No one did. And it's not stupid to have a wedding that makes you happy. I wont say it's smart to get sucked into our culture's obsession with Everything Wedding, though.
~snip~
So many people seem to take marriage for granted, and it makes me sad.
Agreed. On both points actually.
I would NEVER call anyone 'stupid' or 'silly' for having a big wedding, extravagant honeymoon, or the most HUGE engagement ring they could find/afford.
I watched my two sisters freak out over the perfect dress, perfect menu, perfect guest list, flowers, bride's maids, ring bearer, flower girl......CAKE.........lordy I could go on. It just seemed like such a waste to me. Waste of their time, their energy, their MONEY, their feelings - the negative feelings of course, LOL, guilt over asking this person to be that instead of another person
It all just seemed so hectic and pointless to me........BUT.....in the end, it made THEM happy (or so they said) and that is all that counts because I wasn't stressing or paying for any of it, ROFL
That said, I
TOO am of the mind that all this wedding culture stuff is for the birds, LOL I didn't put myself (or family) through a big wedding, big honeymoon, or any of those other things. They weren't important to
ME.
True enough that I adore my engagement ring and wedding band. It's not for the reasons you might think though
I adore them and wouldn't trade them for anything BECAUSE Kevin thought of me. He went and picked them out ALONE. He kept my style and taste in mind. He did a fantastic job.
To me that shows he KNOWS me............we have opposite tastes in nearly EVERYTHING. I know this is not the ring HE would want if he were the woman, LOL.........that speaks volumes to my heart
To repeat, my wedding set is NOT big or over costly........my solitaire is not even a carat
But it is ME and he saw that. When I look at my ring, I remember the time he took to find the right one, the love that went into it's purchase, and sometimes that gets me over whatever I am ticked at him for :rofl1: