, happy with the situation. Tough times yes, And I sympathize with that however Reggin's death was totally avoidable.
Just my two cents.
Well...
you;ll get over it
Ok so she came to use on the 16th and arrangements started then... and she stated clearly that she didnt have constant internet capabilities... she had to go to her moms. so plans started THAT DAY and he went the next day? so ... what were you expecting? the internet fairy to appear at her door and tell her?
she was abused, pregnant, a mother and SCARED.
sorry... with my children at risk... my dogs would be a second thought. and you know what? I would take solace in knowing that I did what I could for my children even though I didn't put my whole self out there for my dog. I lvoe my dogs... but my WHOLE self needs to go to my child. s orry.
you;ll get over it
Ok so she came to use on the 16th and arrangements started then... and she stated clearly that she didnt have constant internet capabilities... she had to go to her moms. so plans started THAT DAY and he went the next day? so ... what were you expecting? the internet fairy to appear at her door and tell her?
she was abused, pregnant, a mother and SCARED.
sorry... with my children at risk... my dogs would be a second thought. and you know what? I would take solace in knowing that I did what I could for my children even though I didn't put my whole self out there for my dog. I lvoe my dogs... but my WHOLE self needs to go to my child. s orry.
the matter was put to rest? hardly. this girl can't even post here without THIS crap happening. hardly put to rest when she can't even post without people dredging up the past.
I know it's hard for SOME to understand but the PAST is the PAST and we don't always make the best choices in the moment. and sometimes what one person can justify isn't what another person can justify. but we need to get OVER it and move past it. mistakes happen
I dont' know... I think we are all just a little too high on our horses. it's so easy to judge while we are making our own mistakes and defending ourselves against them and claiming that everyone else is wrong.
I know it's hard for SOME to understand but the PAST is the PAST and we don't always make the best choices in the moment. and sometimes what one person can justify isn't what another person can justify. but we need to get OVER it and move past it. mistakes happen
I dont' know... I think we are all just a little too high on our horses. it's so easy to judge while we are making our own mistakes and defending ourselves against them and claiming that everyone else is wrong.
this reminds me to not post here if a tragedy ever happens with our family 
I will make the decsion for my dogs on my own without the "Help" of the super judgemental. again... easy for those without children and without ever having to make the difficult decision to judge
"it's easy to say what you need to do when you aren't the one who needs to do it"
life isn't a crystal ball... sorry people
I will make the decsion for my dogs on my own without the "Help" of the super judgemental. again... easy for those without children and without ever having to make the difficult decision to judge"it's easy to say what you need to do when you aren't the one who needs to do it"
life isn't a crystal ball... sorry people
I don't have a place for my dogs to go either.
Lucky for those of you that do....
I don't even have someone to BABYSIT MY CHILD. let alone someone to take and keep my dogs LOL.
ah what a nice fantasy. some of you may have that... but not eveyrone has that nor has the resources for that.
children change everything. you don't have to like it... but thems the breaks
I will choose hannah over my dogs EVERY DAY.
if that makes me a bad dog owner... then you come and get them
Lucky for those of you that do....
I don't even have someone to BABYSIT MY CHILD. let alone someone to take and keep my dogs LOL.
ah what a nice fantasy. some of you may have that... but not eveyrone has that nor has the resources for that.
children change everything. you don't have to like it... but thems the breaks
I will choose hannah over my dogs EVERY DAY.
if that makes me a bad dog owner... then you come and get them
only because we were able to buy a home after we had the dogs... had we not been able to buy a home and had to leave our old home... there aren't many apartments here that allow TWO large dogs... but we would have moved whereever nessecary if it meant having a place to live or NOT having a place to live witha child
again... easy to say when it's just you
NOW she has a chance to chainge her life... but NOOOOOOO that's not allowed because she made a decision that wasn't ideal. how DARE anyone move on and improve their life.
perhaps that is what is wrong with society. people can't move on from their mistakes.
again... easy to say when it's just you
NOW she has a chance to chainge her life... but NOOOOOOO that's not allowed because she made a decision that wasn't ideal. how DARE anyone move on and improve their life.
perhaps that is what is wrong with society. people can't move on from their mistakes.
so one would rather have her left the dog ALONE in a house he was unwelcome in with the risk of an obvioulsy abusive drug addicted significant other able to enter the premises at any time, who had already stated he would give the dog to another of his meth addict friends...
i would have rather put the dog to sleep there and then than to risk the dog being taken one night and handed over to a meth addict...
some people CANT get onto the internet every 5 minutes to check responces... it was already stated that she had sporradic internet during the entire situation...have you ever at 8 months pregnant tried to lug a toddler to the city library so you can check a forum for the possibility of a transport all the while knowing the dog is sat in an empty house alone with a great possibility of someone comming and just taking the dog?!
its easy to judge when your not there...
i feel horrible that such a thing happend to an obviosly amazing dog...
but what ifs and you could'as wont bring him back...
you cant make "reggin" feel any worse about the situation than she already does...
and the situation wasnt dropped once since then, everytime she posts theres the snide side comments, visious jabbings and general cattyness!
but serioulsy folks, put yourself in those shoes...
a toddler, heavily pregnant, VERY abusive SO, being evicted (as for her rights as a tenant, unless youve read the lease how do you know...if the lease was up the landlord doesnt even have to give you notice...under new ownership, same, its not required by law in MANY states to give a tenant notice...) nowhere to go that would take the dog...
youve got the choice of HOPING to get a transport in place in time...the certainty of a shelter (noone could have expected them to simply put him to sleep that night)...
a shelter, or living out of your car to keep your dog is great, but try doing that with a todler and a baby on the way...
as a side note:
i do NOT have children...
i will NEVER have children...
i dont even LIKE children...
but i CAN see why someone with children would put theirs before their dog...
for me i have options, my parents would take me in in an emergency...
and in truth i WOULD rather live out of my car with my dogs than live without them...
but i can also see where in a moment such as that, with only a Possibility of a transport...i absolutly would consider a shelter or putting them to sleep should rehoming fail in the time span i had...
i would have rather put the dog to sleep there and then than to risk the dog being taken one night and handed over to a meth addict...
some people CANT get onto the internet every 5 minutes to check responces... it was already stated that she had sporradic internet during the entire situation...have you ever at 8 months pregnant tried to lug a toddler to the city library so you can check a forum for the possibility of a transport all the while knowing the dog is sat in an empty house alone with a great possibility of someone comming and just taking the dog?!
its easy to judge when your not there...
i feel horrible that such a thing happend to an obviosly amazing dog...
but what ifs and you could'as wont bring him back...
you cant make "reggin" feel any worse about the situation than she already does...
and the situation wasnt dropped once since then, everytime she posts theres the snide side comments, visious jabbings and general cattyness!
but serioulsy folks, put yourself in those shoes...
a toddler, heavily pregnant, VERY abusive SO, being evicted (as for her rights as a tenant, unless youve read the lease how do you know...if the lease was up the landlord doesnt even have to give you notice...under new ownership, same, its not required by law in MANY states to give a tenant notice...) nowhere to go that would take the dog...
youve got the choice of HOPING to get a transport in place in time...the certainty of a shelter (noone could have expected them to simply put him to sleep that night)...
a shelter, or living out of your car to keep your dog is great, but try doing that with a todler and a baby on the way...
as a side note:
i do NOT have children...
i will NEVER have children...
i dont even LIKE children...
but i CAN see why someone with children would put theirs before their dog...
for me i have options, my parents would take me in in an emergency...
and in truth i WOULD rather live out of my car with my dogs than live without them...
but i can also see where in a moment such as that, with only a Possibility of a transport...i absolutly would consider a shelter or putting them to sleep should rehoming fail in the time span i had...
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Jan. 26/09 Renee posted this from this thread: http://www.chazhound.com/forums/t92307-4/
Hang in there . . . sometimes things have a way of turning around. BUT, DON'T FORGET, come to us if Reggin needs a place and we'll see what we can come up with. I'd hope the low income housing where you are is a lot safer than what it is here. Here, you'd NEED Reggin.
You might very well be able to get to a rental assistance house instead, and possibly be able to keep him that way. Being alone with two babies . . . well, you need a dog.
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Hang in there . . . sometimes things have a way of turning around. BUT, DON'T FORGET, come to us if Reggin needs a place and we'll see what we can come up with. I'd hope the low income housing where you are is a lot safer than what it is here. Here, you'd NEED Reggin.
You might very well be able to get to a rental assistance house instead, and possibly be able to keep him that way. Being alone with two babies . . . well, you need a dog.
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Please note the date - weeks before.