I'm back

[Babyblue5290]

Ok, so you don't know who I am, and my opinion probably does not matter, but I am SO PROUD of you for your courage and bravery. You are a hero for yourself and others in a crazy world. You are special, never forget that. I am so very sorry you have had to endure what you have, but you will overcome it and be bigger, better, and stronger in the long run. You have guts and did the right thing. It is going to feel weird right now and it may for a long time, but who ever said that the right thing to do always feels right. Sometimes it doesn't, but 20 years from now, you will look back and see what you did for yourself and your siblings. You never deserved to be abused and I am sorry your parents could not see what a gem you are...but they obviously have some deep routed problems that you don't need to carry. It is about you now. Go live your life and hold your head up high...and never forget your worth and value in this world

Thank you showpug. Your guy's opinions matter to me!! Almost everyone here has been so wonderful to me and encouraging! Your too kind. Thank You!

If not for the people here I probably wouldn't have told at all.

 

[bubbatd]

We care !!!!!

 

[blue]

Outstanding BB, I know it wasnt easy but its a first step for you and your siblings for something tolerable if not better.

High 5, and good job everybody here is happy for you and proud of you. Now you can hold you head high.

 

[Babyblue5290]

Thanks guys

 

[BigDog2191]

OMG! Awesome to hear!

You won't regret it BB... all you can get now is help... good for you!

 

[nicco]

BabyBlue I didn't know you were in such trouble...But good for you that things are starting to come around.Good luck to you and you know I'm here for you too.
Kiss Kiss
Nicco

 

[Martine]

Well done Baby Blue, every little step counts (and good to see you back)

 

[Babyblue5290]

Thanks guys

 

[mrose_s]

hope everything works out

 

[Babyblue5290]

Thanks Mrose

 

[Renee750il]

Thank you, but I feel bad for telling. I know I shouldn't, but.......I don't know I just feel like I did something I shouldn't have.

BabyB, this is how abusers keep hold of their victims. They make YOU feel like the one in the wrong. It is just another form of abuse. Get DSHS to set up counseling for you and your sibs. This is in NO WAY your fault - it is all - every bit - on the head of the ones doing the abusing and anyone who stood by and allowed it to happen.

You did absolutely the right thing. Never, ever, ever doubt that for one moment or allow anyone, ANYONE to tell you differently.

((((HUGS)))))

 

[Babyblue5290]

The worker said that we would go to counseling once a week. I'm scheduled to go every Monday. I think that's a bit much though, maybe they will change it to less visits later down the road.

My mother called me (she has my cell phone number, the one my grampy gave me) She said she misses me and wants me to come home and forgive my father HOw could she?!?! I don't understand how she can still live with him!! I told her I couldn't and that she shouldn't be with him, but she said she would never leave and that I was being a bratt!!! God I'm so pissed at her!!! She probably called my sister already and will no doubt try my brother when he gets back. I don't understand her at all! Why couldn't she just leave me alond?!?! All I want is for them to leave me alone and to forget.

 

[Renee750il]

You stand your ground! And warn your sister and brother to do the same. Your mother may, in time, reach a point where she HAS to open her eyes and see what has been done to her children. Remind her that SHE has an obligation to YOU. A mother dog would defend her pups to the death . . .

I'm glad you're going at least once a week. If the counselor is good, there may come a time when you will want to go more than once a week for awhile. Always, always remember that a good counselor can't help you if you're not 100% honest about everything. Understand?

Have a HUGE ((((HUG)))) and pass one on to your sister and brother as well.

 

[EliNHunter]

Wow, BB. Where have I been? I didn't know all this was going on. I'm so sorry! You sound like a very strong individual. Keep strong and stand your ground! You "mother" sounds very controlling and manipulative. I'm sure she's being abused to and has that battered housewives syndrome and will "stand by her man" (puke). You are better than that. You deserve better and will find it. You ARE finding it! God bless your friend's family who has taken you and your wonderful dogs in. Best wishes and keep us posted...

 

[CreatureTeacher]

I'm so proud of you, BB.

I went through a very similar situation with my father, who was an abusive alcoholic. He was also about 6'5" and 250 lbs, so he commanded at least some physical note. My wonderful mother was so emotionally beaten down by him that all she could do was to stay with us and protect us. My brother, sister, and I all have that nasty Scottish pride and more smarts than we knew what to do with that would get us in trouble often. But as soon as the big bad guy left we realized how much we all meant to each other. And we discovered that after 20 years of hell, my mother had just been a ghost of the strong, brilliant woman she blossomed into. My mother is my best friend now. And the animosity I hold toward my father has little to do with what was done to me and everything to do with what he did to her: he took my mom away from me for 10 years, and I had no idea who she was for all that time. It took his leaving--which, although it sounds strange, was absolutely terrifying at the time--for us to realize what a wonderful family we had. We also realized what it was we had been missing for so long.

So sometimes it just takes a change. It can seem horribly scary at the time, and you might wish you could take it back, but in the end you're moving toward a happier time. Just remember that we love you and your dogs love you, and really that's what's important.

 

[smkie]

In life u have to do what you have to do..and you did just that..what you had to do period. Now it is time for the rest of your life! Whatcha gonna do gurl? Time will take care of the rest..and counciling will help you in ways that you cannot imagine. Awesome..Good Gurl, Hugs and hugs..bark and wags..when bad has to stop, good starts to happen.

 

[Barb04]

I'm so glad to hear you're getting the help you need as well as you brother and sister. This is the first step to a better life for all 3 of you.

 

[Babyblue5290]

Thanks guys, I guess I'll feel better in time.
My brother isn't back from Canada yet, so he has no clue about all this. I already got most of his stuff, except his bed and dresser. I bet this will be a surprise.

 

[BigDog2191]

Good to hear, BB... all I can say is, good job.

And I wish you luck in the future.

 

[Sheba]

BB I missed you sooooo much!I am sooooo glad you are back!!!