I want a baby NOW!

[vanillasugar]

Gah. Please tell me I'm not the only one! My uterus is screaming at me lately.

I've always wanted kids. As long as I can remember I've wanted to be a mom, but recently it's been an active NEED to have a baby! My best friend just had a baby, a beautiful little boy who I spend a lot of time with. You'd think being around him would help satisfy my urges. No. Not even close. It's making it worse!

Every pregnant woman I see, every baby I see, every PICTURE of a baby I see is just killing me.

Matt and I are not in the place right now to have a child. I know this. Logically I know we need to wait until we're married and in a more stable place. But then my heart (and my uterus) try to convince my brain that an "accident" wouldn't be such a terrible thing right now. I've even figured out that if I "accidentally" got pregnant in the fall or winter of this year, Matt would be out of school by the time the baby arrived. We live in a two bedroom apartment, and I've started thinking, "Oh we could move into the office and have our bedroom as a nursery, and the crib could go here, etc. etc". This is CRAZY! SOMEBODY STOP ME!

Please guys, tell me some horrible pregnant/baby stories to calm me down!

 

[girlbuffalo1]

Stop! Babies take time, money and energy! Think of all the sacrifice! Think about how they could tell you they hate you when they are older or leave you in a nursing home to rot--they could be come convicts or hookers....there, better? LOL

 

[Zoom]

Have you READ the "Baby Story" thread???? I'm schedualing my spay after that!

 

[vanillasugar]

Zoom that's the crazy part! I watch baby story regularly. I don't fear the pain of labour, I WANT to experience it! I want to go through it ALL!

My best friend had perhaps the WORST labour experience imaginable (worst I've ever heard of) and it still didn't scare me off...

*shakes head at myself* Seriously... I've got to be crazy.

 

[Zoom]

Yes. You are officially nuts.

 

[bubbatd]

Yup !!! Best to wait ...... won't be long !!!!

 

[Jules]

Just think about how nice it is going to be when you get to the right place. When everything is fallen into place and you can concentrate on your pregnancy and your baby.

And until then- party and travel your heart out!

 

[HoundedByHounds]

Yes do. Enjoy it...it happens when it happens..
I personally don't believe there is ever a "right" time....meaning a time when it won't make you stressed out or anxious or a bit insane. But there are definitely "wrong times". It makes no sense I know...but that's because it's me saying it.

 

[zoe08]

I feel somewhat the same. But I know that it is important for us to get married and buy a house and I need a 4-door car and we need to have a decent savings before having a baby. I babysit my nephew 5 days a week and it does make me want one, however if you actually go to the store with them and see how much they have to spend on diapers, formula, etc...then you might think again.

 

[houndlove]

I'm a little miffed at myself that we waited so long to start trying. I waited until the exact right moment and as it turns out it has taken us quite a while to get pregnant (not there yet) and as the months tick by, I'm not getting any younger.

 

[vanillasugar]

Well when I was in high school I used to think I wanted to be married by 23, starting a family by 25 at the latest. It's not turning out that way (I'm not too far off yet, but we're looking more at 25 ish to be married, and even longer for kids) and it's driving me CRAZY!

 

[wcladymacbeth]

You're not alone... I get the baby urge sometimes too. Fight it. You can do it!! Be strong!!!

 

[darkchild16]

DOes this help. Beverly was up at 1:30 making a mess EVERYWHERE. I went to go change her dirty diaper thinking she was done since it had been 10 or so minutes. Well she wasnt she went 3 different times in a row and it reeked (goats milk) it got on my mattress cover since I hadnt made my bed already thank god. On my shorts and shirt. All over her changing pad. It was a disaster.

I didnt get to bed till after 2 with trying to get her to sleep and the mess cleaned up and she woke me up at 6.

 

[Dakotah]

I would love to have a baby to, but not now I'm only 17. For me I WANT to get married and move in with my SO more than anything. The baby thing for me, can wait.

And Breeze your story scared me, hahaha.

 

[girlbuffalo1]

how about

Hearing from the nurse that the delivery rooms sometimes smell like a barn from all the poop and excrament--oh and the possibility of tearing and the infection/blood/poop predicament that can get you in....
If that doesn't help---

Think about how you could get sick of a terminal sickness and your child or even adult child will cry and scream constantly wondering why the world isn't fair--and it then ruins thier life (no I don't have any experience with this at all..)

Think about puke and screaming.....

 

[Fran27]

Lol Breeze, I can't wait to share my horror stories too

Anyway, it took us 4 years to finally have a baby (crossing fingers it works out, too). So yeah, the whole 'you're young, it can wait' thing isn't always such a good advice.

I'll say, if you're in a ok situation with money, work etc, why not? but yeah, you might want to wait until Matt is done with school and has a job lined up first... won't be long

 

[darkchild16]

LOL Fran I bet you cant. I could ship her to you so you can get a few days practice in LMAO. I forgot the making the bottle at 2 a.m. for her and spilling it and having formula everywhere LOL.

Last night was so not fun! LOL but they are so worth it LOL.

 

[JennSLK]

Here is a reasuring thought. You are certifiably insane but I still love you

 

[sparks19]

Or how about the time I got up to give hannah her bottle and brought her into my bed (after hubby had gone to work) hoping she would go back to sleep because I was still tired and she threw up her entire bottle all over the bed and herself. I do not mean spit up... I mean threw up... projectile... an entire bottle.

So I had to go get her washed up and changed and then had to put her in her crib while I scrambled around trying to get the sheets in the laundry and trying to find another sheet somewhere in this God foresaken house to put on the bed lol. Needless to say... I didn't get to take that nap lol.

Or the day Hannah had a tummy bug and had really bad diarrhea. Her poor bum was so sore.... I was trying to keep as hydrated as possible... all while changing her diaper every few minutes because she pooped AGAIN. and it was liquid so it almost always seeped out of the diaper... which adds a whole new element of clean up.

 

[Gempress]

Most of my family and friends tend to have babies when they're older. My mom didn't have me until she was 28, and my cousins were all in their late 20s or early 30s before they started having children. A friend of ours is pregnant with her first, and she's 35. My husband just turned 30 and I'm going on 28, and we only recently started seriously considering parenthood. Maybe we'll have a baby in the next year or two.

What's the big hurry? You're not even 25---your biological clock isn't even near done yet. A baby throws a major monkey-wrench in your life, no matter how prepared you are. Wait until you're in a more stable situation. You don't need to deal with the stress of getting married, having a child and finding a good job all at the same time. My sister went through all that simultaneously (plus going to school), and the stress about drove her to a breakdown.

In the meantime, why don't you and your SO enjoy your own relationship?