Omg!
I've been dating again for about a year. I'm doing school fulltime so I don't have tonnns of time to meet people so I've been going the online route. I had a profile on PlentyofFish, but I got tired of getting messages like "how r u?" and "i have a question...do you enjoy sex?"
I very, VERY grudgingly signed up for eHarmony, mostly due to peer pressure. I paid more than a HUNDRED bucks for a three month subscription. Within a day or two it was clear that a) people in my area don't want to pay to be on a dating site and b) those that do are trolls. There was truly not one appealing person in my area on that site at all.
I called eHarmony to cancel my subscription (they don't let you do it online). Just the email I sent asking how to go about canceling my subscription was full of "but don't quit now!" "you'll find a husband, I know it!" "check out this website where people talk about how happy they are because of us!" So when I called I knew there was going to be a big sell.
And, sure enough, when you say you want to cancel they act like you've eaten their kitten. "You want to...cancel?" "But....are you sure?" I don't have a problem standing my ground but I could definitely, definitely see how their tactics would work on people. She asked me why I wanted to cancel and wasn't satisfied when I said I just didn't find the site that helpful in my search. When I said more specifically that there aren't many people in my area she went onnnnn and on with statistics. "Did you know that 15,000 people join eHarmony every day!" Yes...and I bet .0005% of those people live on Vancouver Island. That helps me how?
Then I got the "you can change your settings to allow for a broader range of matches". Oh, you mean compromise my preferences, like dating someone who is a non-smoker, so that I get more matches? And then the freebies started. First they offered to extend my trial period to 2 weeks. Then they offered to add 2 free months onto my 3 month subscription. The whole time I would say "no" and she would just keep talking over me, telling me what a great idea it was to take more time to really get to know my matches. What matches?
Finally I was like "I WANT TO CANCEL MY ACCOUNT" and she got kind of pouty and agreed to cancel it. "But you're going to lose all the messages from your matches! And you won't have matches anymore! And one of them could be the one!" It's like I was trying to return a vacuum to the door-to-door salesperson. It also reminded me a bit of the folks in their Sunday best who stop by the house once in a while to ensure that we're on the path to God. They have an answer for everything and have ZERO interest in hearing what you are actually saying to them.
I've been dating again for about a year. I'm doing school fulltime so I don't have tonnns of time to meet people so I've been going the online route. I had a profile on PlentyofFish, but I got tired of getting messages like "how r u?" and "i have a question...do you enjoy sex?"
I very, VERY grudgingly signed up for eHarmony, mostly due to peer pressure. I paid more than a HUNDRED bucks for a three month subscription. Within a day or two it was clear that a) people in my area don't want to pay to be on a dating site and b) those that do are trolls. There was truly not one appealing person in my area on that site at all.
I called eHarmony to cancel my subscription (they don't let you do it online). Just the email I sent asking how to go about canceling my subscription was full of "but don't quit now!" "you'll find a husband, I know it!" "check out this website where people talk about how happy they are because of us!" So when I called I knew there was going to be a big sell.
And, sure enough, when you say you want to cancel they act like you've eaten their kitten. "You want to...cancel?" "But....are you sure?" I don't have a problem standing my ground but I could definitely, definitely see how their tactics would work on people. She asked me why I wanted to cancel and wasn't satisfied when I said I just didn't find the site that helpful in my search. When I said more specifically that there aren't many people in my area she went onnnnn and on with statistics. "Did you know that 15,000 people join eHarmony every day!" Yes...and I bet .0005% of those people live on Vancouver Island. That helps me how?
Then I got the "you can change your settings to allow for a broader range of matches". Oh, you mean compromise my preferences, like dating someone who is a non-smoker, so that I get more matches? And then the freebies started. First they offered to extend my trial period to 2 weeks. Then they offered to add 2 free months onto my 3 month subscription. The whole time I would say "no" and she would just keep talking over me, telling me what a great idea it was to take more time to really get to know my matches. What matches?
Finally I was like "I WANT TO CANCEL MY ACCOUNT" and she got kind of pouty and agreed to cancel it. "But you're going to lose all the messages from your matches! And you won't have matches anymore! And one of them could be the one!" It's like I was trying to return a vacuum to the door-to-door salesperson. It also reminded me a bit of the folks in their Sunday best who stop by the house once in a while to ensure that we're on the path to God. They have an answer for everything and have ZERO interest in hearing what you are actually saying to them.
