I am using fertility treatments. Maybe I shouldn't respond to this because I will take this personally, even though I shouldn't. (For the record, when I say
YOU it does not mean a specific person, just a general you.)
It is easy for people who have no interest in ever having children to say that they do not agree with treatments. It is easy for teenage girls to say they do not agree with it when they are far from the place in their lives when family planning is taking place. It is easy for mothers with their own biological children to say they do not agree. In short, it is so easy for
FERTILE women to look down on fertility treatments. And I say, lucky for you that you will never know what it is like.
As for genetic issues and fertility treatments, yes PCOS and endometriosis are genetically linked. I have thought long and hard about this. I can pass these traits on to my children, and yet here I am TTC. My husband and I are otherwise healthy. Is it fair that I risk this passing this on, no it isn't. I really hope that my girls (if I have girls) do not get these issues. And it will really hurt if they do. But how many women have children under optimal circumstances? Financially we are more than capable of providing for our children. We have great health. We have a loving and stable relationship to offer a family. We can say that we would not condone breeding practises of dogs where there are genetic issues, however we would not condone the breeding of dogs in homes that were not financially able to provide for them. So I ask, where do we draw the line?
One, there are the risks, such as multiple pregancies, low birth weight, and there is a small amount of evidence that the children may not be as healthy.
There are many forms of fertility treatments besides IVF. I am taking metformin for PCOS. I will be starting clomid in the next month if we are still TTC. Metformin, yes the same drug that is used for diabetics, is used to treat PCOS. It helps with getting hormone levels in check and once hormone levels are normal regualr menses and ovulation can occur. I am in no higher category of risk in having multiples, lower birth rate, etc. These drugs regualte my body making it normal. No different than if the metformin was working on a diabetic to make their sugar levels normal, in me it prevents insulin resistance and lowers certain levels of hormones. Making my reproductive hormones run at a normal level.
Now, clomid can run the risk of multiples. Clomid stimulates ovulation. A woman pregnant with multiples whether naturally or with the help of clomid run risks. Multiple pregancies are harder with risks of lower birth weights, etc. But this is a fact of multiples. Yes, IVF and several other procedures that are more invasive have higher risks of multiples. But if I personally have to resort to IVF I do want to have twins, because I will never put myself through this again.
Yes, there are millions of children that need to be adopted. So why should only those with fertiltiy problems be made to feel guilty about this. Why is this our burden? Are fertile couples exempt from having to worry about this problem that should be a world wide concern? Are fertile couples able to turn a blind eye because they can easily have their own children and not have to face how they will have a family? Yes, orphans around the world are a problem that the world has to embrace and find a resolution for. But let's not leave this problem to the infertile. My husband and I had decided long before our fertilty issues became a problem thatwe would like a biological child and one adopted. Now, I ask all the fertile men and women, will you adopt instead of adding to the over population of the world?
Now people keep using the excuse that fertilty treatments are so expensive as a reason that they are against them. What concern of this is yours??? You are not paying for my treatments. I am using my hard earned cash and savings. I am not asking for a hand out from you? I do not judge that perhaps you spent a little more on your nice car when you could have settled for an economy car that would have costs $10000 less. Or your home that really didn't need to be so big, or that vacation you took last year. Don't say that fertility treatments are wrong because they are expensive, don't buy them if you don't want them. But just because you think they are pricey, why should I not have the option. And FYI, IVF here in Nova Scotia is only $4950, way cheaper than the American prices I keep seeing being posted.
Fertility treatments are not a walk in the park. They are hard on the body both physically and emotionally. You do not wake up on day and decide out of the blue that you want to start treatment. It is a tough decision. It is a long road with many tough obstacles to over come. In the end, no child may ever come of it. Wanting to have a biological child is a primitive urge. Sure, some woman don't feel it, but others do.
To each their own I guess. We all have our own opinions, and we are entitled to them. What bothers me is that how does responsible fertility treatments even effect the general public? Why do people care if I chose to under go these procedures?