Do you think it is possible for someone who was once abusive (mainly emotionally but a few times physically) to change. I know for a fact that my ex is sick. He has manic depression with agressive paranoid outbursts.
I left him because he went off his meds and refused to go back on, saying that I was trying to drug him (the paranioa).
Once I left he went through a life changing 2 months and went back onto medication and is in councelling.
A good mutual friend of ours had some bad news last night, her mother has been given a few weeks to live, and I saw him there.
We talked for hours after we left her house and I saw the man that I fell in love with again. He is that same sweet, loving and gentle man that I knew in the beggining.
So anyway, he asked me to marry him, crying and saying how he knows how he hurt me and that he wants me to forgive him (which I do by the way, did so long ago). I have told him I need at least 6 months to think about it.
At the same time I have strong feelings for the person I am seeing at the moment. The problem is that he is saying he can't be in a relationship with me right now and can't commit, but spends every weekend at my house and treats me like a goddess!
I am so torn, if I go back to my ex I would insist that we have councelling together and not live together until we are married, but at the same time I am wanting to have a future with the guy I am seeing now. Although he has made it clear he can't make any promises. I think he is saying that because then he will have a guilt free "out" when he has had enough of me!
Some advice PLEASE chazzers, this is a life altering decision on my plate here! And please don't say Lilly should decide for me, she loves them both!
I left him because he went off his meds and refused to go back on, saying that I was trying to drug him (the paranioa).
Once I left he went through a life changing 2 months and went back onto medication and is in councelling.
A good mutual friend of ours had some bad news last night, her mother has been given a few weeks to live, and I saw him there.
We talked for hours after we left her house and I saw the man that I fell in love with again. He is that same sweet, loving and gentle man that I knew in the beggining.
So anyway, he asked me to marry him, crying and saying how he knows how he hurt me and that he wants me to forgive him (which I do by the way, did so long ago). I have told him I need at least 6 months to think about it.
At the same time I have strong feelings for the person I am seeing at the moment. The problem is that he is saying he can't be in a relationship with me right now and can't commit, but spends every weekend at my house and treats me like a goddess!
I am so torn, if I go back to my ex I would insist that we have councelling together and not live together until we are married, but at the same time I am wanting to have a future with the guy I am seeing now. Although he has made it clear he can't make any promises. I think he is saying that because then he will have a guilt free "out" when he has had enough of me!
Some advice PLEASE chazzers, this is a life altering decision on my plate here! And please don't say Lilly should decide for me, she loves them both!