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Yes they are Juicy, but ONLY IF they actually KNOW they are contributing to the breaking up of a home...........some are very innocent bystanders, just keep that in mind.

And what it REALLY comes down to is the person who MADE the commitment and breaks it, no matter what kind of commitment, is ultimately the one who is wrecking the home. :(

((((((((HUGS))))))))) if you need them dear.
 

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Yes they are Juicy, but ONLY IF they actually KNOW they are contributing to the breaking up of a home...........some are very innocent bystanders, just keep that in mind.

And what it REALLY comes down to is the person who MADE the commitment, no matter what kind of commitment, is ultimately the one who is wrecking the home. :(

((((((((HUGS))))))))) if you need them dear.
She knew this whole time, I've been battling with her for quite some time to just leave us be...now they're in an 'open relationship'....I know I deserve better, but it hurts no matter how much I try to put it off, because I cared about him so much, still do, but not this person that he's become, the old him....the one who cared about me once upon a time, its like where do those feelings go?

Thanks for the hugs.
 
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{{{{{{ Juicy }}}}} Hugs, vibes, and anything else you need right now sweetie.

Hate to say it, but she could not have done it without his cooperation. You DO deserve so, SO MUCH better.
 

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hugs, you deserve MUCH better! take it at face value.

and please do remember it takes 2 to tango,
yes she knew so shes definatly at fault...

but hes the one who took that commitment to you and CHOOSE to persue this woman.

Big hugs hun!
 

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If my guy cheats on me with some girl. I sure not angry at the girl
the girl wasn't the one who I loved and trusted.. shes just some chick.

HES THE ONE i'd be angry at. Hes the one I trusted and who promised to be with me and ONLY me.

It sucks :( such a horrible situation. but the blame needs to be placed on the right person.. HIM! shes just some little tramp. he has his own brain and will power, he could've just said "NO!"

sorry! you deserve better
 
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It's not her fault, it's his. Sure she's a bitch for not respecting you, but she didn't have any allegiance to you, HE DID. If homewreckers are terrible humans, then he's a step below that.
 

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It's not her fault, it's his. Sure she's a bitch for not respecting you, but she didn't have any allegiance to you, HE DID. If homewreckers are terrible humans, then he's a step below that.
here we go. what I was trying to say, but better.

she may be a homewrecker and a skank, but hes worse. He could've said NO, he was the one who you put faith in.
 

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What Fransheska and RtH said. SHE is a worthless bitch, but HE is the one who made the commitment and then turned his back on it.

You truly do deserve so very much better. Don't ever think, "If only I had ____" You brought an honest and loving and open heart to the situation. How could you have seen the snake in him? And how could you have made it not exist?

Now that you do see, PLEASE don't consider for a moment taking him back. That's a mistake so many generous and loving women make. No matter how repentant he seems, no matter how sweetly he begs, HE IS A SNAKE! You deserve a lover as honest and true as you are.
 

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Now that you do see, PLEASE don't consider for a moment taking him back. That's a mistake so many generous and loving women make. No matter how repentant he seems, no matter how sweetly he begs, HE IS A SNAKE! You deserve a lover as honest and true as you are.
This^^^

I agree that he is a snake and a shmuck. She may be a total fluz, but he knew exactly what he was doing so I would post all the blame on him.
 

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What Fransheska and RtH said. SHE is a worthless bitch, but HE is the one who made the commitment and then turned his back on it.

You truly do deserve so very much better. Don't ever think, "If only I had ____" You brought an honest and loving and open heart to the situation. How could you have seen the snake in him? And how could you have made it not exist?

Now that you do see, PLEASE don't consider for a moment taking him back. That's a mistake so many generous and loving women make. No matter how repentant he seems, no matter how sweetly he begs, HE IS A SNAKE! You deserve a lover as honest and true as you are.
Yeah he makes me feel horrid about the whole thing, as if I didn't 'stress him out so much about her'....we wouldn't even be in this position, like had I just 'brush it off'...everything would be OK. I didn't want us to break up, just work it out..he use to put an effort of not emotionally cheating, but then he started again, yet the next time he hid it (he use to tell me, and I felt like atleast I can trust him..and I felt she was the main one to blame, because SHE KNEW), so when I found out he was making an effort again, but I wanted to make sure it wouldn't happen again, so I wrote to her so she can just back off...and then the blame gets put on me that I shouldn't of done that...that I should of just had let it go.

But now they're in a relationship I guess where they can not even be 100% commited, I guess they do deserve each other....I dunno I just miss the guy who was so commited in the beginning, but I guess it was all empty promises, which I see when I got the phone back from him (which I paid for to get up on his feet while he didn't have a job), he's making the same promises to her. Just seems unfair, I did all the hard-work to help him get a job and gave him my all, and she's just gonna reap all the benefits of the future he promised WE would have....I was there during the bad, I should be the one there during the good times too, now that he finally has a job. Most importantly he use to care about me, and my feelings, where does that all go after all this time? Just asking myself a lot of questions...how could he move on so fast and how could we forget what we had was special and everything I done for him? I try and clear my mind, but the questions pop up every now and then. :(

Thanks for the hugs everyone..still hurts now, I know in time I will feel better, I am feeling a little better...the constant hurt of him always talking to her is gone, now its just that hurt of him being gone out of my life. I know I shouldn't care about a guy like that, but I just don't know, I just do..he use to care, and those memories just won't fade away :( The connection we shared and the good times/fun we did share.

Good thing now is I'm slowly learning to move on, before I just wasn't grasping the idea of the reality of it all and hoping we would one day get back together.
 
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>>>hugs<<<

You fell in love with someone, and their choice was to break their promises and change for the worse. Let yourself grieve. It is sad, but you deserve someone who will cherish you and keep their promises. I doubt your ex and other girl will live happily every after. They can't even commit to each other for one thing. Things will go to crap for them, and you won't have to be around to get caught up in it all. :)
 

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Thanks for the encouraging and comforting words everyone. Its NOT easy just being okay with it and saying I was better off, but I'm trying to stay hopeful and doing things to cheer me up, just kinda hard getting use to doing things that cheer me up without him.

Its weird too, I feel bad for everyone else, even though they're coping with things much better than I am...but everyone had so much hope for us, my mom, friends, his mom, and for all of it to just end like this....I even feel bad for Princess, she loved him, I know she probably doesn't even notice anything different and is just fine, I just miss the connection they had, she's not one to warm up with just anyone, especially men. Its kinda like with having kids and having their 'dad' in a sense just out the picture all of a sudden.
 

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oh sweety *hugs*

but try not to let it eat you up, and theres no way in hell that there going to have that happy ending you envisioned either. he sounds like my ex...
"well if you hadnt gotten upset, i wouldnt have *insert here*"

hes dirt and your prince charming is out there!
 

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But now they're in a relationship I guess where they can not even be 100% commited, I guess they do deserve each other....I dunno I just miss the guy who was so commited in the beginning, but I guess it was all empty promises, which I see when I got the phone back from him (which I paid for to get up on his feet while he didn't have a job), he's making the same promises to her. Just seems unfair, I did all the hard-work to help him get a job and gave him my all, and she's just gonna reap all the benefits of the future he promised WE would have....
Yup, they'll have each other. That's the hell they're making for themselves.

Good country music take on a similar situation:

Then what? Whatcha gonna do
When the new wears off and the old shines through?
And it ain't really love and it ain't really lust,
And you ain't anybody anybody's gonna trust...
 

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Sorry you're going through this... He's a dumb schmuck but she's a blithering idiot (he cheated on you, what the heck does she expect her future to be?) Anyway, they deserve each other. YOU deserve so much better. ((((hugs))))
 

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