I am talking about people here, not dogs, though I am interested if it is actually a thing with dog ownership as well, as I hear it talked about a lot
Human relationships intrigue me, and this is something I have been wondering about. I have been with my S/O for four years. In those four years, we have spent pretty much every ounce of our time together. We have fought literally zero times, even during stressful situations. We still write long sappy notes to each other and send "i love you" texts to each other while we're at work or school. My favorite part of the day is coming home to see him, we are still super cuddly lovey-dovey, and we still do little things for each other "just because". I guess the one thing that has changed is I don't get that "butterflies" feeling every time I see him, but that is because I'm not nervous around him anymore; we know everything about each other and are extremely comfortable, so I don't need to be. But "comfortable" doesn't equal "bored", and we still definitely have that "in love" feeling.
But looking at my friends and family who are my age and have been in relationships for similiar amounts of time, that doesn't seem to be the norm. From what I can gather, they still love their significant others, but they don't feel IN love with them anymore; honestly, from what I see they don't even seem to like each other. Some of them have a scheduled date night, but other than that they don't really do anything together. They all chalk it up to the honeymoon period ending, and they all said it ended after anywhere from 6 months to 2 years.
So is the honeymoon period really a thing? I can't help but feel like it's just a term to describe how people get together with the first person they feel affection for, then once the "new" feeling wears off it's like...oh, I'm not actually compatible with this person. Whoops. Did you have a "honeymoon" period? When did it end?
Sorry if this makes no sense and is just a jumbled mess haha. I just woke up and this was the thought I woke up with. I'm going back to sleep now. :lol-sign:
Human relationships intrigue me, and this is something I have been wondering about. I have been with my S/O for four years. In those four years, we have spent pretty much every ounce of our time together. We have fought literally zero times, even during stressful situations. We still write long sappy notes to each other and send "i love you" texts to each other while we're at work or school. My favorite part of the day is coming home to see him, we are still super cuddly lovey-dovey, and we still do little things for each other "just because". I guess the one thing that has changed is I don't get that "butterflies" feeling every time I see him, but that is because I'm not nervous around him anymore; we know everything about each other and are extremely comfortable, so I don't need to be. But "comfortable" doesn't equal "bored", and we still definitely have that "in love" feeling.
But looking at my friends and family who are my age and have been in relationships for similiar amounts of time, that doesn't seem to be the norm. From what I can gather, they still love their significant others, but they don't feel IN love with them anymore; honestly, from what I see they don't even seem to like each other. Some of them have a scheduled date night, but other than that they don't really do anything together. They all chalk it up to the honeymoon period ending, and they all said it ended after anywhere from 6 months to 2 years.
So is the honeymoon period really a thing? I can't help but feel like it's just a term to describe how people get together with the first person they feel affection for, then once the "new" feeling wears off it's like...oh, I'm not actually compatible with this person. Whoops. Did you have a "honeymoon" period? When did it end?
Sorry if this makes no sense and is just a jumbled mess haha. I just woke up and this was the thought I woke up with. I'm going back to sleep now. :lol-sign: